Feminism and the "Real Man"

I read an interesting quote from the director of this film. She said in an interview that the film presents a "contradiction" for her because, as she said... "I think of myself as a feminist, but I catch myself sometimes where I want a man to be a man... a man to be a real man".
Now, I understand her point as it pertains to the pivotal moment in this film. But I don't think it's a feeling that contradicts her feminism. I think of it as primal. In a situation like we see in this film...primal male/female human feelings reveal themselves. I think a woman can be 100% feminist and also sometimes want a man to fulfill the "role" of a protector. As a male, I feel the other side of the coin... I respect women as completely equal, independent and capable. I hate any kind of chauvinistic patriarchal behavior and I believe that kind of thinking is responsible for the most horrible aspects of our society. Regardless of that, if I'm with a woman in potentially dangerous situations...for instance, walking down dark sketchy streets at night... there is something primal in me that kicks in deeply and powerfully. The need to protect. I don't think this need contradicts my feelings about chauvinism or patriarchy. The fact is that I will put my own life in danger to protect a woman from danger and I think this fact exists outside of any ideas about equality in everyday life. I feel that it is something deeply ingrained in me and I couldn't change it if I tried. And when the director says she "catches" herself wanting a man to be "a real man", I don't think this goes against her feminism whatsoever. I would think that it's something deeply ingrained in her just like the other side is in me. A situation like the one in this film brings out these primal feelings in us. And in situations where there is the possibility of life-threatening developments...it's not sexist for a man to feel like protecting and it's not a betrayal of feminism for a woman to feel like being protected.
Agree/disagree? I know this is a pretty simple idea, nothing new under the sun. But it's something people don't seem to talk about very openly. It's a can of worms many would avoid opening in normal conversation. That's what I've found, at least. So, I'd like to hear from people of both sexes on this if anyone has some time.