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The story of my life! Any other "DUFF's" agree?


This movie hit the nail on the head. I was definitely the "Duff" in my group of friends in High School. I wasn't ugly or fat, but I was thicker and not gorgeous like my friends. I was also socially awkward and nervous around guys. I was constantly friend zoned and most of the time guys would only talk to me to either impress or get the inside scoop on my "hotter" friends.

Nice to see my struggles realized on the big screen!



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- Graduation Day Part 1

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I totally get this movie. I've always been the DUFF among my groups of friends; in high school, college and even now as a 30 year old woman. A few years ago, a guy who I kinda liked and who I thought was interested in me, took me on a "date" to the movies but then afterwards when we were having drinks at a bar, he kept asking me about one of my pretty friends. I was mortified. I couldn't believe it, but in true DUFF form, I was too embarrassed to call him out on it. He never asked me out again and I was told by my friend that he rang and texted her constantly to ask her out. She said no of course, but not for my sake though. She said that he was below her standards.

And so goes the story of my life.

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I always considered myself a DUFF in HS but I didn't have a big problem with it (but I'd be lying if I said I didn't have couple of teenage angst moments over it). Since I was a DUFF of the popular girls I got the chance to hang out with the most popular people in our school and was invited everywhere, I was actually having a time of my life. I never wanted to be hit on solely based on looks so being a DUFF meant that people usually hit on me if they liked me for me and I had no problem with that. I even ended up hooking up with one of the most popular senior in school.

At the end, labeas don't mean anything and they don't define you, also how people behave and dress plays a huge part in someone's attractiveness.

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It's funny because as an adult I completely sympathize with Bianca's situation, in a sense of "yeah, when you're an insecure teen that would really suck. Even as an adult it would suck". But I have to say, if I had seen this movie as a teenager I would have been completely jealous of her situation. My teenage self would have been like, "WTF are you even complaining about? You're still friends with the cool kids. You still get to go to parties and get chatted up by hot guys." I mean, I sure didn't have any of those things in HS.

But yea, I loved this movie and I'm 28! I thought it was hilarious and I actually connected with the characters, which I did not expect to. The love interest even had actual depth! That's more than I can say for the love interest in Mean Girls which seems to be considered the Holy Grail of these kinds of movies. The social media stuff was a little over the top and the bitchy girl was pretty stereotypical, but when is she not? It was a fun movie all around.

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I didn't face the DUFF situation in school or college. I was too busy with studies, internships to notice this but I started realizing that I am the DUFF recently (at 26).

A pretty (she was working as cabin crew in a big airline) friend of mine recently shifted to the city that I'm living. We would meet up frequently in pubs. I started noticing that guys would come to me, make small talk and then ask about her. The first couple of times, I felt weird and truth be told a little bad. But now I have gotten used to it.

Just last night we went dancing and a guy walked up to me and asked about my friend. I got so irritated that I told him to talk to her directly.

Since people generally go by looks I would be the DUFF max times. It's only if someone tries to connect with me, they would know that being DUFF is a relative thing but most people don't go that deep.

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Er... by thick, you mean you are fat, right? Presumably, BMI 25 and above.

I don't know. Such a OP comes off wrong when you use euphemisms as thick. I am fat and I own it, don't see why you don't.

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