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Jason and his 40th and his parents

posted 12 years ago by scootercandy
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What a big baby! I have always liked Jason but I feel he is wrong. If his parents wanted to be involved in his b-day celebration wouldn't they have said to Bethenny-hey, what are we doing for Jason's 40th?

[–] sivadj 12 years ago

or should she have suggested that to them? i don't know about this one. she should know how close he is too them but he bringing it up over and over like she said he did isn't right either..they both seem like they could be more sensitive to each other..

here go hell come

[–] lynnsrealm-1 12 years ago

Sorry.... but Bethenny was totally wrong for excluding Jason's parents in his 40th b'day celebration. Birthdays are family affairs. She didn't even consider their feelings. Let's show the parents some respect. They shouldn't have to ask.
Bethenny is totally blowing off Jason's parents.... not just with the b'day snub, but in every way. And it's disrespectful and insensitive. Remember when she locked the door and told the doorman to tell them that she was not home for 20 minutes, so she and Julie could have a glass of wine. Meanwhile the parents had Bryn out walking. It seems like Jason takes Bryn to visit his parents on the weekends and Bethenny stays home.
I'm so sick of Bethenny crying about her horrible childhood and that she's damaged. At what point does she plan to get over it and start the healing process? (That therapist is doing a crappy job.) She could start by learning family dynamics. We don't have out parents forever. So while we have them we should cherish the moments and create loving family memories. She doesn't have that from her own childhood. So she should strive to make Bryn's childhood more loving and stable.... especially with extended family. Just because Bethenny didn't have a bond with her parents and grandparents doesn't mean that she should deprive Bryn. She should be present when Bryn is with her grandparents. What message is it sending to Bryn when her mother doesn't want to interact with her grandparents? The way things are now, it's more like Jason and Bethenny are divorced and Jason is taking Bryn to see her grandparents for his shared custody weekends.... Which just may be the way this is going to turn out if Bethenny doesn't wake up.
I really don't see that marriage working for much longer because Bethenny is too stubborn and refuses to compromise.
I was always on Bethenny's side. But I am so over it now. It's getting difficult to watch her unstable behavior every week. I never thought I would ever say this.... but I think she would benefit from Jill's friendship. I think Jill would advise her on the importance of family. And I am not a fan of Jill at all. But she knows about family priorities. And let's face it, she's made her marriage work.

I wish these guys would stop jumping

[–] scootercandy 12 years ago

All I am saying is that if they wanted to do something for him, they could have mentioned it to her.

[–] Tazwoman 12 years ago

Ah, the backlash of success, happens every time...

[–] Stirchley 12 years ago

She should be present when Bryn is with her grandparents.

Bethenny has told us that Jason visits his parents with Bryn every month. Bethenny quite honestly said that was too much for her and maybe visits every 7 weeks or so? (We don't know how often she visits.) I lived in midtown Manhattan for ten years and there is no way in hell that I would have schlepped off to Pennsylvania every month. She doesn't mind Jason visiting so often so there's really no problem there.

With regard to the 40th birthday party, Bethenny is telling all and sundry about their argument. Jason said on the last episode he doesn't want to air their dirty laundry in public and we have not heard his version of the 40th birthday party events. In my opinion, therefore, we cannot judge them, having not heard from both parties.

Having said that, it seems both Bethenny and Jason had a meltdown regarding their respective 40th birthday parties!

[–] dancintoes01 12 years ago

i agree about not knowing both sides. While watching this episode i was thinking to myself "did i miss something?! did i miss this episode?.."

apparently, i never saw this argument in the episode and i am coming to the conclusion that it was not filmed/aired. How in the world can Bethany talk to us about their PRIVATE conversation? I understand it's a reality tv show.. but I find that the focus is more on Bethany herself/job/etc.. so telling the world about Jason being upset about HIS bday celebration is so silly and juvenile. In my opinion.

She keeps telling us, the viewers, that Jason keeps bringing it back up, but we NEVER see this. All we see is her complaining and being upset about it. She continues to say how Jason "isn't perfect" and has 2 different personalities, one for the public and one at home.. If I were Jason I would be really mad/upset at her for making me look like the bad guy.

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[–] lynnsrealm-1 12 years ago

LMAO gypsymobile... They name streets after you Bethenny O-N-E W-A-Y!!!

So True!!!

I wish these guys would stop jumping

[–] Essentialthings 12 years ago

"Birthdays are family affairs": who sets these rules? I don't think Bethenny is denying her daughter quality time with grandparents. They visit frequently. They need to focus on something other than Jason.

[–] RobbieCalifornia 12 years ago

Absolutely. While I sympathize with the Hoppys for the loss of their other son, I think Jason is trying too hard to make it up to them, and seriously, it may cost him his marriage. A trip to Pennsylvania every month is a bit too often, and anyway the Hoppys often seem to turn up in New York. They have to learn to deal with an empty nest like all the rest of us, it's not that bad!

[–] xenatikkanen-1 12 years ago

Once a month is too often? To see your parents? There are people who see their parents everyday. Bethenny can dump Bryn off to her nanny and go off everywhere but gosh forbid she let Bryn be with them. No she would rather her be with a near stranger than with blood relatives. Just because she had a crappy childhood is no reason to take that away from the healthy relationship Jason has with his parents. The only reason it is a schlep to PA is because she was the one who wanted to force him to move to CA. If they were in NY, PA is a hop skip and a jump away. Do you think he would have moved to CA on his own if it were not for her?

[–] lynnsrealm-1 12 years ago

I agree. Bethenny wants everything on her own terms. It's her way or the highway.
She's a control freak who doesn't know the meaning of compromise.

I wish these guys would stop jumping

[–] Redart27 10 years ago

Remember when she locked the door and told the doorman to tell them that she was not home for 20 minutes, so she and Julie could have a glass of wine. Meanwhile the parents had Bryn out walking

Yes - that was shockingly callous. I really lost respect for Bethenny after that. Not only was it selfish beyond belief not to open that door, but she knew she was being filmed too! She did not care even one, tiny bit for Jason's parents - not even for the sake of her own daughter.

[–] oogleygoogley 12 years ago

I wonder if this is a new trend?? I'm in the Northeast and turn 40 this year, so does my husband and many of our friends. I've been to five 40th birthday parties this year and not one has had the birthday gal or guy's parents. Two did some sort of golfing or whatever during the day. It reminded me of what people did for their bachelor/bachelorette parties. For all of these events the grandparents were babysitting and the immediatte family did something during the day at a separate time. The parties people's spouses have thrown have been at night, in the city, and at a restaurant. I've attended but have sort of found it a tad juvenile. Kind of like parents aren't invited because no one wants them to see the birthday person act like they're 18!
After the first one we went to I said to my husband "If you do this for me I will kill you". :-)

[–] kimkikikim 12 years ago

Yes, Kelly! Exactly.

I'm sick of Jason trying to make Bethenny the bad guy. She gets all his pals together for a birthday surprise and he just has to find something to nitpick about. If he wanted a party with his parents, he should have planned it. At the very least, he could have waited a few weeks to say something. He basically said "you tried, but you ruined my birthday".

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[–] TheAdlerian 12 years ago

Now you're "whining" like Jason.

Mission accomplished!!

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[–] kimkikikim 12 years ago

Try not to let it bother you, Kelly. I understand your desire for people to respect you just as another human being, so do I, but it seems that on the internet all bets are off. People always call you names when they don't agree with you. It's quite silly and sad.

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[–] lapblonde28 12 years ago

It wasn't a party was it? She sent Jason to a fancy country club to play golf and then they had a nice quiet dinner right? Why would she feel the need to include his parents in that? Maybe his parents aren't even interested in golf, maybe if the parents wanted to do somethng with their son on his birthday they should have called him and invited him out. If my husband takes me out to dinner for my birthday I would never in a million years expect him to call my parents and invite them.

I googled it. It said you fu¢king blow

[–] TheAdlerian 12 years ago

Morons exist.

Their existence crosses my line.

[–] lynnsrealm-1 12 years ago

There seem to be a lot of people here with family issues. That's sad.
I'm thankful that I was able to grow up with strong family bonds. I have memories that I will always treasure. I'm sorry that some others have not been so lucky.

I wish these guys would stop jumping

[–] kimkikikim 12 years ago

Lynn, you have been very blessed to have such strong family bonds. So many people do not have that sort of love. Consider yourself beyond lucky! And don't screw up the pattern when you have your own kids! =0)

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[–] lynnsrealm-1 12 years ago

Kim... I do have my own kids. And the family traditions continue. My kids see their grandparents almost everyday, just as I did. Aunts, uncles, cousins all get together often. Thurs night is family game night with friends often showing up as well.
And we're not unique. I have friends who have are just as close with their families.
I can't imagine depriving my kids of growing up without knowing their family... or keeping my husband away from his family. My mother-in-law is one of my best friends.
This is why I feel so bad for Jason as well as his parents. Bethenny doesn't know what she is missing out on... because it's something that she has never had. But that's no reason to refuse to accept change.

I wish these guys would stop jumping

[–] Essentialthings 12 years ago

Bethenny isn't keeping his family away from her daughter. They see her and visit. However, she doesn't have to be close to her inlaws just because some other people are that way.

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