MovieChat Forums > Bond of Silence (2010) Discussion > Forgiveness is one thing.

Forgiveness is one thing.

posted 13 years ago by AtheistRevolution
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But bonding,touring schools,etc with someone who killed a member of your family is pushing it.

Religion is regarded by the common people as true, by the wise as false, and by rulers as useful.

[–] gold167 13 years ago

I agree but some people can truly forgive wonder how the kids feelabout mom touring with the persons responsible for killing your father

[–] texasturkey 12 years ago

I think Kate is doing it for herself in her grief. People grieve differently and this is how she is able to stay sane. There was a similar story about a drug addict who assaulted a CHP and caused him so many debilitating injuries. He survived. But, is disabled. He met him in prison and they became friends. I don't think it is right either. But, some people can't live with anger and have to forgive. Others can live with anger and know it is all right not to forgive.

[–] squiffydoodle 12 years ago

You bring up an excellent point ~ her forgivness is helping her heal. Her wounds will never completely heal, but to have hatred in your heart is much more damaging to yourself and hurts no one but you

[–] eda-49 10 years ago

In researching the based on a true story aspect of this movie I found out that Katy Mcintosh actually married one of her lawyers in her husband’s case less than a year after his death and changed her name to Katy Hutchinson! While I know everyone grieves in their own way, but damn! Bob Mcintosh was killed on New Year’s eve 1997 and she marries her attorney and changes her name the following year in 1998! One of the taglines of the story was her 5 year ordeal seeking justice for her husband, the same husband and father of her children it took her less than a year to get-over when she married her attorney while working her case!!!

Forgiving her late husband’s killer is one thing, but taking him on tour around the country and describing him as becoming “like a family member” as one article quoted her as saying is well beyond the scope of forgiveness in my book! I’m not suggesting that the woman should have worn sackcloth for the next 15 years or hated the teen that killed her husband for the rest of her life, but to marry her lawyer while he’s trying her husband’s murder case and then to use her husband’s killer to endorse her agenda of selling books?!?! While many will commend her on principal a few of her choices are more than a little suspect in my opinion.

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[–] baruch1948 8 years ago

I think she would have been better advised to mount a civil suit against the parents of these feral teens who come from well-off families and who have been taught that they (as in the recent campus rape case) have some sort of immunity to having to face the consequences of their actions. I am not convinced that the concept of a civil society is something that is universally accepted in North
America, where cops and civilians alike are quick to pull guns and shoot people who annoy them as in the Zimmermann case. I do not believe that if it happened here in the UK, he would have many supporters or admirers for his his bravery in shooting an unarmed teenager. Had his victim been white, it would also have been handled in a much different way. After all it took a 100 years for segregation including state laws prohibiting mixed-race marriages to be ruled unconstitutional.

[–] Abbalish 8 years ago

Especially as the way he killed Bob was vicious, kicking him 3 or 4 times. If it had been a one off punch in the heat of the moment maybe I could get her forgiveness but what the boy did was brutal.