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Themes in the movie

posted 13 years ago by perky_jean
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"Honesty is more important than monogamy" is the big message in this movie. To each his own, but I don't understand this mentality: 'I don't care if he's screwing around, I'm the one with the ring'. Knowing your man is cheating & you're perfectly content with that--as long as he comes home to you at night--is ignorant as hell.

It's misguided to suggest that being open about your infidelities to the person you love makes the indiscretions any less wrong. I know that we are in a world that's slowly being more open to ideas but where do you draw the line? Do you abandon your values because it's the old way of thinking? That's something I wish the movie explored. It would've been better to end the movie as an open-ended question and let us think critically for a moment.

Ben says that love is when you stop judging and accept people for who they are. In reality, you need to love yourself enough to let go of the past and move on. You can preach acceptance and make excuses for your man but at the end of the day he's still doggin' you with someone else.

[–] gayspiritwarrior 13 years ago

Sounds like you dislike this movie because the people in it don't share your morality. You ask, "where do we draw the line?" The answer is that WE don't draw the line for each other. Each of us draws the line for her/himself. If two people are OK with an open relationship, let them be OK with it. There is no one-size-fits-all answer to morality, nor does there need to be.

"The value of an idea has nothing to do with the honesty of the man expressing it."--Oscar Wilde

[–] oddball_oddity-1 13 years ago

I think the problem is, Grey keeps stating it's just who he is. He never really tries to help Ben (or the audience) understand where he's coming from. It was a pretty sloppy representation of polyamory, and it especially didn't help that you never saw Ben's epiphany. It could have ended WAY better.

Still, for a shot-on-sh*teo gay flick, it was pretty decent.