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What I didn't like about this movie...


First off, I felt bad for Jeremy. Poor guy carried a torch for Paige for five years. That being said....I don't like the way the writers handled Paige and Jeremy's relationship. Paige wakes up from a coma and can't remember the last 5 years of her life. She can't even imagine what could've made her walk away from Jeremy and abandon her family. As far as she knows, she's engaged to Jeremy and she's in love with him. So why doesn't she ever seem too torn up to learn that she's married to another man? Yes, it's difficult for her, but if all she knows is her fiance and her family (none of whom have ever even met Leo) she shouldn't have been so willing to go stay with Leo. I would expect her to go through a phase where she pined over Jeremy and kept her distance from Leo. Instead, she seems to keep her distance from Jeremy even when it's obvious that he still has feelings for her.

Imagine you are very close to your family and you are engaged to a nice, successful guy who's crazy about you. You wake up tomorrow to discover that you don't speak to your family, you're married to a complete stranger who has never even met your family, and years of your life have been erased. Wouldn't you want to be around the man you know as your fiance? If I was Paige, Jeremy would be the first person I'd want to see. I certainly wouldn't be so willing to go and stay in a strange home with a man I don't know. It just doesn't add up for me.

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Well, in fact, that's just what happened. She did want to see Jeremy, and did, and threw herself at him. She did not want to stay in a strange home with a man she didn't knew, but only did so because he thought that was the way to get her to remember. The flaw in the movie is the way the parents and Jeremy were so happy to encourage her to forget about her life before the accident, for their own selfish reasons, and the way they all treated Leo like he was no better than a rapist and had no rights or say in the matter. No one gently encouraged her to try to ease back in to find herself, not even Leo.

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I felt bad for Jeremy. Poor guy carried a torch for Paige for five years
Really? exactly how does confessing to having not just one, but two 'rebound' relationships and being in what should have been considered a committed relationship at the time of their reunion qualify as carrying the proverbial torch for someone? In my book, the idea of carrying a torch means not doing anything else except carry the torch, as in no rebound relationships, no committed relationships, and no relationships at all. Jeremy wasn't pining over the loss of Paige nearly as much as lamenting the loss of an opportunity to get himself written into some rich father-in-law's will.
As far as she knows, she's engaged to Jeremy and she's in love with him. So why doesn't she ever seem too torn up to learn that she's married to another man?
Likely because of the amount of time that it takes between the time she wakes up, misidentifying the man in her hospital room not as her husband but as her doctor.... the time that it takes for her parents to come visit her, not even trying to pull the wool over her eyes about the fact that she is no longer affianced to that same Jeremy... and the time that she finally does reunite with Jeremy... all that time without even one visit from him... not in the hospital, not at her alleged husband's home, nowhere... in other words, she has been given a lot of clues that at least as far as the engagement to Jeremy had gone, the engagement to Jeremy had gone, and that there had to be a good reason for it, even if she couldn't remember what it was.
Imagine you are very close to your family and you are engaged to a nice, successful guy who's crazy about you. You wake up tomorrow to discover that you don't speak to your family, you're married to a complete stranger who has never even met your family, and years of your life have been erased. Wouldn't you want to be around the man you know as your fiance? If I was Paige, Jeremy would be the first person I'd want to see. I certainly wouldn't be so willing to go and stay in a strange home with a man I don't know. It just doesn't add up for me.
Yeah, that's the point at which I realized that this movie hadn't really been thought through all that very well. For me, however, it was the reaction Leo was having that made it so unpalatable to me: I mean, your wife wakes up from a coma, being obviously comforted by the presence of your parents in law, and not even remotely comforted by you, and you want to take her home with you in hopes that she'll come to her senses instead of going home with people who can obviously give her some of the comfort that someone you claim to love should deserve?

I can see the reason for not having her demand from the very moment she wakes up to see Jeremy... after all, the man she thinks is her doctor claims to be her husband... and if that's true, what is he going to think about you clammoring for the comfort of an ex-fiancé? and since the alleged ex-fiancé never visits while she's in the hospital like even the worst fiancé is so apt and prone to do, is a bit more evidence that maybe she really isn't affianced to Jeremy any more. So that part makes sense.

What doesn't make sense to me at all, is why Leo didn't do his damnedest to get Jeremy, and his parents in law, for that matter, to begin visiting Paige from the very moment that she woke up from the coma.



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