Many viewers get caught up in 'I don't like him' or 'he was a jerk', etc. but all that is irrelevant.
Of course it's irrelevant. The only important thing is the love. There was no love between them. I don't know if there had been any at any point, but there wasn't any love there anymore. What's marriage without love? A contract?
They were both lying. She was cheating and he was pretending their marriage meant anything to him when it really didn't. He had changed and he was in it only because she was a necessary accessory to his little life.
So that's what is relevant: their marriage existed only on paper.
If this was gender role reversal viewers would not have sympathy for HIM if he did the same actions to HER.
Absolutely not. But unlike you, I wouldn't be so quick to cast anyone in the part of the victim.
Whenever I see something like this I try and look at it from both sides, as i tried to do, but writers of this genre tend to make theses encounters from the woman's point of view and are to cowardly to write in what happens when the male gets hurt in the process.
You are guilty of what you're reproaching to others: you make a judgement based on gender when you should have examined *both* sides of the issue without projecting whatever personal feelings you have.
When did you see him suffering? he was only embarrassed. If he could have avoided the public humiliation, he wouldn't have cared one bit.
It had nothing to do with gender, btw. If the story was about a man falling in love with another man, and he was the one cheating on his wife, I would think the same I do now. You probably wouldn't though.
You hit the nail on the head, but the feminist and posters who see the affair and agree with it could never give what we both said the time of day.
And yet some of them took time to explain their point of view to you so maybe you shouldn't be too quick to judge them and throw around words like "feminists" (*gasp* what an insult!) as if you're right and they are automatically wrong because they disagree with you. And yes it's quite a typical male reaction to being contradicted.
For every lie I unlearn I learn something new - Ani Difranco
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