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Does it have to be a married woman?


Hi there:

I saw the trailer for this film and I thought, "Okay, cool." I actually saw Conn's other movie "Claire of the Moon" and thought it was decent. However, I am wondering, why does the story have to be about a married woman? I mean if it is a woman who is a pastor's daughter, sister or anything?

Frankly, I am sad to see so many of the LGBT romantic movies seem to have the plot "He/She was in a committed heterosexual marriage when they met someone..."

It would be nice if you could just be a straight (no pun intended) story of someone who met someone else and sparks flew and boom! they're dating. "Kissing Jessica Stein" was like that as was Alice Wu's "Saving Face."

I'm just saying...

Thanks.

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Yes it does considering this is a movie based on a true story.

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If I might add...that LGBT would do these films once in a while with some compassion towards the husband. They tend to cower and always make him a jerk of some kind cold/hard husband when in real life most of the time they are not. I have no problem in this movie other than she was cold to him after a long time time married. but then we see no more of what he went thru in order to make a love story seem to be perfect..I would assume this would be a very hard thing to do to someone after such a long time together even harder to tell them so i would like a filmed love story as this one ended but with a wife who really understands what he may be going thru it would still make a great love story. To me an even better one then the formula used in so many of these movies. They can come back as they did in this movie 6 months later to show he was ok and was happy for them....I am commenting on this because no one else seems to ask for more than this formula provides. But would like to see some film makers try to expand on this genre and not give us more predictable stuff of the same.

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Agenda ridden post much?

You've posted basically the same post in two threads on here. It's not a platform for your personal issues. It's to discuss movies.

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But like you said, those films are already out there, the no commitment, they just met and got together films. If they all played out as easily as that people would be upset that films didn't exist with more drama.

Also, a lot of gay people do go through the whole straight marriage ritual before coming to terms with their sexuality. So here is their chance to relate to being in a committed, heterosexual relationship and then realize they're in love with someone of the same sex. It happens.

While I would definitely like more happy, low drama, lesbian films, I really just want more lesbian films in general, so at least this is heading in the right direction.

I'd rather have this than films like Kissing Jessica Stein, (which don't get me wrong, I actually did like), where she ends up with the guy.

Wow, that turned into more of a rant than I intended. Sorry.

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@ weareinamess..You say....But like you said, those films are already out there, the no commitment, they just met and got together films. If they all played out as easily as that people would be upset that films didn't exist with more drama.
To which that does not address what I was trying to say, I have no problem with lesbians realizing they are in love with another woman, But It is almost always portrayed in a manner that Is just not by law of averages would not always end like these movies. For example, have you ever seen a woman fall for another woman but misses her husband and wants the male/female sexual relationship back. Of course this happens also. These movies seem to never have the woman simply say/imply she was just not into it as much as she thought she would be. This happens too. They usually have the woman get with the other woman and [at least the movies don't indicate it] can give less than a dam about the person she is hurting or show anything of him going through loosing someone after they lovers make love, other than she has found her groove. Most of the time it's ok but it can't always be that simple. It's like most of us don't like men and we have a film maker who understands us instead of giving all viewers a more realistic look at how it may truly play out. This is not a personal attack on these film but a true look at how they are almost always presented to appease a certain group.

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For example, have you ever seen a woman fall for another woman but misses her husband and wants the male/female sexual relationship back

That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever read. So it's all about sex to you? She falls in love with a woman but she needs penis so she goes back to her husband? You're an idiot. And man, are you 100% deluded lol. But keep telling yourself that, you'll feel better.

For every lie I unlearn I learn something new - Ani Difranco

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I feel your statement is really not saying anything about the post, but showing how much you hate the contents of whats in it.

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I agree! There are just TOO many movies with the ""He/She was in a committed heterosexual marriage when they met someone..."" theme.
I would like to see more LGBT films with characters who aren't based off of 'Chasing Amy', 'The Kids are Alright', etc. I get tired of that 'ol bull crap where the lesbians are already in a hetero relationship or want man gravey for babies, or HAVE to some how have dick involved because it's SO unbelievable that any woman could live without cock. Not ALL lesbians want to get knocked up to make babies or have been/are in hetero relationships. Just saying... there's nothing WRONG with any of that but it's such a tired song in LGBT movies.

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You do know that Chasing Amy and The Kids are all Right are actually despised by the LGBT community? they are considered insulting and a negative portrayal of lesbians.

I wouldn't mind less movies with cheating regardless of gender or orientation. But loads of straight movies have a married person fall for someone else, then why should gay movies not have the same? it's a generic movie plot that shouldn't be restricted to one orientation.

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And besides this based of Nicole Conn's ex who was married and had an affair with her.

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Exactly. It's based on something that really happened so it's not unrealistic.

I'd die for you. I love you. I love you so much it's killing me.

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Yes, because it illustrates how some in married lives , live a lie as this lady did.

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