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Why do lesbians only hang out with other lesbians?


This show makes it seem that way. And from experiences with gay men, I can say gay men kinda only hang out with gay men too. I guess to feel a part of a community?

Not saying there's anything wrong with it, but it seems like an exclusive club to me. As a straight person, I can say that, no, all my friends aren't straight.

Any lesbians to dispell or explain this to me?

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i'm not gay but they've mentioned a few times on the show that their particular lesbian community is considered small to them and the hang out areas are usually frequented by the same types of people. i'd assume it's similar to any minority really. similar interests, connectedness, friends, etc. probably the same reason people of a particular race/culture tend to have more friends of the same background.

then again the show makes them all seem very shallow and vain anyway. the fact that Romi had to be worried about her friends casting her out of the "lesbian circle" for dating a man is pitiful.


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I'm a lesbian. I have a mixed crowd. But I can relax and let down my guard when the crowd is strictly gay girls.

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Lesbo with a mixed crowd here. Gay and/or bisexual friends are just plain different than straight friends. Gay people act differently, interact differently, hell even speak differently. Absolutely not in any negative way at all, I'm not hating any orientation, but there is a difference. We all share the same struggle so it's easier to bond, whether that be sexually or just as friends, doesn't matter. Besides, gay's are usually super fun to hang out with so why not want to hang out with other awesome people? :)

"The only straight I am is straight up bitch."

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Mostly straight man here. This subject makes me sad because it reminds me of what happened between myself and T, who was bisexual but preferred women. It was two years ago...but it still hurts to think of it. We were friends for two years, and then I stupidly discussed my nuanced feelings for her with a female third party, J, who also was attracted to her...and J chose to destroy our friendship by taking my words out of context and making it sound as if I was only friends with T in a secret attempt to sleep with her. I did have feelings...but my intentions were platonic. My life couldn't support a girlfriend, then or now, for various practical reasons, not to mention the emotional ones, and while I would have loved to be with T romantically, I was just looking for her platonic friendship. I certainly never flirted with her. I was really not trying to deceive her in any way. I don't understand why she chose to listen to someone who only knew me for less than 24 hours, when T knew me for 2 years. I told things to T that I have not mentioned to another friend whom I've known since we were both 13. I trusted her, I treasured our friendship, I never meant to push or coerce or deceive her into taking it beyond platonic friendship. Well I'm starting to feel sad again so I should stop talking about it.

But...I met T...because I was trying to set up a meetup.com group where people could meet and watch TLW. I never got a venue for it; I offered people to come to my place, but I lived in Morgan Hill, CA at the time and that was far to ask people to drive just to watch a show. So I went to every gay bar in Silicon Valley, trying to find a venue for this, and everybody either didn't have Showtime access or could not justify a booth for us to watch it, especially since I only had 4 people at the time, and I don't drink. Renting a room, such as at Fahrenheit Ultra Lounge, was a possibility, but expensive.

One of the women told me that "I thought this was a women's group" -- even though I was VERY open in the group description stating in capital letters I AM A MALE, but that all genders and sexual orientations were welcome -- and another said that she was "trying to justify in my mind" the notion of watching TLW with a man.

I guess experience already tells me the answer...but, would any of you be willing to watch TRLW with a mostly straight man?

--Brian

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If the guy watching it was interested in the show because of the characters and the story line, not just because it's a show with women having occasional sex, I wouldn't have a problem watching it with a straight guy. Maybe some people were weirded out because they couldn't tell if you (no offense) were being a creep at all. Again no offense, I'm not implying anything, that's just the first thing that popped in my head about why people were kind of sketch. Man I miss TLW!

"The only straight I am is straight up bitch."

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I'm a lesbian and i have a mixed group of friends, gay men lesbians heterosexuals transexuals.....

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