Quit freaking out that a ceremony is in a certain language when it's that specific culture or religion. When you go to a Greek Orthodox wedding and they speak in Greek, why do you act surprised? It's the GREEK Orthodox Church! Or when someone is Hispanic and the ceremony is in Spanish. What did you expect? I can understand the language barrier being an annoyance, but what gets my goat is even when there are brides who accomodate guests who they know don't understand the language, such as an English program describing the ceremony, the guests brides will still complain. Can't you find it interesting to be a part of a different culture's ceremony?
I feel that the bride, as a courtesy to those that aren't aware of the traditions of their cultures, should provide programs that explain the traditions and guide them along the way to where they will understand what is going on and not feel left out. I'm sorry, but sitting around for an hour listening to something they do not understand does not make for an interesting ceremony to some people.
The biggest irritation for me, however, is when they complain if a ceremony is longer than 20 or 30 minutes. God forbid you sit through a religious ceremony that takes an hour! Why not just sit and embrace a culture and religion that's different from your own? Why not enjoy being a part of a ceremony that you may not see again?
No offense, but I've turned down invitations to catholic weddings out of fear that they would be a full mass Catholic ceremonies. I've been to one that took longer than an hour and have been turning them down ever since. Celebrating someone's traditions is nice, it would be even better if the guests could participate. But sitting around listening to one hymn and reading after another is a beating.
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jabell
11 years ago
My daughter had a full Catholic wedding with a Mass, and it was beautiful. The idea is for the bride & groom's first act as a married couple to participate in worshipping God. I fully believe in it and am proud she was married in a church by a priest (a good friend of the groom's) with a full Mass. Their friends did the readings, the priest's parents brought up the gifts, and the soprano sang a gorgeous Ave Maria. It was truly beautiful.
Boo Hoo! Let me wipe away the tears with my PLASTIC hand!--Lindsey McDonald (Angel)
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missirlanda
10 years ago
Mine was also a full catholic mass wedding ceremony. In Mexico most of us are catholic,but I would be surprised if someone declines to go to my wedding because of not wanting to give 1 hour of their time to be with me the most important day of my life, very selfish IMO
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jabell
10 years ago
My daughters had full Catholic weddings with Masses, and they wouldn't have had it any other way. As missirianda said, it's the most important day of your life.
Boo Hoo! Let me wipe away the tears with my PLASTIC hand!--Lindsey McDonald (Angel)
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