Thank you for posting the link to your website SLUGmag. I've read your review a couple of times now and I can't decide whether I pity you or am angry with you.
How wonderful for you that "engagements, weddings, pregnancies, etc." are "the utmost clichéd moments in life". Given that these experiences are outstanding moments of joy in the lives of most people, you are truly blessed to be able to dismiss them so casually. Of course I understand that anyone is entitled to reject traditions or conventions that run counter to his/her desires but that doesn't mean that those traditions or conventions are worthless or pathetic.
You seem disappointed that none of the women was captured doing anything other that mundane household tasks. I'm surprised you feel this way. Didn't you see the bit where the woman in her sixties demonstrated how she had learned to drive a tractor? Surely that is an example of one of the subjects dipping her toe into the "scary man-world". There are other examples of the women doing something that widens their horizons a little e.g. learning to play the accordion. These achievements may seem insignificant to you but for those women they are symbols of a real lust for life.
I will grant you that the teenagers and twenty-somethings are a little tough to listen to but I think that represents a level of self-absorption not uncommon in people at that stage of their lives. Don't you think the contrast between the younger women and the mothers was interesting in the way it shed some light on the chamges motherhood can bring?
Overall your review demonstrates to me that you entirely missed the point of this film. His & Hers is preoccupied with the mundane and the everyday but it celebrates rather than sneers at these moments. The film is not about social revolutionaries or intellectuals or cosmopolitan aesthetes. I would be interested to see a film like that but I wouldn't feel it necessary to bemoan the absence of examples of mainstream living. Please watch the film again and see if you can experience some of the wisdom and profundity that I saw unfold before me.
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