The mentality towards seeing adoption as wrong - as "selfish" and "abandonment" is more prevalent in our culture than it used to be. The lower class population in particular holds this view. The decline in available newborns placed for adoption has dropped dramatically in the last 3 decades. It seems universally acceptable for infertile couples to adopt, but those infants have to come from somewhere! Storks don't drop 'em! But a young girl or an older woman is not given the same message of encouragement & sanction. The dogma of messages deterring choosing putting up a baby for adoption must change before more choose that route. It's initially a foreign concept to most females facing an unwanted pregnancy, almost an abstract concept that isn't likely to be followed through. Often times they're outright discouraged or pressured to keep their babies by family. Often they're encouraged & persuaded by crisis pregnancy centers to keep their babies, to go on public assistance. They're told they'll regret it for the rest of their lives if they "give their baby away", they're also told of horror stories of abuse (which by the way, are bull compared to the reality of happily well adjusted parents who have adopted). Too often even the biological fathers block the girl's wishes, even if they actually don't want to be a father themselves, the thought of her "giving away his child" is enough to cause the girls to second guess themselves & feed their uncertainty. Parents of girls in this situation also need to put aside their emotional attachment & think of their daughter's future, not focus on "losing a grandchild". It's a complicated scenario that isn't going to be fixed within a generation of our culture.
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