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Hayley

posted 9 years ago by Nita604
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I know she has a problem with being bipolar but, does having bipolar give you an excuse for disrespecting your parents? Telling your mother to stop talking and ordering her to get out of your room and throwing things at your father. I don't much about being bipolar, but do the parents just have to put up with that behavior because if they disciplining her would just make it worse? I know if it was me I wouldn't put up with her disrespect I think I would have to threaten her with being put out the house.

[–] GraceFromSoCal 9 years ago

I'm assuming you mean Haley, right? 

I don't know very much about being bipolar, but I don't think it--or ANYTHING--excuses disrespecting your parents. I understand that Haley was really struggling--just the loss of her best friend, her little brother, when she was only four years old was an off-the-charts trauma--but I believe she could've controlled herself if she wanted to, and/or if her parents demanded it. But they didn't. 

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[–] Nita604 9 years ago

"I don't know very much about being bipolar, but I don't think it--or ANYTHING--excuses disrespecting your parents."

That's how I feel too.

[–] GraceFromSoCal 9 years ago

It really bothers me the way parents these days allow various diagnoses, especially my pet peeve diagnosis-du-jour, ADD/ADHD, to excuse/justify bad behavior from their kids. There is such a thing as restraint, and knowing when it is/isn't appropriate to behave certain ways. But now, EVERY child has some diagnosis slapped on them, and next thing you know their bad behavior is explained away, "oh poor little Joey has ADHD!!"

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[–] kjackson106 9 years ago

I am bipolar. I was no more disrespectful to my parents as a teen than any other pretty good kid. And no, being bipolar doesn't get a person any free passes. It's good to be tolerant and patient with a bipolar individual to improve/correct such behavior with meds and counseling but not indefinitely.

[–] abbysalley 9 years ago

I, too, suffer from Bi-polar disorder. I have since I turned 18-OCD and Panic, too. It's a horrible way to live! To this day, I've NEVER acted the way Hayley acted-it wouldn't have even been a thought in my mind. Yes ... I have my bad moments; no one is perfect! But, being directly disrespectful is an excuse, not a right!

[–] mommyfrazzled 9 years ago

I saw this episode and was flabbergasted. Her attitude was worse than the hoard. I agree with all other statements her being Bipolar did not mean the parents could not discipline her. She would never have told me no or to leave her room. It was worse because there was a younger sister who could see it play out, what message would she get.

I was so puzzled on the fact that she stole to add to her hoard from things right in her own home. They had to lock everything up. When she drove off I was shocked because I just thought she was younger based on how she acted. I would be interested to see if she every went back to hoarded and if she still resides with her parents.

[–] irishm 8 years ago

She was horrible. Hers was one of the very few episodes I've ever turned off. It wasn't the hoard that disgusted me, it was her snotty entitled behavior. Although, to give discredit where it's due, her parents have been coddling her for a decade or more and this is what they ended up with. I don't know much about being bipolar, but I find it a bit hard to believe that she's been wallowing in this loss going "woe is me" for as long as she has and blaming all her problems on one incident that she can only barely remember.

The younger sister was a sweetie.

[–] MacRobin92 8 years ago

I didn't have much sympathy for her. The girl needed to be put in a special place.

[–] xsaraxam26 7 years ago

Her constant mumbling was driving me insane. She was acting like a whiny toddler.