and in it, the author says that a church official asked the people of the town to keep the family of one of the shooters in their thoughts and prayers. Apparently the whole town got up in arms about how they couldn't care less about the family after what their son did. I thought that was horribly sad and was pleased when I heard about this film. Maybe it will open some people's hearts.
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I agree. Parents shouldn't be vilified for the actions of their grown children, especially if they appear to have come from a healthy, loving family... They did their best.
shareMaggie - I think that's a great point. My heart goes out to any and all victims' loved ones, but that does not mean I still don't have compassion for the mass murderers' loved ones.
I think a lot of people are so angry at what happens when mass shootings occur (innocent people die) that they forget or deny that the shooter's loved ones (particularly his/her parents) are victims as well.
Anger and rage is an understandable emotion when mass shootings occur. I feel the same anger, sadness and rage. But we need to allow that anger to dissolve into compassion and empathy for everyone involved in tragedies like these.
I can not imagine losing my son in any way. It hurts just to think about it. But to lose him, knowing that he murdered innocent people before he took his own life, would be more than I could handle.
We view these mass shooters as monsters (understandably so). Their parents view them as the child they raised, cared for, bonded with and loved more than anything in the world. Just because I have empathy for the murderer's parents does not mean I don't have empathy for the victims' parents.
(This post is in no way directed towards any victim's loved ones. Only they, themselves, know what they are going through. I am speaking to us who are on the outside looking in.)
I'm an automatic steeple for depressed and lonely people. ~ Blue October
takes maturity to put ur blame only on that person who did the mistake
if he is old enuff to be responsible for his actions then why blame the parents?
kids react differently to how their parents treat them, some would be angry and negative and some would choose to be positive and move on
so in the end it is not the parents' fault coz everyone has the choice to do whatever they want and react however they want
"It is never about what happened, it is only how you look at it!"