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Sad to say, but she had it coming....

posted 10 years ago by imnottellingyou101
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Oh friends, I feel like such a bad person right now.

I confess....when I saw the gardening scene...the boyfriend starting to show his true colors and curse at her... I started to get excited. By the end when she was in tears calling herself a "victim" I was laughing hysterically. I thought to myself, "you shouldn't laugh, when there is another human being in pain like that". I felt bad, where was my sympathy? empathy? Anything?!

None. There was none. She had it coming. She was stupid and calloused and selfish and truly deserved everything she got.

To begin an "online affair" with some dude you meet on a VIDEO GAME. To disregard the fact that you are married with a home and a child. To engage in emotional adultery, simulated sex on screen with your own voice moaning and groaning. Then to make it a reality by meeting the guy and having actual sex in a sleazy motel room behind your husbands back. To make him catch you, rather than being honest. To expose your child to that nonsense (watching mommy cheat on daddy, daddy moving out, now mommys weird boyfriend is living here). To ALLOW yourself to become SO engaged in this make believe, online, world that you actually start living THRU the game....monumental a$$hattery.

I'm glad she got smacked in the face with reality. I'm glad for the husband who has to learn what his wife was doing and EXPLAIN to his friends and family what happened (the shame must've been epic). I'm glad for the daughter who is now damaged (and stuck with a fool for a mother forever). I'm glad for others who watched this documentary and saw it is a cautionary tale. I'm glad.

You are not a victim. You victimized your husband and child.
You ARE stupid. (And a disgusting cheater)
You got exactly what was coming to you.
Seek help.

[–] CountChoculitis 10 years ago

I couldn't stand her calling herself a victim, either.

Still, I felt bad for her. Cheating is wrong and it's not justified, I'm just trying to understand her perspective, which is kind of the point of this documentary. I mean, there must have been problems in her marriage in the first place for her to be drawn to a virtual world where she can fall in love with someone else. She selfishly threw herself into this fantasy and it became her escape. I think that the comment she made at one point, about her daughter now seeing her as a woman for the first time and not just as a mother, was pretty significant. I imagine that she probably felt like a mother, not a woman, for a long time. But in that game, she could be a woman. And the fact that she didn't need the game anymore once she was with the new guy goes to show that it wasn't so much about playing the game as it was getting out of that stifling situation.

Then, of course, he turned out to be a nightmare. And maybe that's karma and she deserved it. Especially since she refuses to take responsibility for her situation and calls herself the victim. But when she cries and says that he wasn't real, or something like that, that made me feel really sad for her.

"The guy we're meeting with can't even grow his own hair?!? COME ON!!!" -Gob

[–] Makarov-324 10 years ago

I agree I felt pity for her. She seemed to be looking for a fantasy boyfriend and that's sad to me. There's nothing the husband can really do to compete with that or fix the situation because real life can't beat a fantasy.

Its possible that there wasn't anything wrong with her marriage, necessarily, but that she just preferred the fantasy over a connection with real people. Or maybe there really were problems. Its hard to say because we don't get much information about the husband. But my guess is that she was experiencing the grass-is-greener thing that happens in relationships.

Its happened to me too in the past. Girl breaks up obviously for some other dude, later she's complaining about her new person. I guarantee she will pull the same thing on that guy. Luckily I hadn't invested much in that girl thank god.

The garden scene was just gut wrenching because you can sense them not being on the same page at all. I don't know what that was all about but you could totally see it in their expressions. A lack of connection.

Her statement about being a victim made it even sadder, because she may really believe that. I wonder where these people are today, if she just repeated her mistakes with some new online crush.

[–] ArtfulDodgah 10 years ago

I got satisfaction from it too. I thought there was something very "off" about her. She seemed very controlling and I'm sure he became aware of it and that's why he got out. The fact that she was bitching about how "aggressive" he was being on the garden seemed so odd because he wasn't. She said she was real, but she seemed very fake-nice to me.

[–] jquick99 10 years ago

They are on SL cuz they like like and want the fantasy. There is NO way them being together in reality will work out. Too bad they caused so much damage to others.

[–] Warmfire 10 years ago

Yeah, she was far from a victim. It just didn't work out, that's all. Of course, I wouldn't have disrupted my daughter's home life for a fantasy relationship that was never going to work, but that's me.

[–] CoachGilligan 10 years ago

Oh boy did she have it coming. I almost want to give her a pass on the "I am a victim" comment because as she said it was fresh at that point. She might have seen it a little more clearly a few weeks later. I hope she did because somebody who leaves their spouse for their online boy/girlfriend is no victim. They were both cheating. If they will cheat with you they will cheat on you. Even if it hadn't failed almost immediately it wasn't going to end well. And what the hell was she thinking moving this guy into a house with her 11 year old daughter? She doesn't really know him. She doesn't know what he's going to do. Christ how stupid.

IMDB: Mystified by apostrophes

[–] fliphop 9 years ago

I totally understand what you are saying, and I have had those same feelings...

However.

Something like 50% of married couples wind up in divorce, and a huge percentage of relationships also involve cheating.

So although its .... incredibly frustrating to watch her saying these things that dont make sense and act like nothings wrong on the screen...

.... there but for the grace of god go any of us, including a good number of people we meet every day in life.

[–] DarthBotto 8 years ago

The real victim is her daughter. She'll live with the trauma and bad parenting of what happened to her for years to come. Also, she will always be a face in a documentary showing true human degradation.

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