I liked this film but could not help but wonder when he goes on extended trips for his job will she start to spend a lot of face time with someone else. She had no issues with doing it before. Maybe someone else who does the same work.
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But I thought the movie made it clear that Wallace and Chantry had a lot more things in common than Chantry and Ben, in terms of the things they liked to do, their sense of humor. Not to mention that Wallace found a way to stay together with her and pursue a career. He didn't need to go to the best or most convenient med school, he did what he had to so she could grab a chance too. I think it shows that for Wallace and Chantry relationships worked better when couples are good friends and choose compromises that put families and friends before careers - they both had family histories where they felt that way about their relationship. So while no one can predict how things will turn out for any couple, I optimistically think that these two will try to not get into a situation where they are working in different cities for extended periods of time.
I think you missed my point, they started out as friends spending a lot of time together. If another friendship develops she could find herself back in the same boat. She has no boundaries between where the line is between friends and husband/boyfriend. She is who she is...friendly. This will not change in her, perhaps the next time she may be looking for a different type of friend, Or a different type of friends finds her, one in tune better with family values or a deeper commitment. Either way if she finds another guy and spends the amount time with him as she did with Wallace it could happen again. It has nothing to with her and Wallace accomplishments.
shareI thought she had plenty of boundaries between friend and boyfriend. She doesnt cheat on Ben. She tells Wallace how she stays in relationships because the death of her mother makes her feel like she doesn't want to lose people in her life. She does not come across as the flighty type who would change partners quickly at all.
She breaks up with Ben on the trip to Ireland without knowing that Wallace had followed her out there. On the trip you could visibly see her learn that Ben and she didn't share the same sense of humor, that he was doing quite well without her while she had been lonely without him, and that he was willing to go much longer with a long distance relationship. She broke up with him for all those reasons. And she didn't confess/realize her feelings for Wallace until much later - after the fight in the dinner, as she is emptying her fridge.
People in committed relationships don't spend a lot of time with friends of the opposite sex without their partner. That's how it was with W & C at the beginning too. She invited him to eat with her and Ben. They didn't spend time alone together until Ben left for Ireland. So I don't think all friendships are a threat to your significant other. I felt it was more that the long distance relationship did not work for Chantry rather than Wallace who disrupted her relationship with Ben. In that sense the movie was very realistic. Both characters had relationships that failed for reasons that happen to people all the time. But both learned something about themselves from those failures. For Wallace, he found someone who would not cheat on him like his previous gf had, and Chantry found someone who would put the relationship before his career unlike Ben.
Yes, she could break up with Wallace in the future - no one knows how things will go, but you have a better shot when your relationship is based on friendship and respect than just love at first sight. You are implying that just because one relationship does not work, other ones are doomed too. That only people who marry their first love will stay together for ever. That's just not true.
You wrote a very well thought out reply, and I do agree with most of it.
My point is if a women spends a lot of time with the opposite sex type of friendship then things can happen from either side with it turning into something more. This is what happened here. He wanted more than friendship with her. True, he was a better fit. Just as the next friendship can be. I am not trying to change how you saw the film but giving another take on her personality. She is friendly to the core and Wallace nor anyone else can change that.
We are on 2 different paths here, Yours being Wallace is the one, and mine being he won't be her last friend. I hope her next friendship stays at friends. Thanks for your positive outlook on the film.
i absolutely agree with this!
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