Ending (spoilers) - The F Word (2014) Discussion

[–] mfl134 10 years ago

I think it would have been better if they ended with the shot on the fools gold with the plane sounds in the background.

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[–] sandroalgra 10 years ago

Totally agree. It would've a more original and honest ending.

By the way (I hope I'm not nitpicking too much because I can't say I liked the film), there's something else that bothered me: she basically breaks up with her boyfriend because their relationship didn't work out when he was away for 6 months. She could've anticipated that since he told her he was willing to stay for her. She then leaves for 18 months and then she marries Wallace. There couldn't have been a lot of time between her return and the wedding, if you look at the age of the baby.We're not entirely sure what happened during that period but I can't imagine how that relationship could've worked better than her relationship with Ben.

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[–] michael-lake 10 years ago

Wallace went with her on the trip. They were together that whole time, Wallace completed his degree abroad while he traveled with Chantry, as revealed by the end credit sequence and a few quick lines of dialogue at the wedding. The whole meeting up at the airport thing was intentionally misleading and was just the two of them doing it for jokes. That's really the main difference between her relationship with Wallace and her relationship with Ben, Wallace wanted to ensure they were literally together the entire time they were together.

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[–] sandroalgra 10 years ago

Ok, I think I missed that. Thanks, it makes the movie a bit better for me. Although I would've preffered the other ending.

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[–] lamont-hard 10 years ago

I thought Ben was ok, She never really seemed to talk to him about what she wanted or what they were missing. If you spend a lot of time with a great guy you are bound to start having feelings for him. She should at least been honest a lot earlier than she was. I could not help but wonder when another great guy comes along will she start to spend time with him also. Especially if Wallace has to leave town for an extended period of time.

i wondered why no one else saw Ben's side.

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[–] CaroElisa 9 years ago

They just had a bland relationship. Sometimes people stay together out of habit. What she had with Wallace was a real connection, but I agree she could have handled the situation better from the start.

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[–] lamont-hard 9 years ago

You are making her out to be someone falling for the right guy. If this IS true then what was she doing with the other guy. I think she lacks boundaries. I say this for the sake of the new guy. She does not respect what a lover, boyfriend, relationship is to be about. She is a very social person so she will not stop with her current guy. Anyone she meets with a better view and interpretation of life events could surpass what she is currently dealing with.

If she never says to a guy she meets that I am in a relationship or I can't spend a lot of time with you as she did not do when with her former guy then she will stray again. It's only a matter of time unless she sets/forms some kind of barrier to stop this from happening in the future, which I doubt she even deep enough into her feelings to cares enough to figure it out. She needs bounderies as ANY RELATIONSHIP DOES. I had a afterthought on this film with her running into her former guy and they reconnecting because she never really made an effort to get to know the real person.....Just my twist on this film. I cannot think of the film off hand but I did she this scenario before.

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[–] Shimmer_Me_Timbers 8 years ago

You are making her out to be someone falling for the right guy. If this IS true then what was she doing with the other guy.

She says at one point (I think it's when she and Wallace are out at the bar) that she's never really the dumper... she has a bad habit of trying to make relationships work even after their expiration date.

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[–] IMDB_Vits 10 years ago

The best couples are the ones that are also best friends. And usually they have to start as friends in order for that to happen. Besides, like WALLACE told her "Just because I liked you from the start doesn't mean that our friendship wasn't real".

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[–] benman46 10 years ago

As this sadly predictable film is a fairytale, anything that happens is meaningless. As this film concerns men and women just being friends, it could be called When Harry(Potter) Met Sally.

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[–] sep-viney 9 years ago

Doesnt end well i mean she would move on from her relationshion with wallace if he had to move on for some time just like ben and in between she met another great guy...

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[–] darthsparhawk 9 years ago

No, for me it is a great idea that your beloved is also a great friend

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[–] IL_Maestro 9 years ago

Yep, but how many movies about being friends and staying friends?
how many movies where the lead characters are just friends till the end of the movie?
you can't be the lead if you are just a friend, there is even a movie titled Just Friends
so friendship is not an idea that could be considered as a happy ending, the only love that movies and audience believe in is boyfriend/girlfriend that ends in marriage or moving in together at least
that is why friends are just for wasting sometime until the person meets a love interest, people don't value friendship that much.

It is never about what happened, it is only how you look at it!

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[–] radfreed 9 years ago

You are missing the point of this movie altogether if you think it's about not valuing friendships. In fact it values friendship even higher as a complement to and prerequisite to romantic love. Most movies treat romantic love as a matter of physical chemistry without any other foundation. This one is saying that friendship is the lasting foundation of a relationship.

It goes into the details of why someone is the right person for you past the initial attraction. Of all the people you meet and are attracted to, who should you spend your life with? Is it the best provider, the high powered lawyer? Or is it the person who makes you laugh and is there for you? Should a relationship be hard work or should it be fun? Is there just one person for you and when do you move on from a relationship even when there are no villains?

Wallace is ready to walk away from the initial attraction - it is the friendship he finds difficult to give up. And it is the same for Chantry. She isn't willing to walk away from her boyfriend on the basis of physical attraction, it is the combination with friendship that makes things work for her and Wallace.

Most people viewed this as a 'can men and women just be friends' movie, which is about choosing between friends and lovers. It wasn't about that at all. Of course men and women can be friends. This movie was about how your lover should also be your friend because that is so important to a relationship.

(I feel kinda strongly about this because so many romances are presented as hate and bad treatment turning into love. Which I think is a very poor foundation for a relationship and almost encouraging of abusive behavior)

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[–] IL_Maestro 9 years ago

I am confused, didn't he throw her number after knowing that she had a bf in the first night they met?
and wasn't he constantly asking his friend for advice on how to work out things because he wasn't happy with just being a friend?
if he didn't want to give up the friendship which is true and he was happy being her friend which I doubt, why did he ask his friend on what to do and why did he fly to Dublin?
if it was okay for him he wouldn't seek a change, he wouldn't ask for an advice on what to do.
The friendship turned into love and both weren't comfortable staying friends, that is how I saw it.

It is never about what happened, it is only how you look at it!

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[–] lamont-hard 9 years ago

Good Points...But,...
If she never says to a guy she meets that I am in a relationship or I can't spend a lot of time with you as she did not do when with her former guy then she will stray again. It's only a matter of time unless she sets/forms some kind of barrier to stop this from happening in the future, which I doubt she even thinks deep enough into her feelings to figure it out. She needs bounderies as ANY RELATIONSHIP DOES FRIENDS OR SPOUSES.

I had a afterthought on this film with her running into her former guy and they reconnecting because she never really made an effort to get to know the real person.....Just my twist on this film. I cannot think of the film off hand but I did see this scenario before. Friendship and Marriage are different than just friendships alone. I think once these two are in a marriage of everyday life if the heart to heart is not a true commitment or physical attraction wanes friendship won't matter if she gets close to another guy that bends her ear.

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[–] CaroElisa 9 years ago

You are missing the point of this movie altogether if you think it's about not valuing friendships. In fact it values friendship even higher as a complement to and prerequisite to romantic love. Most movies treat romantic love as a matter of physical chemistry without any other foundation. This one is saying that friendship is the lasting foundation of a relationship.

It goes into the details of why someone is the right person for you past the initial attraction. Of all the people you meet and are attracted to, who should you spend your life with? Is it the best provider, the high powered lawyer? Or is it the person who makes you laugh and is there for you? Should a relationship be hard work or should it be fun? Is there just one person for you and when do you move on from a relationship even when there are no villains?

This is great insight on the movie! You speak exactly what I got from it too. :)

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[–] Heroforsale1959 8 years ago

Great write up about the movie radfreed!.

Si vis pacem, para bellum

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[–] mikeyflatley 7 years ago

I concur. Lame and cliched.

Watch Begin Again 4 better take and better lookin gurl

Werd 2 ur mudda, bruddafckka

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