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Why don't people just use condoms?

posted 12 years ago by Petit_Gateau
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Like seriously.
I just got done watching Lindsey's episode and she stated that she just "didn't think she would get pregnant". Um, as long as you're having sex, there's a great possibility that you'll get pregnant.

Then before that, I was watching Briana's episode and she was like, "We used condoms once or twice." Really. Why is it sooo hard to just slip on a condom? And then they try to make everyone feel sorry for them while they cry about how they can't go out and party with friends because they have babies. Makes no sense to me.

A ton of my friends REFUSE to use condoms as well. One of my besties got a ton of condoms for her birthday from somebody because she proudly states that she NEVER uses them. Wtf.

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[–] JennaLuvBug 12 years ago

Just plain stupidity, I really can't think of another excuse.

[–] ladybo454 12 years ago

There really are young girls out there who truly think they can't get pregnant because their periods are irregular, but what they fail to realize is sperm can live inside the female body for several days and even if you're not ovulating the day you have sex that doesn't mean an egg that's released 4-5 days later can't be fertilized with the sperm from your sex a few days prior.

That might be a concept that goes over all these 16&P girls' heads. I honestly think a frank discussion about conception needs to be had with all kids of puberty age (10 and up). By middle school they should all know that sex results in babies if you don't use condoms or take birth control religiously.

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[–] lynsey_poushay 12 years ago

The "why didn't they just use birth control" argument is so old and tiresome on these boards. And intellectually it is the equivalent to saying "You know, if you didn't get pregnant, you wouldn't be pregnant." Teen pregnancy is a social issue which has a much more complicated cause than "People are just stupid, guess there's no helping it."

I honestly believe a detailed, frank discussion about safe sexual intercourse should start just before puberty at school and be repeated yearly throughout. Some kids are starting to be active very young (basically when they hit puberty) and some people start when they are older, some not until college and beyond. If I start having sex at age 15, it helps me pretty much not at all if the only sex ed I am exposed to was at age 12 or will happen when I am 16.

Kids are not as dumb as their parents sometimes like to think and I in no way buy into the idea that discussing it with students "gives them ideas". They read, watch TV, listen to music, spend time with their peers, etc so believe me, they already have the ideas. Twilight the only book your tween daughter has ever voluntarily read? Yeah, sex ed will totally be what gives her ideas, not Bella spending several thousand pages of the series trying to get Edward into bed. Not knowing what exactly goes where is not stopping them and telling them in a clinical manner makes it seem less mysterious and interesting.

Also, before I say this I will mention that I was raised Catholic and am still a practicing Catholic but the amount of people on these shows that come from a religious background tells me pretty much all I ever suspected about "abstinence only" sex ed. It is a great idea to have a basis in (it was what I was taught) but you are fooling yourself if you think you don't need to provide the proper information for a plan B. Of course it would be ideal if your kid didn't have sex until marriage, but is it not preferable that in the event they don't take to that morality lesson it isn't statistically significantly more likely their relationships result in pregnancy or STIs?

[–] nmbv 12 years ago

She actually said she thought she *couldn't* get pregnant because they didn't use condoms once. I was in awe. She thought she had fertility problems because of one time? Most couples who are actively trying don't get pregnant off of just one time!

I didn't despise her like some of the others, but that whole "I thought I couldn't get pregnant because of one incident" thing really made me question if the pregnancy was an accident. Clearly, she was very aware of the risks of pregnancy if that was her first conclusion.

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[–] DespicableMeech 12 years ago

A ton of my friends REFUSE to use condoms as well. One of my besties got a ton of condoms for her birthday from somebody because she proudly states that she NEVER uses them. Wtf.

A ton of your friends are trying to get pregnant then. Just curious how old you and your friends are...

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[–] Petit_Gateau 12 years ago

Nope. Because these same friends who brag to me about not using condoms have stated with equal pride that if they get pregnant, they're getting abortions.

To just simply say that you'd "get an abortion" after getting pregnant is probably the most biggest understatement any girl could make. Saying it is one thing and doing it is another. I bet the second they do get pregnant, they'll suddenly fall in love with this child and NEVER abort it, which is the case with a TON of girls. I doubt they'll be any different. And having an abortion isn't just something you do like a haircut or buying shoes or something. Apparently it takes a huuuuge emotional toll on those girls who actually DO get one. Look at the sister in Briana's episode.

My point is, just avoid all that by using condoms.

And we're all 17.

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[–] VictimOfChanges1983 12 years ago

I can't believe what I'm reading. Are your friends not a afraid of STD's? Are these girls on an oral contraceptive that they make statements that they don't use condoms?

[–] TheCheetahPeach 10 years ago

Nope. Because these same friends who brag to me about not using condoms have stated with equal pride that if they get pregnant, they're getting abortions.

Do they wish to get an std?

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[–] tbsfan 12 years ago

Pregnancy isn't the worst thing that can result from unprotected sex...haven't these girls paid attention in sex Ed? Imagine a life of herpes, aids, ect.

[–] lapblonde28 12 years ago

I imagine this would be their response....
OMG, like really?!?! I would be like totally like, embarrassed to like, ask my boyfriend if he can like, put on a condom.

*smh*

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[–] mikesod 11 years ago

LOL, I'm 27 and never have I hated the word "like" than when having to hear these kids talk.

[–] tjorjab 10 years ago

Lmao

[–] yoshi_x 12 years ago

Some people are just stupid and that's really all that can be said about the situation. My friends are the same way, they never use condoms and don't make the effort to get on any other kind of BC. Their logic is that since they've been doing it for a very long time with no problems, it's going to stay that way. I even have a friend who begged her boyfriend to stop wearing condoms and she's afraid to go on the pill because of weight gain.

It's kind of embarrassing having friends like that, they aren't trying to get pregnant, they just think they are superwoman and wont get pregnant. Idiots.

[–] nmbv 12 years ago

I even have a friend who begged her boyfriend to stop wearing condoms

This baffles me. Why would anyone beg their partner to stop using the only form of contraception if it isn't an attempt to get pregnant?

The night is a very dark time for me.

[–] yoshi_x 12 years ago

Her excuse was that it feels better for her.

[–] nmbv 12 years ago

Seth Rogen's "dick skin condom" rant is going through my mind right now.

I'm not going to sit here and claim there is no difference as far as how a female feels a male condom, but that logic is just so unbelievably stupid. A slight difference in how it feels is WORTH IT. I hope her boyfriend ignores her begging.

It is your friend and you know her better than we do, but I honestly think someone who is trying to get rid of all forms of birth control under that logic is wanting to get pregnant, as irrational as a baby might be in her life at that point.

The night is a very dark time for me.

[–] yoshi_x 12 years ago

I promise she's not trying to get pregnant she's just so used to being able to get away with it her whole life, she truly doesn't think there is much of a chance of her getting pregnant. My other friends are the same way. Any time she'd complain to me about him refusing to take it off, I'd just sit there wishing she would stfu.

Personally, I can barely tell if a guy doesn't wear one and it's not like it feels so much better in the same way it would feel for a guy.

[–] nmbv 12 years ago

Well, I'd say she is trying, just not trying purposefully.. Know what I mean? Having unprotected sex is trying, just not in the same way a couple who is actually trying is.

I think the condom thing must just depend on the person. I could feel a difference. It wasn't enough of a difference for me to say no condoms (honestly, if condoms were my only form of contraception, nothing would be enough of a difference to stop), but I wasn't operating under a false sense of "I won't get pregnant" security.

The night is a very dark time for me.

[–] DethBeLL 12 years ago

These girls are dumb. Most of them are probly lieing and wanted to get pregnant. The guys are dumb to for nutting inside. All the "broken condoms" "he pulled out" lies are just BS. They probly wanted to get pregnant for attention or to keep the boyfriend. Then when their babies are born they relize the father is still gonna be the same dead beat cheater and that their friends have better things to do then spend time with them and their kids, and thats it not all peaches and gravy. If they really want to show how hard it is to be a teen mom they should show them tlaking about how their boobs sag and how they get stretch marks and stuff.

[–] briannaxbabyy 12 years ago

I used to wonder that too, but in all honestly it feels a lot better for both the girl & guy not to use them. Obviously you should use some form of protection though. There are countless options. At least get on the pill or something if you don't want to use condoms

[–] bells27 12 years ago

Hang on...give me a second to get myself to stop banging my head against my computer...

Ok, there we go. Obviously you should use "some form of protection" against pregnancy, but how about STDs. Are you willing to risk getting one of those just for a little bit of "feels better?" Ideally you should use more than one form of protection, and that should include a form of protection against STDs.

[–] fraggle40 9 years ago

DethBell, how do you know all the broken condoms are just BS? Do you know how many women fall pregnant due to failed birth control, especially split condoms? It's a lot!

They also do show the stretch marks, and exactly how difficult it can be having a baby. I have two children myself and can tell you, this show is very realistic, and it's putting my daughter off ever having children!

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