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Tacky Beyond Belief

posted 15 years ago by emmeline01
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What I find tacky is that this woman is 47 (someone told me that's her age) I caught the first episode in the middle. She could technically date a man 37 & still be considered a "cougar." The way that the "men" were behaving was totally immature and childish. I did't find the majority of the men I saw attractive. I don't understand why she'd go for a guy in his 20's when she could date a real grown up man in his 30's?

I do find the fact that she has fat upper arms a delight. I love to watch that fat jiggle. I guess if you're just looking for "fun" dating an older guy can certainly be that but I hardly believe she wants a true relationship with a man who 9 times out of 10 WILL want children one day & she's beyond that.

I also find her baby high voice annoying. Why can't they show a real grow up woman who behaves like a woman? I "caught" the show so I don't know when it comes on. I laughed out loud when she said she liked the "diversity" of the men. What sort of diversity is she talking about?

[–] holly-rock 15 years ago

No, this woman is 40.

My best friend, after 12 years of marriage, had her first child at 40, and her second at 42. My mother had me when she was 42.

These were all done the old-fashioned way--by "accident." Meaning unplanned (but still happily welcomed)

[–] Jennilyn98 15 years ago

"She could technically date a man 37 & still be considered a "cougar."

Could she? This particular woman is 40, not 47....but the point that I'm wondering about is: what exactly defines "Cougar"? People seem to have so many different definitions. Can you really "prey" on a 37-year-old man? I thought the idea was that the young men they go after are young and, therefore, inexperienced (to a point). By the age of 37, a woman in her 40s isn't going to seem like she has something to offer that women your own age (late 30s) do not (the way a 40-year-old woman may look to a 25-year-old man). Likewise, a 37-year-old man is not looked upon by a 47-year-old woman as "young". In other words, the gap of 10 years is not the same at that age as it is between a 37-year-old woman and a 27-year-old man. At 47 and 37, they're practically peers. If they're together, it's not about looking for youthfulness and all that that brings (maybe it's about better things!).

Basically, the "cougar" is looking for very young men. A man in his late 30s is most likely as established as he will be when he reaches his 40s (and probably looks the same as he will in his 40s). So how is he appealing to a 47-year-old "Cougar" looking for young meat?

Not every older woman with a younger man should be considered a "Cougar". That term, as far as I'm concerned, is only reserved for these crazy women who want someone very young, not just younger than they happen to be. Young. Period. If you're over 35, you're no longer prey for a cougar - you're just a man with a woman who happens to be older than you are.