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A question for women....

posted 9 years ago by motter25420-153-699254
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As I watched this film I got thinking of a woman I met in a bar one night, this was 7yrs ago now but for some reason I keep thinking about her. I did get her number but one of the people I was with borrowed my phone and then lost it somehow, so I never got a chance to call her.

Seeing this film I had a thought of trying to find her, but I'm just wondering is that crazy? If a guy did that in your life would you want to talk to him or would you think he's a creep?

[–] InfoBabe 9 years ago

I think this happens to everyone at one time or another. The reason it sticks in our head is that it was never fulfilled. With no closure or natural conclusion, it stays unresolved. Same with love affairs unfulfilled because of external reasons. It used to be called, holding a flame.

[–] motter25420-153-699254 9 years ago

Yeah, I know you are right, you hit it exactly, it's just that nagging "What if?", she will always be my perfect woman because we never got to find each others perfections/imperfections, part of me just feels bad that I never called her, it wasn't on purpose of course, but still I wonder did she think I just didn't like her?

I've heard friends of mine who were girls ask me that question "Why would a guy ask for your number and then not call you?", they seem like it really bugged them, so I feel bad I didn't, maybe I'm being silly, maybe she was dancing with another guy the next weekend and wouldn't even remember me if I ever did bump into her, just the not knowing is rough. Anyhow, thanks for the reply.

[–] catbookss 9 years ago

If a guy did that in your life would you want to talk to him or would you think he's a creep?

If I liked a guy enough to give him my number, I wouldn't think he's a creep, and would like to talk to him, even if it was 7 years later. I'd probably have wondered, like your friends, why he never called, so it'd be good to know what happened.

When I was in high school there was a guy I knew liked me a lot. I liked him too, but I had a boyfriend. When we graduated he wrote a long note in my yearbook. 5, 8 years later, after the boyfriend and I had broken up, I found my yearbook and reread what he'd written. It was thoughtful, intelligent, and sensitive, and I wished I had some way to contact him. I still think about him sometimes, and, like you, wonder "What if?" Too bad he has a common name so he's pretty much impossible to locate now; I tried.

So no, I don't think it's crazy. If you can find her, call.

[–] motter25420-153-699254 9 years ago

Thanks, it's good to hear other opinions. Finding her is likely going to be hard if I decide to. Other thing that makes me hesitate is thinking she's likely married or won't even remember me, I mean it might still be nice just to let her know, but trying to find her might cost me a lot of money, not sure I'm that nice :)

[–] catbookss 9 years ago

If she's married, she'd probably still appreciate your finding and telling her. Doubtful she wouldn't remember you if you remind her of the situation when you met. But if you find out it'll cost you a lot of money to locate her, no one would blame you for not being "that nice" :)

[–] champagne_kisses91 9 years ago

About five years ago I was in an unhealthy relationship with someone who didn't treat me very well. At the time, one of my college friends said she knew a guy who liked me. He was really good looking and very sweet. Nothing came of it, obviously, as I had a boyfriend.

A year or so later my boyfriend and I broke up and this guy started messaging me. He was very charming and genuinely lovely. We clicked so well and he paid me lots of compliments, which is something I'd never really had before. We both hinted at meeting up and going for a drink but I think we were both quite shy and it never happened.

A few months later I met someone else and we both stopped speaking. Even though I'm now in a happy relationship, I still think of him sometimes and wonder 'what if.' If I were single now and he suggested meeting up I'd go for it - I wouldn't think he was a creep at all.

[–] motter25420-153-699254 9 years ago

Thanks, I only knew her for a few hours tho that one time, you seem to have had more of a relationship with this guy, I don't know, I think in the end I'm not going to do it, I still hate to think she feels I didn't have fun with her, that bugs me, but as I said, maybe she flirts with a new guy every week. I appreciate the feedback tho.

[–] lizcarlo87 9 years ago

I don't know if you decided against it or not. It would not be creepy to me. If you want to go ahead and do it.

[–] motter25420-153-699254 9 years ago

Thank you. I think tho I have decided not to, if there was an easy way to find her I might, but it seems like it will be too difficult.

[–] Horse_Caulk 8 years ago

Absolutely! Don't be a typical wishy-washy male who bores women to tears. Get out there and take what you want!

Firstly, locate her. Then, assess the situation. Buy a car which is discrete, and which has tinted windows. Get a video recorder with excellent low-light capability, and high powered binoculars. Take photographs as well.

Assemble all of the footage and pictures into a multi-media display in a basement which has been converted for this purpose.

Then, bring her there. Don't ask, just get her there!

Imagine her surprise!!! She'll be overjoyed you remembered her, and that you went to such great lengths to impress her. As she gazes upon the wall of pictures and video, she'll know your dedication to her. She'll be yours in milliseconds. Or, as long as it takes, now that she's in her new home. Don't worry, she'll come around eventually.

We wish you great success!