What was Ben and Andrew's real motivation?
I think the movie is very well acted and the actors did a phenomenal job with the material they were given, but I feel that it lacks character development. Their motivation is simply never clear.
Having sex with someone is one thing. Making a porn film is completely devoid of romanticism or intimacy, and it is meant for somebody else to watch and enjoy. That said, the idea was so random and they agreed to do it almost immediately. Was it their love for art? Nothing indicated that either Andrew or Ben had any artistic inclinations at all.
So they could've called it an idea born out of drunken stupor and leave it at that, but they brought it up the next day when they got sober. It seemed that they were employing reverse psychology by trying to get each other to chicken out. So they did want something after all, but what was it? Sex? If that were the case, they never even discussed how they're going to do it or the things they want to do. All they know is that they can't be romantic with each other. The "Pretty Woman" reference serves as proof: no kissing.
Was the writer implying that they were secretly attracted to each other? That seems to be the suggesting with the many up-close shots that focus on Andrew and Ben's body language when they are near each other (e.g. playing basketball).
Did Andrew and Ben really have an unfulfilled relationship that dates back to their college days? Nothing says so. They've hardly seen each other in years; if they were such close friends, how come Ben never mentioned him to his wife and she barely remembers him from their wedding?
As for Andrew's issues with not finishing things after he starts them, what does Ben have to do with that? Apparently they planned a road trip that never happened, so why not doing it instead if they want to reconnect? So maybe Andrew's real regret is being attracted to Ben and not taking their relationship to another level when they had the chance.
Was Ben unhappy in his marriage? We know from the opening scene that this isn't the case. What's even weirder is that, once she finds out about their plans, neither Ben or his wife consider it "cheating"? She begrudgingly lets him off the hook because she felt guilty about kissing somebody else years ago. Kissing somebody while being drunk does not equate to having sex with somebody else in full sobriety, so how could she ever be okay with it?
Ben tells his wife that he needs to explore something that he doesn't really know what it is, so this hints at Ben corresponding Andrew's feelings. However, the writer shoots down this "mutual attraction" theory when Ben tells the story about the video store clerk and admits that he can't think of a man in a sexual way. Andrew then claims that he's never being attracted to any man.
Yes, it does bother me that "nothing" happens between them because they realize that there is no reason to do it, and they don't feel anything for each other. But why all the contradictory statements? More importantly, what wisdom did they gain from this realization? Ben probably goes back to living his "ordinary" life with his perfect wife, while Andrew stays single without changing his streak of not finishing what he starts. Did they grow from an experience that they really didn't have?
Maybe if they had decided to go for it, but chose to turn the camera off first. That would've been a more fitting ending.
intrepid/stupid