Does any one know why Bella looked like she was going to her execution than about to marry the man she loves? I am talking about right before when she is on her fathers arm. Please no bashing and be nice with your responses. Thanks.
Well, the issue isn't Edward. The issue is marriage itself . . . and the fact that Bella hates to be the center of attention.
Bella's parents split before she was old enough to walk. She's spent most of her life in a single parent household - raised by her mother in one, and then living with her father in one. Part of her is still watching her mother and Phil's marriage with suspicion because marriage, to her, is something that is doomed to failure. Marriage is the step that ends any relationship. Bella truly wants to be with Edward forever. The permanence of becoming a vampire to be with him forever doesn't bother her in the least, but she's afraid that marrying him will ruin the relationship. (Yeah, crazy, I know, but . . .)
Remember the very first scene at the beginning of Eclipse? How hard Edward was trying to convince Bella to accept his proposal and how she kept coming up with excuses? She was too young, she was afraid people would think they "had to" get married because she was pregnant, etc. Later on, she has that conversation with Charlie about whether or not he believes that there's any value in marriage. That's what she was getting at the whole time. She's not saying no to Edward. She's just afraid to get married.
And, at the wedding, she's fully aware that every single person will be watching her walk in and terrified that she'll do something embarrassing, like tripping over her own feet. ("Don't let me fall, Dad.") Bella absolutely hates to be the center of attention.
Of course, there's a moment, as she's coming down the aisle, when her eyes fall on Edward, and she realizes that this is the person that she loves, who is standing there, waiting for her because he wants to be with her forever. This marriage that she's been so afraid of is just a promise between the two of them that they will always belong to each other, no matter what. And in that moment, suddenly nothing else matters. All the people watching her fade away, and it's just the two of them . . . and she can't walk down that aisle fast enough to get to him and say "I do" and start her forever with him.
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Bella's parents split before she was old enough to walk.
That makes no sense. They would've split up anyway if their problems were that bad. Nobody breaks up specifically because they're married
Part of her is still watching her mother and Phil's marriage with suspicion because marriage, to her, is something that is doomed to failure.
So why date at all? Marriage is state recognized dating. If marriage is doomed to failure, then this applies to all romantic relationships across the board.
Bella truly wants to be with Edward forever.
People who want to be with the other person forever want to marry that person
She was too young
She apparently didn't think that she was too young to have sex with him since she tried to get into his pants. If you're old enough to have sex, you're old enough to get married.
she was afraid people would think they "had to" get married because she was pregnant
That's just silly. By that logic, nobody should marry anybody More to the point, most people who get married are not currently pregnant so they would have no reason to assume that anyway.
Bella absolutely hates to be the center of attention.
Not really. She loves the attention she gets when men fight over her, for instance. Otherwise, she wouldn't have led Jacob on; nor would she have made a huge fuss when he kissed her (which resulted from her leading him on in the first place), thus resulting in more attention for her.
Irrational phobias are just that: irrational. And lots of people seem to break up after they get married. The general theory is that once married, the couples no longer think that they need to 'work' at their relationship because somehow being married is the magic formula.
Plenty of people want to see people and be intimate without 'a piece of paper' defining their relationships. Shailene Woodley recently stated that she doesn't believe in monogamy. Jonny Depp was in a relationship with Vanessa Paradis for decades, yet they never married.
Marriage isn't a license to have sex. Young people have sex a lot more often than they get married. As for the 'pregnant' wedding; certain places are seriously judgmental about unmarried parents; particularly in the US' Bible belt. (There's a reason for the expression Shotgun wedding.)
"The Jedi are extinct! Their fire has gone out in the universe."
And lots of people seem to break up after they get married.
Lots of people break up before they get married as well. Are people who would've gotten divorced magically going to stay together just because their relationship isn't legally recognized? That's just silly.
The general theory is that once married, the couples no longer think that they need to 'work' at their relationship because somehow being married is the magic formula.
Nobody thinks that. Married people get divorced for the same reason that unmarried people break up-they simply no longer love each other. People fall in and out of love all the time.
Shailene Woodley recently stated that she doesn't believe in monogamy.
Relationships, by definition, are monogamous. What you are describing isn't a relationship-it's just people having sex.
Jonny Depp was in a relationship with Vanessa Paradis for decades, yet they never married.
See above; this is just a monogamous friends with benefits.
Marriage isn't a license to have sex.
Yes it is. Regardless of what people do, you are supposed to get married first. That's how it's always been, and nobody had even considered any differently until the 1970s.
Young people have sex a lot more often than they get married.
Again, that does not change the fact that you are supposed to get married first. If you're too young for marriage, you're too young to spread your legs.
As for the 'pregnant' wedding; certain places are seriously judgmental about unmarried parents; particularly in the US' Bible belt. (There's a reason for the expression Shotgun wedding.)
Right, but there was no reason to assume that Bella was pregnant, since most people are not during their weddings. By Bella's logic, nobody should get married because other people might assume that they're pregnant. Even if people did assume that, then wouldn't that make it a good thing that they're doing the responsible thing and making sure that the child will be legitimate?
If you've ever walked down the aisle about to marry the man you love more than anything you either have a huge smile or you are just in awe as how handsome he looks in the tux. I know I was kinda like Bella. My hubby paints and is always in whites covered in paint and when I saw him..... WOW!!!!
shareA lot of brides look nervous and scared. It's different for everyone, but for many it's a stressful day. What if they trip? What if the caterer is late? Damn, why is that crying baby in the front row? When my dad walked my sister down the aisle, he was just hoping he'd make it without falling, having a heart attack, whatever.
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shareNot to mention the beautiful stylish shoes on that clumsy, flat-shoe-fan bride.
shareI am sorry to say, but it looks like you have never been to a real wedding! Any bride is terrified, and Bella is the type of girl that still does not have much confidence in herself and in her own strengths, though she is getting hers, which is shown throughout the movie: from that moment in the wedding to the decision that she has to make to keep a destructive fetus in her belly, and do it alone, without Edward and Jacob, despite them "being there," is exactly what the producer wanted you to see, if you were able.
"Dying is what mortals do for a living." - Marco Avila
I don't know but my second wife sort of had that look as well. We just did the European version of a Las Vegas wedding- went to Denmark and got hitched (this is an actual thing- low fuss/few bureaucratic details). She was good right up the moment and then she looked like she might be sick.
We went to a bar afterwards and she drank like half a bottle of single malt whisky by herself in about five minutes.
We loved each other. But she didn't change her name to mine and I didn't want her to. She just really didn't like the institution of marriage I don't think.