The wife wasn't that bad

it was the morning after the wife wouldn't have sex with her hubby and so he went and molested the maid that she says "thank you". it felt like she knew what had happened and was thanking her for taking care of the hubby's needs.

also she was pretty snotty about asking the maid to go hand wash her underwear.

I sympathized with the wife; even though she was a spoiled housewife. I've seen women in her position, first hand, and it's a miserable life when your husband has children outside the marriage. The men are usually arrogant about conceiving the child as it's "their child", so you're always the outsider. Too, bad luck if the mistress is shameless and likes to throw the pregnancy or the kid in your face every chance she gets like my uncle's mistress did to my aunt. All you want is for the bitch and the kid to disappear. I watched my aunt suffer through the embarrassment and pain of her husband [shamelessly] conceiving a child outside the marriage and I don't judge any woman who takes desperate measures.

The wife was not bad, just because she was courteous to the underlings, except for the poison and almost killing with a golf club?

I would want her to thrash the husband, force him to apologize to the maid and wife, give alimony for his child and force him never to see the maid again. Then, she could be said to be not so bad.

Well her thank you was just once but overall she didn't think much of the housemaid. She actually had very low opinion of her. When the wife realized her husband cheated she was not just upset. She was upset and said "How can you do it with a person that washes MY underwear." A whole lot of class consciousness and nastiness. She also should have taken it out on the husband when the issue arose but she first chose to beat the housemaid taking advantage of her helplessness. And of course there is the secret poisoning. That's pretty brutal.

I didn't think the wife was horrible either. I do think that she was pushed, and brainwashed by the mother. She should have been bitter, and had a right to be bitter but her actions toward the maid, and the acts of vengeance were unwarranted. They both should have conspired against the husband together.

I do think the maid was 100% wrong. And what she did to the little girl at the end of the movie made her just as wrong in her eyes. She was kind to the child, knew the child had already been injured after the mom pushed her off the ladder, and yet, she chose to scar her emotionally, as revenge toward the parents. What did the little girl do to deserve it? the maid welcomed the husband's advances, and made it clear that she wanted him so she was no innocent party. The victim here was the wife, who then becomes the villain in the end. If you like this Korean movie, watch "Love in Between (Du yeoja on IMDB)", that one was a good movie, and had pretty much the same theme and is also set in Korea, but was much much better executed, and you end up rooting for the right people in the end, no matter who you root for.