I know if it was my daughter missing of any age and they werent doing all they should to find her, letting people cover for each other and such, I would be raising a fuss too. I would want to know what happened to my daughter, if she was safe, or worse....I would want to bring her home to where she is loved. the aruban police could have done more in the case, they failed that girl, that she still hasnt had anyone charged with her disappearance to this day. though whats new, seems like other countries police systems are corrupt all the way around, they dont want it to look badly on them when it comes to being put in the public eye, it back fired on them, because any mom wouldnt just go home with out knowing what happened to their child. I wouldnt let myself be pushed out so easily either. you just dont know what its like until you have children of your on. its just the truth. its different when you have your own kids to know how a mom would react, if you go home with out letting anyone know what happened to your daughter, to get her name out there, to try and find her, to get justice for whom harmed her, then I would have to look at you like what is wrong with you as a parent. We all know that 1 if not all of those boys had something to do with her disappearance and her death..after all this time she cant still be alive as much as I am sure we all would like her to be. If my daughter disappeared I would want to bring her home, I couldnt imagine the pain of finding my daughter is missing, the last time I saw her was before she left for someplace, then not knowing if she is alive, dead, not being able to bring her home and give her the proper burial, I wouldnt want to leave something of this magnitude left open ended. never knowing where she is at, not being able to have some place to go to visit, even if she isnt walking this earth anymore. we all may be tired of hearing her name, but this is the first time I have heard her name in a while, so have some respect for her mom and for natalee. this mom lost her daughter in a horrible way and a young girl lost her life, yes she shouldnt have gotten into the car with someone she didnt know, but we all make mistakes and this was hers. somtimes you just never think it will happen to you, I never thought when I got pregnant with my son 4 years ago that at 5 months I would have a miscarriage. sometimes you just never think of something like that happening, that you can still trust people, even when that isnt the case. instead of all of us judging her actions about getting into a car with someone we should be making people more aware that this is why we dont do things like this. plus her friends should have done more to get her out of that car, sticking together, making sure they had a backup plan and not straying from it. I am proud of her mom for turning her loss into a good thing, making it aware that if you go to another country to learn about it, dont go alone, make sure you have a back up plan involving people who arent going to be drunk.
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Not_Afraid_of_snakes_or_spiders
14 years ago
I live just minutes away from where Natalee lived. Any of you bashing her, have the sack to do it to my face! This is one of our own you're talking about. I can't stand Aruba. It's a piece of sh*t. May it's citizens rot in hell.
Those who refer to work as the highlight of their lives obviously don't have one.
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hunterofserenity-2
14 years ago
There is a difference between bashing and simply telling the truth. It is very sad that Natalee is likely dead and will likely never be found. But the fact still remains that if she hadn't gotten drunk, acted like a slut and got into the car with 3 complete strangers...MEN, she would still be alive today.
No one seems to want to mention that Natalee made some very poor choices that night, especially her mother. Beth Twitty should not be allowed to speak at schools giving advice to students about safe travel. She isn't willing to admit that Natalee would be alive today if she had acted like a lady, drank responsibly and stayed with her friends.
This is so irresponsible and arrogant of that bitch Beth.
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Arlith
13 years ago
Because people make the best choices while intoxicated... jesus, man.
"It's so simple a six year old could figure it out."
"Quick! Someone get a six year old!
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thinkerbell42
10 years ago
Wow, this is some of the most misogynistic BS I've read in a while.
Women are allowed to get drunk and have sex, you know. That doesn't mean that we deserve to be abused, assaulted or murdered. The fact that you are victim-blaming and slut-shaming a poor girl who's life ended way too soon is disgusting, particularly as you seem to cast no shadow of judgement upon the person or persons who actually killed her!
Also, what exactly does 'acting like a lady' mean? Acting in a way that society deems appropriate? Women are human beings, we are allowed to act on our feelings and make decisions, regardless how bad, on our own accord. I'm a woman and I refuse to act by society's rules, I live by my own. That doesn't mean that I deserve anyone to treat me wrongly.
I think your whole argument is despicable.
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Catnip86
10 years ago
You are still responsible for your own choices and behavior. If you choose to drink yourself into a stupor (even to the point where you do not know what you are doing/remember it the next day) you are responsible for what happens to you, nobody else.
So fine. You want to get stinking drunk, nobody is stopping you. But don't expect sympathy over what happens to you due to your own choices.
And I doubt anyone is saying the killer (IF he actually killed her) should get away with it. But the bottom line (whether you like the truth or not) is that if Natalee had NOT been in a complete stupor, she most likely would have made different decisions, and there would have been no need for this movie, board or discussion.
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thinkerbell42
10 years ago
Uh, yes, you are responsible for your OWN behaviour. The girl didn't murder herself, someone else did that to her. She isn't responsible for their actions. For that reason, her level of intoxication is completely irrelevant. Yes, it was irresponsible of her to drink that much and to get in a car with strangers - but had they been decent human beings they still wouldn't have harmed her, no matter how drunk she was.
Your argument is void because you're talking against yourself. You can't say someone is responsible for their own actions and then say "what happens to them" because there are too many external factors that play in - like the decisions of other people, who, as you said previously, are responsible for themselves. Therefore, the fault lies with them and lies with them alone.
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Catnip86
10 years ago
First, you do not get to decide whose arguments are "void" (any that disagree with yours, apparently) and whose are not (you and anyone agreeing with you).
No matter what, Natalee chose to drink and drink and drink and drink. She is responsible for that. Her decision to drink and drink and drink and drink is what got her into the position she got herself into. She is responsible for that. Her level of intoxication played a part in her decisions, so it is very relevant.
True, those in the car are responsible for the decisions they made that night. But Natalee is still responsible for every decision Natalee made that night.
But I know, a lot of people live by the "no personal responsibility" way of thinking these days.
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nmbv
14 years ago
Well, that's logical. Let's hate everyone from the country for the actions of a few.
OCD
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samuelroxie
14 years ago
Just curious...why weren't her friends around to stop her from getting in the car with complete strangers? What kind of friends wouldn't notice that she was not in her hotel room during the night? And what kind of parent would let their child go on a trip that had only 7 chaperones? Sure, most of the kids were probably 18, but aren't accustomed to having the legal drinking age of 18. There should have been more adults in place. I blame the freaking lot of them. Oh, and this business about boycotting Aruba...well, that didn't happen with me. I proudly went and represented my home state of Alabama.
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nmbv
14 years ago
Her friends definitely should not have let her go so easily, but it sounds like they were probably all in similar states of drunkenness.
As for why would parents let them go on a trip with 7 chaperones.. She was 18. It's not like she was a child, she was a legal adult, and it sounds like she was going to be heading to college with NO chaperones a few months later.
OCD
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