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This is why I hate the idea of a "break" (rant)


I don't understand why couples agree to go on a "break."

I'm sure people can argue about how it's reason for that person to go find themselves and see what they want in life, but I honestly think that is such bs.
Imo, it's basically an excuse to temporarily be single, go have flings/sex with other people, and then most likely get back together afterwards without any skeletons...

I have been in a serious relationship for 3 years and I feel like I would never accept my boyfriend suggesting that we go on a break. I just feel like you're either with me or you're not. No breaks. Just a break up. Simple as that.

It's so wrong that people will take a break, hook up with someone, and then get back together with that person as if that hookup meant nothing. Oh and it's not cheating since it was a break?? No way! It's so wrong to take a break from someone and then leave them wondering "do they still love me?" "do they still want to be with me?" "are we going to get back together?" "are they currently seeing someone else?"

Maybe I'm ignorant, but I just don't understand the logic behind it. If someone truly loves you, then they'll stay and fight for you no matter what. If a person needs space and time to figure out what they want in life, then that's perfectly fine. But it shouldn't be called a break. It should be a break up. I also think people should know, that you don't HAVE to be single to figure out what you want in life. If you do want to be single than fine, but it's not a necessity for life's answers.

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A break is just an excuse to "Let's see what's better out there and in case I can't find someone better you have to take me back" bullcrap

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Exactly. I'm glad I'm not the only one that sees this.

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I agree with you. I only ever had one partner want to take a break but it was very clear he really wanted a break up and thought a break would be a way to trick me into not realising it was really a break up. Either way, I said no to the break and that it would be a break up. It hurt but I wasn't falling for a "let's be on a break" scam. The relationship wasn't working out anyway but I definitely needed him to end it because I wouldn't have. I used to be pretty weak.

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Good, I'm glad you did that. Why can't people just be up front and honest, anymore? lol

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I totally agree. Rip it off like a band-aid!

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