Slightly offended, slightly intrigued- maybe some advice.
Well...first off, I am a black female, junior in college, and I've just viewed the movie (a recommendation from a friend of mine). Honestly, I can see where the opinions are coming from regarding the anger black women are notoriously known for, however this film made it seem that we ALL are screwed up and therefore responsible for the demolition of the black family.
I fail to see a movie that outwardly bashes ALL black men, like this does for black women. Sure, some BW have issues....but don't black men have issues too? In the movie, "James" was portrayed to be completely innocent with high morals, underdog qualities even and all the while Tonya is the shown to be the villian, she-devil, basically. I would have liked to see some balance in this portrayal, at least some "redemption" on her part.
Personally while watching this, I felt as if I were being called "evil" "ABW" and accused of all sorts of foolishness, while simply chillin in my room. I happen to know many classy, ambitious, God-fearing women who just desire the same qualities in a black man. Sadly, I know few black men who hold up to these standards even in the simpliest of ways. I am in NO way saying "good black men don't exist" but when looking at the statistics of deadbeat fathers, those on the DL, prisoners, abusers, cheaters, and thugs- AND seeing the miniority of decent black men with those of another race (particularly white), it does place a strain on the heart. I, and those I surround myself with aren't the purest of angels, but we attempt to treat everyone with respect...and admit our shortcomings when we're wrong. YES! exactly, a black woman can be humble and compassionate- even if the movie displayed otherwise.
Ultimately-> are the problems of black men really the fault of black women? Have we all fallen short of the glory of 'da brothahood?' No. I respect the views of the people interviewed and sometimes I question the basis of their conclusions, REGARDLESS, why can't we all just accept that every race, gender group has its own particular problems that contribute to the failure in today's "perfect american home"? Is that too hard to ask? The blame game has, always and forever will be downright ugly. So..IN THE NAME OF PEACE- just let it go (and that goes for brothas and sistahs alike).