How realistic is it?


So this show is about a successful, plucky, confident, and overweight woman. She doesn't seem to have a hard time saying successful, attractive men. How often do you see an overweight woman on a date with a successful and handsome man? I'm talking date, not someone who's married because people gain weight. What are your thoughts about this? Does confidence really guarantee an attractive, successful man, no matter your size? I get that some men don't mind overweight woman, but there's usually a particular kind of man that's attracted to overweight women, and they're generally not lawyers and doctors. Anyone who claims that some people just care about personality are kidding themselves because we are all attracted to people firstly by sight, you get to know someone later.
I like to think I have a great personality, but I also lack confidence and and am rather shy until you get to know me. I was obese all through high school, and since I was quiet I had very few friends. Consequently I never went on dates, and no guy ever asked me out. I lost the weight after high school and finally got asked on my first date when I was 22. So I would say that a persons physique is the number one factor in attraction, a great personality is just a bonus.
Would Jane really have the chance in the dating market that she does in the show? I just don't see the types of guys she's dated being attracted to her.

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I kind of disagree with you here. I think confidence grabs someone's attention right off the bat. I can't speak for men, but for me, I have been attracted to plenty of guys that were either overweight or just not conventionally good-looking. They exuded a certain charisma that was definitely attractive. Some people definitely just give off a vibe that is attractive and it has nothing to do with how they look.
I think it's kind of judgmental to say that attractive, successful men are shallow and only go for a tall, thin and gorgeous type.

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I agree with Kimberly's comment. Also, Grayson wasn't actually attracted to Jane physically. His type was Deb whose spirit was sent back in Jane's body. He eventually became attracted to who she was even though he didn't actually know she was Deb until near the end. He was always going out with women who looked similar to Deb. I do think her personality and confidence made her more endearing to other men.

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I didn't see a problem with doctors and lawyers being attracted to her. She was a successful, intelligent lawyer herself. I think it was more realistic when men who were closer to her size were interested. I know that sounds harsh, but that's how our society works.

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Dear Allison,

It doesn't matter! Drop Dead Diva is not there to be realistic or not, it's there to make you feel good and entertain you.

Yes, we are inclined to think too far and compare our lives to the ones in a tv show. But that is not the intended purpose of a tv show.

Of course there are storylines that relate to topical and true to real life.

But don't spoil the fun for yourself! :-) Just BE Jane and FEEL the success! At least when watching the show, and maybe in your (day)dreams.

We already have life as it is, why not change it in for the alternate life at Drop Dead Diva for the duration of a tv show episode?

I hope that helps,
Fernando

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There's so much more to attractiveness than the physical make-up of a person. The confidence one gives off, their intelligence and warmth, the glimpses into their personality and sense of humor, and how they reach out to others all play a role in charisma - that indefinable piece that makes people interesting and attractive. Charisma can make even a "plain Jane" into a belle. And anyone can learn how to work what they have so that it is more polished and pleasing. Jane/Deb did just that with the raw material that was Jane.

As for realism - this is the story of a woman whose soul enters another person's body within the same lifetime. I guess there is probably someone who finds that realistic. 😼😮😕

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