A few couples I know who were together for a long time grew apart..broke up but kept in touch...and a year or so later fell in love, got back together, and got married or still together.
How is it possible that years later you fall in love with them again? Anyone have stories???
My 12 year marriage fell apart through me taking things for granted and as we had two young kids we stayed friends and saw a lot of each other.We both had other relationships but nothing was quite right.After 4 years we realised the break had given us time to reflect on things and we remarried.We still drive each other mad at times but things are much better second time around .It can work!
share:) Nice story...hopefully I get one as nice as yours.
shareI fell in love with a man twice, but it didn't really last. The first time he left me, and the second time I decided it was best to cut my losses and end things before they got really ugly. In all honesty, a part of me never stopped loving him and always will. Being aware of that, when we started seeing each other the second time around - almost 20 years had passed - I knew I might be seeing him through rose-colored glasses, told him that we probably had this romanticized idea of each other and that we were both very different people now. I'll skip the really bad parts. Let's just say that when the give and take became more and more about my giving and his taking (after more than two years I'd never even been invited his place or to meet his teenage son) I told him it was time to end things. Maybe it was too much and too soon after his divorce, and I'm definitely not blameless. Anyway, we're still friends, talk pretty regularly and I do miss him sometimes, but you know that song, "Lover's Cross," by Jim Croce? That's how it is.
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awww i love your story :) it makes me very happy
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Ask my husband this question, and he'll say "No way!" His favorite t-shirt says, "Better to have loved and lost than to live with the psycho the rest of your life."
Oh, OK, I just asked him for real, and he said, "It's possible, just not for me, in this case." Not quite the answer I thought I would get from him, since he despises his ex-wife--thank heavens they had no children.
My answer is, "It depends." On the people involved, on the circumstances, on any number of things. I don't have to ponder the question for myself; my first husband died after we had been married for just over ten years.
"If you can't say anything nice, come sit by me!"
"How is it possible that years later you fall in love with them again?"
Because--I can tell you that REAL LOVE lasts forever, it NEVER dies, it can just go dormant-if that. The LOVE doesn't die just because someone dies or you divorce or break up. That is how you know--the love was real and true, because it never dies.
LOVE is not enough--there are so many factors that go into making a relationship work. Apparently, I still have love for my first love-High School Love- (we are still friends) and another man that I almost married (he & I are NOT friends).
My HS boyfriend and I always found our way back to each other for over 10 years but love & attraction are not enough. I am happy that he is now happy with a wife and children. I want him to be a good husband to her, with NO jealousy or desire to have him back.
I am VERY happily married to my husband and been with him for 22 years. He is not threatened by those that I have truly LOVED before. My husband and I have this bond and amazing attraction and deep love & like and compatibility & we think alike and it's all SO much MORE than just being IN-LOVE. ALL of those reasons make us right for each other and have gotten us through difficult times.
So, LOVE never dies, it goes dormant--unless re-awakened but not everyone we truly LOVE--should we end up with or be married to. :-)
for me no, but I came from an abusive relationship and if I saw my ex 50 years from now it would be TOO soon!
shareHow can it be fine again after so many things happened to each other?
I believe that once the house is broken there is no way it can be rebuilt!!
Alicia :-)
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Things change. And friends leave. Life doesn’t stop for anybody.
I know a couple who had been together since she was in the 8th grade (we was a year or two older) and after something like 18 years married, they separated and divorced. They later reconciled and remarried - they realized that the grass wasn't greener on the other side of the fence and that they were better togehter than apart. (When I say "I know a couple" that's what I mean - this didn't happen to me.)
"My name is Gladiator"
I've been married twice and divorced once. I'm now married to the man I married and divorced.
shareDepends on who you are, circumstances, beliefs, etc.
I believe in thair case it was super unrealistic. He cheated, broke up the family and apparently was doing the same to who once was the other woman. He wanted his cake and eat it too, and he did. I believe those type of men and women are selfish and never stop to think to do things right because they have their own agenda and selfish purposes. She fell for it because she was lonely and it felt familiar, but she started seeing the same patterns. And from what I got from the movie when they were talking towards the end, she had already realized ge didn't give a hoot about anything and thought it wasn't a completely bad thing, their affair.
I've seen couples married with children split, move on, have children with new people, then come back and marry obe another and become a whole new blended family. I think that's weird. Like a pp said, what about everything that has happened while they split? Seems to me they were bored with the routine, left, slept around, tried diff relationships and thought, meh, not for me, let's get back together. Its weird to me when kids are involded. Without kids, i think its more logical. People break up and make up all the time. Sometimes time away and different partners really might make them appreciate what they had at home and what they need and want.
Everyone sees what you appear to be, few experience what you really are.