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posted 13 years ago by Xanthic_Lemon
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Hate the lead character for what she did? She is the epitome of selfish. Maybe I'm standing up on a soapbox, but ruining your son's life and then your family's on the day of your son's funeral is just ... unbelievable. Plus, I really didn't think she was in love with Antonio; in lust maybe. Did anyone else have their heart break a little for her husband when he took the coat off her, realizing that his affection had been in vain?

I'm not exactly sure what this movie was trying to achieve. Is it a portrait of self-absorption? The power of lust? Did Emma (or Kitesh) really learn anything, or will she just allow her horny naivety to run her life?

On the subject of the family, it's unfortunate the only one that wasn't a total jerk died. The scene at the airport with the lesbian daughter publicly degrading her boyfriend who had bothered to pick her up and buy her flowers, and the other women thinking that this was okay was just so cruel.

Don't get me wrong, this movie is very good. Esthetically, I had three problems, though. I don't understand Tilda Swinton's physical appeal (call me shallow if you must), and going off to her lover in a track suit is just plain wrong. Plus, her mother in law's plastic surgery nightmare was very distracting.

[–] lesdroits 13 years ago

I had many of the same feelings. Surprised at how many on these boards talk as if Tilda is doing some glorious thing, at some super level of being, when I too think a) it is just a fling -- okay, could turn into love but we haven't seen anything to show yet it would or should or why it would -- and b) she doesn't care at a basic human level about the feelings of her family --even her husband, even if she really doesn't love him, she should at least have some concern for another human being at some basic level that she seems to lack. In fact, the very fact of how easily she fell into an affair with her son's friend, and how careless she was about it was just more selfishness, to me.

[–] zaragozana 11 years ago

Yes, this really troubled me. It seemed that the movie's title 'I am Love' was the opposite of what Emma was doing. I could see where she was coming from; in fact, the husband seemed rather cold to me. But her liberation came with a big dollop of self centredness. I think she was just acting completely instinctively - she could no longer keep up a charade, even though it was the day of her son's funeral.