I mean she was with her boyfriend for 4 years and she dumped him for a guy she met in 2 days and they spent half the film making fun of each other, and then she ended up marrying him after 2 frikin days.
I think it would make better sense even if she did have to dump her boyfriend as he was quite nice, a bit safe maybe but just go out with Declan but no marry him, just a reunion where they kiss.
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But then it wouldn't be cheesy, unrealistic hollywood escapism would it?
No matter how much people moan about types of films being predictable and corny etc. we all love it really! If we didn't love it, we wouldn't be bothering to even bring it up, let alone go on and on about how rubbish it was.
OP - she wasn't in love with him! Hell, he only proposed to her because of an apartment!
Also,she realized that there was a closeness and simply fun relationship missing with her old beau.
Finally, she didn't go to ireland at the end to marry him, she went to find out what could happen! Declan changed it around and proposed.
Quote (Val-El): "OP - she wasn't in love with him! Hell, he only proposed to her because of an apartment!"
Really? And that's why she was with him for FOUR years?
I mean, I know it's a rom-com and all, but this one is really over-the-top unrealistic. If Anna were a real romantic and Jeremy wasn't and she didn't like it, she would have realised it a long time ago and their relationship wouldn't have lasted for 4 years.
And he didn't propose to her ONLY because of the apartment. He himself said marriage was something they were moving towards anyway, and just thought it was the right time to do it. Some guys are like that, they might be not really thinking about marriage because they feel their relationship is rock solid anyway; they need a little push just to get their thoughts in that direction. I honestly didn't see anything wrong with Jeremy. He was a cardiologist, really cared about Anna, gave her expensive presents and all that. He would make a really good and reliable husband - not some Irish jerk who didn't have a dime.
Really? And that's why she was with him for FOUR years?
Are you still a teenager, Val-El? I thought so :)))
You know, good chemistry is very good and all, but it's far from being the first thing required for family life, raising kids together, etc. Besides, it's granted that after 4 years together, their chemistry is not the same as it was shortly after they met. Love changes shape over the years, and to survive a long term relationship, it has to be based on something more substantial than just sparkling chemistry.
Quote (Val-El): "And Declan had gobs"
Oh really? Like what? Barman? Driver? Handyman? Wow. Great jobs, leading to an impressive career, which would allow him to provide for the family, secure the children's future, etc. And I bet his earnings beat those of some measly cardiologist :))) Moreover: they must beat Anna's own earnings and can sustain the lifestyle she is used to. Remember the cost of those shoes that ended up covered in cow's poo? And btw: do you even know the cost of a Louis Vuitton suitcase?
Are you still a teenager, Val-El? I thought so :)))
It took all of ten seconds of seeing Declan for me to say to my OH, "She'll end up with him - if she has any sense."
Yes, good chemistry isn't the first thing for marriage, but it is important. It is not only physical, you know. And career and lot of money don't secure children's future IMO. I don't have LV suitcase and overrated expensive shoes, but my kids are happy, because they have mum and dad, who love each other.
(Sry, my English is awful, I know it.)
I thought the marriage thing was kinda pushing it but it went with the idea that they needed to let go and just jump and be happy. I would've been happy with them just trying the relationship out, they didn't have to get married.
And she SHOULD have definitely ended the relationship with Jeremy because they weren't in love. They cared for each other it seemed but she never seemed like she loved him. I think it was a relationship of convenience and also that kind of relationship where she said "Doctor. Check! Good looking. Check! Dependable. Check! Good taste. Check!" he was the good on paper guy. Hit every one of her attributes on her "perfect guy" list but wasn't the guy that her heart wanted.
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I don't have LV suitcase and overrated expensive shoes, but my kids are happy, because they have mum and dad, who love each other.
(Sry, my English is awful, I know it.)
OK, thanks, Val-El.
shareYou are just embarrassing yourself. Yeah, of course, $600 shoes and a Louis Vuitton suitcase are what life and love are all about.
And for crying out loud, you could have at least looked up the definition of the word "gobs" before responding! No, the other poster did not mean "jobs".
My karma ran over your dogma.
Anna was clearly better off with Declan rather than Jeremy. Declan nailed it early on when he said to Anna that if Jeremy wanted to marry her he would have asked. Instead Anna was trying to trap him using some bogus so-called Irish tradition. It was pretty clear that Jeremy was a jerk who didn't really love Anna. He asked her to marry him just so they could get an apartment and then follows up with the comment that they would have gone that path anyway, or something like that. This is hardly a very promising start to a life of marriage, more like marriage of convenience for Jeremy. IMO, any woman who goes into a marriage after such a low-level proposal deserves what she gets.
And I'm not sure that Anna really loved Jeremy anyway. Twice Declan asked her about her boyfriend and both times she ventured the fact that he was a cardiologist. This tells me she was more attracted to his status and income than his inner self. No comments about how tall he was, what he liked, hair colour, eye colour, what he did in his spare time etc, etc. Again, a poor start to a marriage.
Jeremy could have afforded expensive weekends away, nice gifts, Louis Viutton suitcases, $600 shoes but anyone who thinks these things are important needs to see a shrink. Jeremy would never have respected her or treated her like an equal. They may have been married for years but it wouldn't have been a happy marriage. My money would be on the marriage failing inside ten years.
Anna summed it up herself when she said that Jeremy gave her everything she wanted but nothing she needed.
When I said I wanted to be a comedian, they all laughed at me. Well, they're not laughing now!
Romcoms are indeed supposed to be predictable and have happy endings, but not like that! With a guy you've only known for three days just starting a relationship would have been happy enough, there was really no need to get married. In fact they made what would have been a passable romcom into a less than mediocre one with this ending.
My karma ran over your dogma.
she should have jumped
shareI was seriously thinking that, when she thought the guy didn't want to be with her and she was on the edge of the cliff, I seriously thought she was going to go all suicidal.
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Hahaha, same. I thought the film was about to take a VERY dark twist! Even when she didn't jump, I still thought something horrific was going to happen - who kisses a man THAT CLOSE TO A CLIFF EDGE?? I can imagine it now... one fatal step back, they both vanish over the edge of the cliff as the sun sets beautifully and then the two suspicious old men smile, nod and say "Ahh, it's good luck to die on a Sunday."
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Hahaha, same. I thought the film was about to take a VERY dark twist! Even when she didn't jump, I still thought something horrific was going to happen - who kisses a man THAT CLOSE TO A CLIFF EDGE?? I can imagine it now... one fatal step back, they both vanish over the edge of the cliff as the sun sets beautifully and then the two suspicious old men smile, nod and say "Ahh, it's good luck to die on a Sunday."
I thought it was pretty clear that Jeremy was one of those workaholics who definitely put his job before love. That's not right....:/ And if he married her and had children, he'd probably STILL do that.
Even though Declan acted like a jerk, verbally, he risked his neck to help her many many times. I don't like the 2 day thing but hey, it's a movie and a lot of stuff happened in those two days....
Hey, it's the "mori no otomodachi!!
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I like the movie, but i have got to comment on one of the post i read. It was that her boyfriend and her did not have much chemistry and Declan's chemistry was much better. I believe the poster said she did not love him. We don't know if she did or didn't. you can leave someone and still be in love with them. The one thing I notice about these movies is the romantic viewer is so willing to see the movie the way they want it to be verses what the movie really is. Of course her chemistry would be better with a new guy trying to get laid or simply looking to grab a woman trying to find a way to get out of the situation there in, or is confused about the person she is with. He will do, act and say anything to achieve this. Also from Declan's point of view you meet someone and within a three day period SHE is the love of your life and you ask her to marry you, his reason more than likely is physical attraction, so he may be asking her for the wrong reason, he knows very little about her but Is not willing to get to know her before he tries to bind her for life says a lot about him. It's kind of funny as i tried to explain this to my wife who always drags me to see these types of movies, she says i know what you are saying is probably true but I will see It the way i want to see It and leave my fantasy alone as she grabs the popcorn. so i have learned to leave her alone with my comments and let her have her romantic fantasies and go into my Declan mode and say what she wants to hear and act romantic as Declan did because I know I can get laid that night as he did.....LOL
shareYes, because Hollywood romance is always so realistic...
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I totally agree that the proposal at the end was rushed. It seemed out of character for both of them.
But to play devils advocate -
Jeremy was a guy who was stable, steady, and could provide for her. In short, he gave her everything her father never did. Even before meeting Jeremy, Anna had worked "two part time jobs after school" to provide for herself. Her family was not well off, and unstable at that.
I just took it that her father's irresponsible attitude irked her so much that it was long before Declan that she was running in the other direction, seeking security and stability, and by the time she was looking to be married, she had gotten totally wrapped up in her lists and making everything around her 'perfect' (i.e. the perfect apartment, her "cardiologist" boyfriend, staging apartments, etc).
So them being together, fine. But the hasty proposal? No. And the ending line, yuk. Even Amy Adams couldn't save that one.
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It was an unrealistic ending to be sure, but it is a staple of romantic comedies.
shareI liked the ending. Maybe I am biased but I met my husband almost 14 years ago and knew he was the one. Sure I was just starting college and didn't really know what the one was. But the chemistry was instant. We have been together for 14 years through school, graduate school, kids etc. We didn't immediately have everything together. It took us a long time to communicate and work a lot of things out (basically growing up) but I never wanted anyone else. Sometimes the chemistry is that good.
I also noticed that Declan knew the real Anna. It seemed like Jeremy didn't know the real Anna. I think it is Anna's fault. She seemed to try and be so agreeable and nice but she wasn't that agreeable and nice. The way Anna acted when Jeremy was not around, is at such odds as how she was around Jeremy. Declan got to see the real Anna and he still liked her. That mixed with great chemistry is the great start to a relationship.
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Great Post, I think you are right on this.
I also think that when they reached Dublin, both Anna and Declan knows the other one very well. And although they were bickering for most of the time, deep in their hearts, they do understand and repect each other deeply.
It is mutual respect and affection. IMO, that is the base of their love.
On topic, I do like the ending very much.
I loved the ending. It showed he didn't want to just play around. He loved her. My husband and I got married after 20 days. Going on out 26th year now. It happens!
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