Season three...'Summer Girls?' Really?

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Nothing is good for a laugh like watching the back and forth between a worn out old shoe and a clueless 20 something who are intellectually equal.
This thread was about the ridiculous behavior of the "summer girls", who were still acting as mean and immature as they were in high school. Not because they were having fun and enjoying life, but because they were still so insecure that they couldn't be nice to anyone who wasn't one of them...this is very sad on their part, and not approriate behavior for anyone, in their 30's or any other age.
Having fun and enjoying life means something different for everyone, and if someone is having a good time and happy, it doesn't matter what they are doing or how old they are, as long as they aren't doing it at the expense of someone else. The summer girls were being hurtful, critical of everyone else, and rude, just like they were in high school, shunning everyone and making fun behind their backs if they weren't like them. I can see why a woman in her 50's who crtisizes people who have kids and makes sweeping generalizations about who anyone else who isn't enjoying the same carefree lifestyle that they were 25 years ago would support this behavior. Guess who agreed with you? The woman in her 20's who has had about the same amount of life experience as you. She has seen studies and stuff about how having kids is stressful, but having one isn't "too bad"...wow. For some people, perhaps such as yourself fabslv, having one kid would be bad, and for someone who doesn't want to grow up and wishes to live a life fully committed to having fun whenever you want and not having to think about anyone else's needs, the choice to not have kids is a good one. But, you can't just admit that to yourself without being defensive, can you? You chose not to have kids, apparently, because some of the posts you have read on the internet have been written "brats", who for all you know could have been your age. Therefore, everyone else who chose to grow in a different direction is just stupid and doesn't know what they are missing. I don't doubt that if you had kids they would have turned into the same selfish brats you complain about. I'm 20 years younger than you and I can't beleive your rude, immature attitude towards everyone who isn't doing the same thing you are.
However, some people actually ENJOY dedicating their lives to caring for people that they love, and the love that they have for their children is so rewarding, it suprpasses any stress that might come along with it. Most things in life that are rewarding and have a big payoff are not stress-free. Does that mean no one should go to college or work either? Or maybe going for one year wouldn't be "too bad", but much longer than that and it's just a whole bunch of stress and it might affect your looks, who wants to deal with all that hassle?
My rambling point being, if you haven't done something, you really don't know what it's like, and while having fun is great, being free, yadda yadda...sometimes people do things with a higher purpose. I experienced the "doing whatever the hell I wanted and just having fun" phase back in my younger years and it wasn't something I needed to do for the rest of my life.
A person who is in their 50's and childless and has chosen to spend her life doing whatever she wants, does not have any buisness making sweeping statements about people who choose to do something different, and many people with children have very rewarding, fun lives and raise their children to be happy, caring people who are contributing members of society. Your comments about that show obvious insecurity on your part. I can see how the whole summer girl thing rubbed you the wrong way.
To that end, an immature person in their 20's, who has no kids and gets her info from studies in magazine articles or wherever you get them also has no buisness commenting on what's "bad" or "okay" for the greater good, although probably not having kids would be a wise move on your part as well. While some people have the maturity to care for and give selflessly even as a teenager, reading the back and forth between the two of you shows that some people don't have that maturity ever, whether it be in their 20's or 50's. Both of you, go back to having fun...do some jello shots or something and keep talking like you know everything. There are caring, less selfish people who can deal with molding the future generations. Obviously neither of you can see past your own noses. And yet you both think you have it all figured out. How hysterically pathetic.


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