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Homosexuality - A choice??

posted 15 years ago by DBre104574
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Oh dear - I was watching the DVD extra's on Dostana, and am really shocked to see that both John Abraham and Priyanka suggested that homosexuality is a choice??? Oh please, I am gay, and believe me it is not a choice, it is something I have to deal with. Do the actors believe that if it was a choice, most people would choose to be straight, given how the world is..We are denied children etc. of course we would choose to be straight. I'm surprised that the actors filming in Miami didn't meet any real life gay people. Also the clowning around with the two male actors in the interview, is really insulting to gay people...Please, please respect all types of people, straight or gay. Indian cinema is going through some major changes at the moment, so please lets have a serious attempt at a comedy without the sterotypes.

[–] hnatt 15 years ago

I never saw the interview, but in some ways as a gay person you should at least be happy that Bollywood is starting to touch the subject and be more open about it. The producer of the film Karan Johar is gay, he obviously didn't have a problem with the clowning around!

[–] naomi-miname 15 years ago

Ignorant comments from the stars, but ignorance is not the same as hate and can easily be overcome by talking about the issues.
You have to understand that sex and sexuality is not talked about in mainstream India (I have spoken to Indian guys who think unprotected anal sex is completely safe - no babies) it is changing but a lot needs to be done and movies like this will hopefully get people talking.

Another good one is Welcome to Sajjanpur - which touches on discrimination against the Hijra caste (Hijra's are "the third sex" in India).

[–] Sam_R4 15 years ago

They meant no harm...i mean i noe hay ppl and they ACTUALLY like the movie and like that it is becoming a more open thing...BUT..u srsly have to stop looking into it that much...the actors meant no harm!!

[–] Greyshaded 10 years ago

Thank you very much for the reply. I am a gay Nigerian and I know it is not a choice BUT like you said, India, amongst others, isnt acceptable of homosexuality at all. The country is just becoming acceptable bit by bit and I am sure with this film now, it will get better. If I were to compare India with Nigeria, I think they are doing a better job!

[–] murtadella 15 years ago

I AM gay and its NOT a choice

[–] edge_spearedme 15 years ago

Wow, did Priyanka really say that? Shame on her then since she was bragging about being so ''pro-gay'' and all. Yeah right, what a hypocrite.

Of course, homosexuality isn't a choice. Gay people seem to get discriminated in most places. Why would a person ''choose'' to be that way? I mean, there is nothing wrong with being gay at all. I guess then being straight is a ''choice'' too then?

[–] horst-kackebart 14 years ago

I am straight and it IS a choice.

[–] rebanex 14 years ago

Oh alright. So you're saying you can turn gay at any time? Well that's called being bisexual, attracted to both males and females. You're not straight, sorry.

[–] fiend007 14 years ago

lol.. For those who think homosexuality is a choice, I have news for you. There is a very good chance that you are bisexual. As a straight man who has never felt the urge or desire to be intimate with my own sex, it amazes me how many 'straight' people continue to claim this.

[–] pftm 14 years ago

*I am straight and it IS a choice*

So you chose to be straight. Does this mean you could have chosen to be gay? In that case you can reconsider your choice and become gay. That means that you will be attracted to guys (assuming you are a guy too) and can have hot sex with a guy that you enjoy tremendously.

Won't happen, will it?

[–] rgcustomer 14 years ago

Translation: I'm bisexual and exercising my straight privilege.

[–] dylangod 13 years ago

Translation: I'm bisexual and exercising my straight privilege.

ROFL. Spot-on. And maybe not even bi.

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[–] tgneeder09 13 years ago

Haha, well if that's true, pass the Dan Savage Test. Choose to be gay for 10 minutes and give someone of the same sex head while maintaining arousal. Go ahead, if it's a choice, then prove it.

[–] justadog79 13 years ago

interesting that you say you had a choice.

so, just to be clear on this, at one time being gay or bi were viable options for you, and you "chose" to be straight?
how long did you weigh the pros and cons? days, hours, just one single minute?
>>OR<<
were they never really options for you, and you didn't actually have to make that choice?

NEWSFLASH: if you gave any consideration and "chose" to be straight, you probably got it wrong, friend.

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[–] Akirevada 11 years ago

I am straight and it IS a choice.

So that just means you're gay and you're pretending not to be. Most gay Indian men do this and they get away with it because Indians have no gaydar.

[–] A_Llama_Drama 13 years ago

I agree with the poster who distinguishes between ignorance and hate. You can't be overly sensitive about what 2 people said, especially when there's a good chance they aren't aware of how offensive they sound. Now, if you were to explain to them what's what, I'd bet they'd be a lot more considerate. Not everyone lives in a tolerant country.
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[–] Caravelle232 13 years ago

God made me this way, the universe made me this way or I choose to be this way makes no difference. Why fall into this argument. Sexual orientation is an individual right to persue happiness.

[–] Aryia 10 years ago

A lot of people say that in a good way, meaning "we can choose to love who we want/we are free to love who we want/it's our life".

Of course it's not really a choice. No straight person would ever say it's a choice to be straight and to be attracted to the opposite sex. Same for gays.
But saying it's not a choice can lead to nasty arguments with homophobes saying it's a sickness etc. So sometimes the freedom/choice argument is safer even if not really exact.