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how can someone not have friends?


not possible imo.

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Oh, it's very possible. Take me, for example, the few close male friends I've had in my life have moved away, or gotten married and don't hang out anymore.

Over the past several years, my only friends have been my coworkers, but I never do anything with them outside of work. Usually, whoever is my girlfriend becomes my best friend, but I've been single for a couple of years now. So you could say I've been completely friendless (excluding coworkers) for 2 years, and I've been without male friends for 6 or 7 years. ...Like I said, it's possible.

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wheeew...i'm not the only loser. :P

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ya u both r

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thank you anonymous internet person. :)

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You lose at reading comprehension.

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My friends are all online.

"No worries, no responsibilities, just living in the moment."-Jerry Conlaine (Without A Paddle)

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I find myself in the situation also. Thought,i had a best friend, BFF,and she suddenly disappeared, as an aquatance. I think true friends,are hard to find now. even boyfriends. Ex.my best friend was not around when my mom passed away.That hurt.

Have A Nice Day JonBonJovi

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It's very possible actually, I have no friends at all, not even acquaintance's. Except for the people in my house I don't know or speak to anyone ever.

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It's very easy if you've moved, or you live in a smaller town where people get married young.

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Totally.

The only people I like live in another state. I hate everybody I meet these days so I really don't hang out with anybody anymore.

I like you people though...but don't push it.

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I love you, man

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Actually its very possible. I have had birthday parties and invited so-called friends and they didn't even show up. So no I don't have any friends, literally and don't want any if they are going to be selfish and inconsiderate and cruel.

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I'm 36...married & father of two...my close guy friends I can probably count on one hand...and I'll be lucky to hang out with them much less TALK to them once a month!!! And I'm the friendliest cat EVER I assure you...

I grew up in NYC so that didn't help my pal situation here in FL...despite being married, I make quicker GIRL friends then guys...always have...go figure.

What depressed me the other day while i was watching the "lend me $8,000" scene was...at my age...the chances are getting slimmer & slimmer I'll ever be anyone's best man at a wedding...not sure why it bugged me because I am the most honest & loyal friend anyone can ever make...but having that guy friend just has never panned out...

OK, I just depressed myself.

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Women have the same problem, I have only one friend and I barely get to meet her and she may be moving to another country soon :(.

@jorgito2001 Don't lose hope, *hugz*.

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I have online friends but no real life ones except my mother. I used to have a lot but we slowly drifted apart, they moved, they changed into someone I didn't like anymore, etc. It doesn't bother me because most of the things I enjoy doing are solitary things such as reading, watching tv (friends just talk through programmes and ruin them), playing games on the computer and other things that I don't need friends to be able to do.

Also, I just don't really enjoy hanging out with people and having to make conversation when I would rather sit in peace and quiet, enjoying my hobbies.

Well I kinda tell a lie when I say I have no friends. There is a woman Mum and I know who comes to visit every couple of weeks but she's one of those people who whinges and whines about their life, but every time you suggest a way they can improve it they have a million reasons not to do that. Basically, she doesn't want to be happy because then she won't be able to complain. That's a real downer and if we could get out of the friendship without hurting her (she's rude to others but uber sensitive about people being rude to her) we would do it in a heartbeat. I spend as little time as possible with her before I make my escape back to my room.

Anyway, to answer the question without rambling any more than I have, yes it is possible to not have friends. And to be happy without them.

i love my cats!

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A lot of people who've responded say they don't have any real friends, and that's the way they want to keep it. But I really don't believe that's true.

Yes, some guys and girls are more private and prefer to keep to themselves doing what they like doing instead of visiting friends. And there is nothing wrong with that.

However, I do think you guys are short-changing yourselves by choosing to remain introverts. It may be that (like in the movie) you just have a hard time developing close relationships with other men, and as a result you have resigned yourselves to just not having friends. It's sort of a defense mechanism, I believe, for these people. They realize they have no real friends, and feel obligated to justify it... and then claim that they like it better that way.

My advice is this... try something different. Try to develop some male friends and make a genuine effort to hang out with them every now and then. Doesn't have to be several times a week... just once in a while.

I think you guys would think differently about not wanting any friends once you realize how fun they can be.

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Hi kylesanford.

It is true in my case. I really don't enjoy hanging out with people. I used to but my interests have changed into ones that don't involve other people. I've tried making friends quite a few times over the years because having no offline friends made me feel like a freak but I really didn't enjoy it at all. I'm at my happiest when I'm alone. I do have some good friends online but I wouldn't try meeting up with them in real life again. Been there, done that, found that it's not for me. Being a loner seems to be a family trait because my mother is one too and my grandfather was the same.

I don't feel I have to justify why I have no friends. I was just explaining why, not trying to justify. It's my right to enjoy my own company and I don't really care if people think I'm weird for it. Well I did when I was younger but the older I get the more I think "just accept me for who and what I am or go away".

Perhaps I will change my mind if I run across someone I really click with but I haven't any desire to look for that person. If it happens it happens, if not I don't mind.

I'm female by the way lol.


i love my cats!

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