I'm starting to think that some of you ladies here are confusing the term "jerk" for a confident, handsome alpha male type. It's not the same at all.
Jerks are not confident they are arrogant (big difference), and the way they look varies as much as the way nice guys look.
Modern society's "alpha males", the man's man type (think Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, etc), are usually cool people inside and out. Real confidence doesn't create a bad personality.
A jerk is someone who doesn't respect you, treats you like dirt, lies to you, cheats on you, maybe beats you once in a while, hates your family, hates your friends, most likely hates you too, has no tact, has no taste, has no integrity and is usually filled to the brim with some form of self loathing and has many skeletons in the closet.
Jerks are a mirage of confidence.
This is all making me think that maybe the OP's "jerk" isn't really a jerk at all.
Meh, either way.. to each his/her own..
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14 years ago
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whimsicg
14 years ago
On one hand you don't want to be bored, on the other hand you sound like a pretty boring and shallow person. It's confusing.
What "challenge" are you talking about? Having some smug bastard cheat on you and seeing if you can take it? Or is it the challenge of taming some wild stallion -- which in that case, if you ever succeed at doing that he'll only hate you and become an impotent loser who refers to you as "the wife". It sounds like you just want to see if you can conquer a guy who you feel overpowers you. Sounds like penis envy. And I'll let you in on a little secret.. even the nicest of nice guys is still a male at the end of the day and has a natural tendency to dominate. Nice guys have evolved past that primitive mindset and at least try their hardest to show some respect.
If a girl like you found a nice guy and had the balls to tell him flat out "I want you to challenge me and call me out on my *beep* most nice guys I know would jump at that option. They're nice because they are usually raised to treat women with dignity. I guess that's a horrible crime in this world these days.
It's funny how pissed off you'd be if this were the other way around. Say you met some bad boy who "called you out on your *beep* (btw, are you starting to see how pathetic that is).. and you married him.. pumped out a few kids.. and then one day you're 45, no longer that cute girl you were ten years ago and meanwhile your balding husband is banging some 25 year old $lut who is gaga over him because he's "such a jerk!".
It's a vicious cycle. If you want to domesticate some evil, rude, aggressive, demeaning, disrespectful and unfaithful neanderthal prepare to be on the receiving end someday. I bet your kids will love you for that.
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