wouldnt it make you want to lose weight? - Queen Sized (2008) Discussion

[–] anastasiabeaverhausen1 16 years ago

For a lot of people, food is an outlet to go to when you are having problems. Think about it; you have a bad day at work, what do you do? Eat some ice cream. Most fat people (at least ones I have talked to, and myself) want to stop, but it's hard to. People who smoke are often the same way. They can't stop, it's not that they are unwilling.

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[–] rosek102 16 years ago

It's a hard thing to understand unless you're heavy yourself. When that kind of thing happens, you want to lose the weight, and you want to look and feel better, but you don't know how to start, and it's difficult to give up those longtime eating patterns.

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[–] indiehjarta 16 years ago

I was fat once.. but I then lost 111 pounds pounds :)

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[–] rosek102 16 years ago

That's awesome! Wow, that must have taken a lot of work. That's amazing.

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[–] qweenkelli 15 years ago

That's awesome, but surely you didnt work that hard just so people wouldnt make fun of you anymore. You must have had some other motivation. Anyone who loses that much weight because they got picked on did it for the wrong reasons.

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[–] rosek102 15 years ago

She never said she lost the weight because she was picked on. She just said she was heavy once, and then she lost 111 pounds.

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[–] dcj1291 15 years ago

she was asking her what motivated her to loose the weight because she never said why.

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[–] bootcamp_princess 15 years ago

Speaking as an overweight person it's hard. When you're overweight most people are so self conscience of their bodies that they just don't get exercise. I'll use myself as an example but I actually used to be really active like I used to swim competitively but now I don't go swimming at all because I don't want to wear a bathing suit. And also it's hard to go to the gym cause there is always people that are super fit and it makes you even more conscience of the fact that you are over weight. As for the food aspect I used food as a crutch, I had self-esteem issues even before I gained weight which prompted me to eat more.

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[–] TheAbsoluteTruth1 15 years ago

Not necessarily, although there are a lucky few who can use that as motivation. Most fat people I know overeat when they're stressed or depressed. It's what people refer to as "emotional eating." Teasing someone really doesn't help anyone change, especially if they're already depressed.

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[–] sweettoothniki 15 years ago

At my heaviest I was 367lbs. After I found out my now ex husband had an affair I lost 140 lbs and then divorced him. I am still heavy but i am better then before.
Growing up I was sexually abused and then teased about the abuse at home. I grew up a size 12. I know I self medicated with food. I didn't get really heavy till my pregancy with my twin daughter. I gained 95 lbs to to bed rest the whole time.

If someone loses weight because of teasing about there weight what will that person do after losing all the extra weight do. As kids no matter what we do we'll get teased. Do ugly people run out for plastic surgery when teased. Do girls with more hair then normal go out and get electrolysis at 14. No so why do fat people have to change?

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[–] huggledemon24 15 years ago

The teasing and jokes... wouldn't it make you want to LOOSE the weight? It for sure would not make me run to a container of ice cream or cookies

god no- it often has the opposite effect- it makes you feel bad about yourself, which makes everything seem more difficult and useless!- thus decreasing your ability to get up and do something about your issues- if you don't think well of yourself, if you have strangers ( and often friends and family) putting you down in little ways everyday, or even just visibly treating you differently to someone else because of your weight, it can weigh on your mind, make you depressed, sad, and all these things in little ways can affect your ability to lose weight. Especially if you have a lot of weight to lose- then not only do you have the whole issue of feeling like you will NEVER see the light at the end of the tunnel, but you also have the physical difficutly of getting up and doing exercise etc- not to mention that often when you do go out for a walk or go swimming at the beach etc people will make cruel comments- why the hell would you then go walking or swimming or any other form of exercise if you associate these activities with negative responses from the other people you are surrounded by!?

If you watch a movie or eat a meal that makes you sick to the stomach or incredibly sad- are you likely to want to watch (or eat)it on a daily basis- probably not- unless there is a very strong motivational reason to do so!
it is the same basic principle for many overweight people!

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[–] goodnightandgoodluckyou 15 years ago

For some people it's comfort. It's hard to understand unless you'be been through it yourself.

You feel bad after you've eaten but at the time it's can be like the only thing you have in the world. At one point, my comfort was food and then my comfort became excersise and punishing myself through starvation..now I've found a balance between the two but it's taken a decade. Yes "messed up" as people say but that's the way it is. We should all be honest. The human mind is very complex, things arent always straightforward and easy to explain.

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[–] excam 12 years ago

You couldn't have said it any better, really. How old were you when you realized that exercise and healthy eating is the key? And how did you find that balance? I'm 20 and trying to get there, but it's really difficult...

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[–] happyphantom9 10 years ago

I would think at least being at risk for diabetes and other health risks would be a motivation.

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[–] KateAkaGunner 10 years ago

it may be hard for someone who has never been heavy to understand the inner workings of a heavy person (not just girls) mindset

it may seem stupid but in "Austin Powers" "Fat Bastard" says "I eat because I am unhappy, and I am unhappy because I eat"

i used to be very heavy close to 300 on a 5'5 frame...i had gastric bypass, not because of anyone's definition of what i should weigh...i did it for myself, & my health

for me it was the right decision and now i am under 140 pounds...but surgery is not for everyone...and you must do it for yourself or you can resent the fact that you caved because you couldnt handle the thoughts and actions of others who seek to tear you down

another thing that may (not always) trigger the unhappiness that many heavy people endure is straight out depression...yes depression can be helped but it takes hard works & a lot of times that bowl or 2 of ice cream is a much quicker fix as it is something that we can control in a world were everything is topsy turvey

as in the movie i was nominated for Homecoming Queen as a sick and nasty joke...i refused to even acknowledge the nomination...i was also voted "Most Likely To Win A Jello wrestling match...an "award" i went to the year book editor about & refused to take part in...i am not pictured in the yearbook under this title, although the male who "won" is

i never let the insults get to me i grew a very thick skin & many walls

basically people wanted to tear me down from when i was around 13 till i had the surgery at age 30...my thinking was, you want to tear me down and make me dislike myself? well i will do the opposite & push forward just to spite you

i became more empowered and strong but also it was at the loss of having many friends as i dont let people in to who i really am and my core...to date only 1 person has gotten to the real me...and he is the only person i can honestly say knows me for me & loves me...as i love him for who he is...he a heavy-set man but its the inside that is important...so forge ahead it does get easier..the memories & pain will always be there but there is light

a quote i came up with is "if i didnt go through all the drama and bulls@@ bullies in life, i would not be who i am today" and i must say i like myself for me...if you do not love yourself or work for your own self worth why would anybody else?

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