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No idea why people hate this so much


I'm really quite shocked that this movie isn't doing that well, critically. I'd completely expect that the majority of movie-goers wouldn't really like this movie, but I'm surprised by how split so many critics and users here are. It seems most either love it or hate it, with some saying they wanted to rate it a 0, and others saying they gave it 10/10

I don't really know what else you'd expect from a movie like this! The acting wasn't anything spectacular, but it was definitely adequate - I felt like all these people were real. The purposely flawed dialogue, the dullness of the characters - it was clearly intentional and it gave the movie a raw quality. Sasha Grey was very convincing as a detached, high-class hooker with no real class - a girl who gets along with her good looks and ability to listen and make people feel at ease.

The movie wasn't perfect by any means, but I think there was a lot of humanity in it, and I loved the way it was presented. The movie never really becomes completely clear watching it just one time, even if you can piece most of it together. I liked that about it. And I think that scene where Christine leaves her boyfriend was so perfect, and so well-done. It wasn't over-dramatized, it wasn't like the regular crap you see. It was exactly how it should have been.

I like the humanity of it, I like how erratic it was, and I think it did what it set out to do perfectly. It isn't a deep look into either politics or the human psyche and it's not meant to be. It's just a depiction of a not-too-long ago moment in time with characters that seem natural. No Oscar-worthy performances here, but neither are there when I fight with my girlfriend, or discuss politics or business.

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Ditto! Finally, something worth reading on this board.

Oh, good! Nobody here but people.

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I totally agree with you.

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I hope you don't mind me digging into your post like this, but you said something that struck me as interesting.
"Sasha Grey was very convincing as a detached, high-class hooker with no real class - a girl who gets along with her good looks and ability to listen and make people feel at ease. "
What exactly do you mean by class? Are you referring to some kind of criteria for how someone should behave in order to be classy, or are you referring to something related to wealth and social status? If the former, I would be interested to know what this criteria is, and if it's the later case, then I have my doubts there is even such a thing as a high-class hooker.

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"Sasha Grey was very convincing as a detached, high-class hooker with no real class - a girl who gets along with her good looks and ability to listen and make people feel at ease. "

i have said it before and i say it again, i dont think people pay 5000/hr to be with people who are detached !! Te title of the movie is "girlfriend experience"

Is soldebergh's idea of a girlfriend as someone being detached?? LOL a corpse

As for class: if you look like wealth and social status then you are classy. Looking like a million bucks is classy, behaviour like not farting in public is classy.

Being detached is NOT being a good conversationalist. Sasha Grey does play the role of girl who as fit into any socialite circles at all.

thats NOT High Class, being able to blend in and charm people is the essence, carrying out a conversation is also a high value skill in a social setting is also priceless

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"I hope you don't mind me digging into your post like this, but you said something that struck me as interesting."

I don't mind at all. And I hope you don't mind a response delayed over half a year...

Class is a difficult thing to define. It's like grace: easy to recognize but not easy to explain. I definitely was not referring to the second sense of the word ("related to wealth and social status"), which I thought might be clear when I mentioned that she's a "high-class hooker". By that, I am implying that she works for richer clients, she's more prominent and more respected. Basically, she is not the kind of prostitute you'd find in the adults-only classifieds.

And yet, being high-class does not make you classy. How many people rise to fame virtually overnight in the media, and don't know how to adapt to their new social status? And how classy are these people (for an extreme example, think Britney Spears). I can't specifically tell you what I think a classy girl is, but I can give you an example of a prostitute that's both classy and high-class: Inara, from the cancelled TV series Firefly. Everything from the way she handles herself, to the way she communicates makes her classy, in my opinion.

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Totally agree with the OP. GFE definitely isn't for everyone, but i enjoyed it immensely. The acting (including Sasha's) is uniformly good-not-great, the cinematography is excellent and -- as others have noted -- I thought the dialog was very realistic and well-crafted.

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couldnt have put it any better myself

one problem with the movie : a bit too slow for me. some more drama would have made it more interesting. we only get a glimpse of her true emotions at the end. but at the same time, thats what makes it so real and unlike the regular movie-goer's experience.

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I really liked this movie, and the cast was more than adequate, actually they were exactly the individuals this type of movie requires. I rather thought that Sasha Grey was good in her role, and think that she really has the potential and talent for acting, way, way beyond just the adult movies and entertainment industry. You should see some of the modelling pictures this girls has, she can sport from a classy looks to the trashiest one, from classic clean cut to the sexiest, raunchiest one.

I watched the interview and Q&A she did at Brandeis University a while back, and she's is most definitely not dumb or cheap or whatever array of other names people usually throw her way. She was very clear, concise, confident and answered the questions with no problem. I mean I'm a movie lover, but I will admit that I have not yet seen a Fellini, Bergman or Godard picture...For her age she is mature beyond her years, an old soul trapped in that really nice body of hers...

Anyways...I liked the look of the picture, and the detached manner in which it approached both its characters and the subject matter. I am glad that Sodebergh choose to stay away from explicit scenes of sex or nudity, there is some but it is tastefully done and it makes sense within the movie's overall framework, there is no gratuity in it.

Another point of attraction and interest for me when I usually watch a Sodebergh movie, is the quite unique point of view he takes as a directors, the type that makes of his viewers the proverbial fly on the wall. With the exception of "Erin Brokovich" and the "Ocean's 11" movies, almost each and every one of his other movies contains that almost voyeuristic quality. This is apparent more or less in "Traffic", "Out Of Sight", "Solaris", "The Good German". The strongest manifestation of this technique is in "Sex Lies And Videotape" and now in "The Girfriend Experience", in a way it's almost like he has gone full circle from that movie to this one, especially since I found that there are some similarities between both pictures.


While watching "The Girlfriend Experience" I felt as if I was intruding on somebody else's life, almost like a peeping-tom or s spy surveilling his targets. The only other movie that has brough upon this sentiment was Coppola's "The Conversation". The almost snuff-like quality and look of the movie instills in me some level of guilt as if I was watching my neighbours living their lives, perhaps shallow and superficial at first glance due to the detachement I feel as a voyeur, but surely with much more substance than meets the eye. Yet Sodebergh does not want his viewers to necessarily empathyze or identify with the people on-screen, or find them loathsome and disgusting either.

As the OP said, watching this movie is like watching a slice of life unfolding before your very eyes. The people are what they are, and any judgments, thoughts or ideas about them or regarding their thoughts, choices and actions come from within ourselves, our own biases, our personalities and manner of thinking and viewing the world. Chelsea might appear as a superficial airhead, consumed with herself, self-involved and narcissitic, but is she? Is there more there than the camera shows? I think so...there is more behind her vanity and materialistic concerns.

If one looks carefully, one could see a longing and a thirst for belonging, for real attachment, company and love. The only one who seems to provide any level of that is her boyfriend, but is he? Or is he just in love with the real her or the facade she puts on as a way not only to satisfy her clients but as well to cope with the world around her, a world that expects her to act and behave in a certain way.

All the characters are flawed and incomplete, but not anymore than you or I, they are as people are, on ocassion complex and complicated while at other times fake, phoneys, superficial and shallow, we all have some of these qualities and shortcommings whithin ourselves to different degrees.

What I found fascinating is the struggle going on inside Sasha Grey's character, between Chelsea and Christine, what people want to see her be and what she is, though neither aspect of her personality or character is ever really explored or explained. It seems that she herself has a hard time telling who she is, or what aspect of her is winning out, Chelsea of Christine, who will permanently establish itself in the end?

That and answers to whatever other questions and issues this movie raises, must be answered by the viewers. Sodebergh merely provides us with the keys, it is up to us to unlock the door and walk through...Otherwise the peephole is all you get.

This movie requires people to be involved and proactive, rather than detached and passive, eventhough the movie is presented as cold, detached and rather emotionless. To see moviemakers still be willing to create such films is encouraging, especially these days when we want everything to be spoon-fed, easy and readily explained with a luxury of details etc...

Good movie and a good effort from Sodebergh and co.


"Today is the tomorrow I was so worried about yesterday"--Anthony Hopkins

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I thought I would reply to this thread at least six years later as I just saw this film now and really did like it. You know like you loco_73 at some point in the film I felt a little bit like I was a spying on some of the moments these people were going through. It was interesting to see some of the life of this call girl playing out and some of the characters she interacted with. Also it was fascinating how the story flowed time wise and in the end I think my mind processed it well enough. The whole film all worked for me in the end.

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Totally agree! Not to mention the killer soundtrack, beautiful camera work, and great color/mood/lighting.

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Take a step back. Why would anyone like a film about a prostitutes day-to-day life? There is only one thing worse than such a movie, and that is one "starring" a real prostitute - as this one was.

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Why would anyone like a film about a prostitutes day-to-day life?

Easy. Because I'm not a prostitute. Not that every profession would make for an interesting movie, but that's one that people wonder about. I won't try to say this is more realistic than most, because I don't know if it is, but it seems more realistic.
There is only one thing worse than such a movie, and that is one "starring" a real prostitute - as this one was.

Stupid line. If you don't like her, fine, but who better to play the part than someone that has already done something similar. Duh. Try putting some actual thought into it before making dumb remarks.

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To be honest, I've never seen this movie because I found this page by happenstance. I enjoyed reading it all and know I'm responding late. Hope to find more interesting discussions on other topics as well. In the meantime...

Playing a high-class prostitute made Julia Roberts famous and wealthy. I've always hated that movie because it shows a fantasy world. Except Disney princes didn't end up with hookers ... especially if they wouldn't even kiss you. 😷

From what I've read, Pretty Woman's original story had her character be a dope addict. Would a gritty movie showing her 'real life' or duplicity have made Julia Roberts such a big star? I don't think so.

Thank you for letting me chime in!

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