Wonderful from start to finish

Oh yeah. It's incredibly simple and yet manages to be incredibly layered as well. And you're right, it doesn't feel like it's pretentious or geared towards a particular crowd (e.g. old Woody Allen films), it's a universal story about family and family politics, and the timeless adage of how you can choose your friends but you can't choose your family. It is also an excellent study of the individual as well, particularly the scene with the mother where she admits that she invites the boy over whose saving caused her son to drown just to torment him, because she cannot come to terms with her own feelings about it. Also the subtle affair between the husband and neighbour which is ever present but never directly stated (perhaps most heavily implied during the ambulance scene - his level of anxiety was well beyond the usual doctor-patient encounter). I can't say enough good about this movie. But you're right, afterwards and since then whenever I am with family and friends at least once during a conversation I will look the other person in the eyes and in my head I'm thinking "I wonder what they think about me and say about me when I'm not here." Sounds paranoid but I think you know what I mean. It's a movie that literally changed my thought process after one viewing, and I completely agree with you, I gave it a 10 before the credits even had a chance to roll. How they pulled off such an incredible movie that does not follow any of the usual movie plot formulas, and as you pointed out has no serious conflict, is beyond me. The only reason it gets a 7 on IMDB is because there are people out there who watch it and either A) Don't like it because it hits too close to home for them; or B) Think it's too "slow" because there are no explosions and typical movie flare such as a kitchen plate-throwing scene or physical fight between husband and son or brother in-law. If this were an English language film, it would have won best picture for sure.