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All the Married Ones Are Not Good *Spoilers*


So this is supposed to be a film about a "good" man who is married? Because all I see here is a selfish man who has made vows he breaks, hurts his wife and his children for a younger girl the moment he is presented with the opportunity. Disgusting.

A self motivated workaholic wife and an author working leisurely from home offer to take in a young girl after an abrupt ending in her relationship has left her without a place to call home. The very few interactions shown between the husband and wife offer a clear indication of the issues between the couple due to their obvious circumstances. Why any woman would invite a young girl from an unstable relationship into her home with her two children (a teenage girl and younger boy) and her husband without considering the possibility of it going horribly wrong is baffling. The way the film portrays a lack of communication and intimacy within the marriage is overdone in the content in the short period of time prior to the beginning of the affair. In my opinion, any relationship in this condition would have suffered similar trials if not already separated long before they had reached this point. I can guarantee that most women who have a husband that is complaining of sexual and emotional neglect verbally on a daily basis do not find the solution that includes an available attractive young woman. Previous insecurity or infidelity is irrelevant, this was a woman who can't even claim naivety, this is just idiotic. I understand the logic that if a person is going to cheat, they will find a way to achieve it but there's no need to dangle a steal in front of a hungry dog that you have refused to feed in months. Sure, we all would like to hope our dog behaves in a way that is ideal as well as complimenting by obeying and waiting for the appropriate time to act... But let's be honest, how many neglected dogs end up being well trained companions?

As for the husband, the neglectful wife not tending to his leisurely lifestyle is no where near an excuse for him to cheat. Personally, I believe there is no excuse for cheating nor can it be justified or validated in any situation. Honestly, do I believe the wife was working excessively? Yes and no. Her work habits left little time for her relationship with her husband which would put a strain on their marriage, but she still made time to be very involved with the lives of her children. HOWEVER, I do not feel that any working woman's schedule would accommodate this man's expectations due to his working from home without any schedule at all. Thus, not getting a paycheck until his work or book is completed making the wife's time spent at her job not only a priority for herself, but the wellbeing of the family as well.

So here's this young girl, who looks only a few years older than their oldest child, the daughter. She actually teeter totters between a friendship with the mother and daughter initially, only to find herself more interested in the relationship between herself and the husband's penis. What I found amusing was the emotionally immature and battered young girl actually denies the advances made by the husband the first time he attempts to take things further than she is willing to allow. Well, the first time that is, because before you know it, those two are knocking boots in the family household without even a slight hesitation. To make matters even more repulsive, the husband impulsively returns home in a lustful rage after his wife never arrived at the restaurant for their dinner date due to her mother being hospitalized. I thought I would have seen more remorse and self hatred in the scene when he walked into the front door to hear this news, then proceeds to open his arms and embrace her in the arms he'd momentarily had wrapped around the naked young girl. Disgusting and far beyond a simple act of betrayal, his attempt to right the wrong the two adulterers have committed, he ignores the existences of the young girl completely while simultaneously continuing to destroy his marriage every other way possible.

What happens when you piss off a young little slut without rational thinking and no sense of a conscience? She's going to tell on you. Not only is she going to tell on you, apparently she's going to do it after she's confronted you about her mistreatment, a quicky in the motel to show that she's actually "worth" something to you, and the wife's offer at dinner for an expensive trip with the business. I have to give her credit, Girl is GOOD.

The husband did not seem surprised when the wife arrived home with her newly acquired information and for someone seeming so prepared by his expression, his words were not as convincing. While dancing around the ever so popular " I did this because you never show me an attention" rationalization. This is a personal favorite since it literally makes no sense to crave attention from someone specific causing you to seek attention from another person. Why would anyone desperately seek attention from any one person, if this craving can be satisfied by any random person? Then he blames her work, along with her not taking him up on the ONE OFFER to see a marriage counselor (which I do believe was the day before he initially started the affair) and blames everything or everyone for his actions. Not only does he never truly take the blame for the reason he's had an affair, the closest he gets to an apology is when he states "I never meant for this to happen" which I am not really sure how this applies to his defense. When completely in control over whether or not something does in fact happen, claiming it wasn't what you "meant" is not the most intelligent defense, in case you are ever in this situation and planned to use it. Admission of guilt is not necessary, she already knows. He would have been better off simply sticking his tail between his legs, shutting his mouth and praying for mercy....

Well then again, the wife forgives the husband, right after she saves the young girl from an attempted suicide when returning from the robbery on the wife's business. Seriously, that happened... It is not sarcasm nor am I making some ridiculous ending to emphasize on the ridiculousness of the story. This is the actual ending.... so... yeah.

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A lot of what you say is true.

But what about Alex screwing around on Ben? These two blue-eyed parents had two brown-eyed kids. So either those kids were adopted, or Alex was being impregnated by the milkman over several years.

I think this backstory needed to have been explored more deeply. The casting director obviously could have chosen to cast blue-eyed kids once s/he realized who the leads playing Ben and Alex would be. But instead s/he chose to cast brown-eyed kids. Such an error is just not made, it's "Casting 101". The casting director must have been instructed to find 2 young actors with dark brown eyes to play the kids of the blue-eyed parents.

So, Ben obviously held a grudge against Alex for all these years, and when she brought her cleavagey co-worker to live with them, she must have at least had an inkling that Ben would want to take the chance to get back at her. OR, maybe Zoe was a kind of offering to Ben from Alex.

I dunno; it seemed like they didn't delve too deeply into the motivations of the adult characters in this film.

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Seriously? I'm only about halfway through, but it's obvious the woman cares more about her career than her marriage and children, and either she's completely blind, or she doesn't care that there are problems in the marriage. He wanted them to go to counseling, and she acted like there was no reason for it. Put yourself in his place. It seemed to me that there was no reason for them to be married if she was going to constantly ignore him and blow him off. That just shows that their marriage isn't important to her.

"Not all who wander are lost."--J.R.R. Tolkien

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Well.....after I said that, it came back from commercial, and now I totally agree with you.

I've already changed the channel. :)

"Not all who wander are lost."--J.R.R. Tolkien

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Okay so we have a selfish, self-absorbed woman who ignores her husband even when he suggests going to counseling. She thinks everything is fine because she's content with her life. Well for all wives out there who think the same I've got news for you. Marriage is a partnership. If you are content but your husband isn't and wants to do something about it like TALKING, I suggest you LISTEN!
There is absolutely no excuse for what the husband did. He deserves everything he gets as a result and quite frankly I don't think she should haven taken him back. At least not so soon. They both didn't deserve any sympathy and got exactly what they deserved. The only ones I felt sorry for where the kids.

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The wife should have found more time for her husband. She had plenty of time to take care of everyone else in her life but the most important person, her husband. I see nothing wrong with him jumping on that fine young thing who threw herself at him. What man in his right mind would turn down something as hot as her. She gave him attention and validated his manhood.

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No matter what his wife did or didn't do, it doesn't excuse adultery. The fact that you see nothing wrong with him doing that just shows you have no character.

"Not all who wander are lost."--J.R.R. Tolkien

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You are right adultery is never an appropriate solution in a marriage. It would have been best if he had told her that he needed more attention from her. The problem is she was more wrapped up in her work and everything else in her life that her husband always seemed to be the one person she did not have time for.

This is a Lifetime movie so the husband is always shown as a bad person, just kidding.....

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