Birth control fails all the time. Haven't you ever heard of instances where both condoms AND whichever birth control the female is on fails.
Condoms aren't 100%, neither is the pill, the shot, the diaphragm, the ring, the sponge, anything. Even having your tubes tied isn't 100%, or having a vasectomy.
They're not glorifying it usually, they're just making movies to relate to a very large part of the population. They're movies that are empathetic to those who have found themselves in the situation.
Sure, many people get pregnant because they're not careful, but many people are VERY careful and STILL end up pregnant.
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angloo
15 years ago
Thank goodness abortion is still a viable option in our countries...unless the Bushevik judges and courts (and the rightwing nutbars who elect/appoint them) have their way. I am stunned that so many women "find themselves pregnant" but am appalled that a consensual sexual tryst ends up with them taking the guy to the cleaners for a child he does not want. "It's the screwing you get for the screwing you got." I am only shocked that more guys don't get vasectomies to prevent this. (And hopefully most are aware that NO vasectomy protects you from AIDS or even non-lethal STDs.)
But I guess that wouldn't be very Hollywood, telling the real nasty story, now would it?
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OK, I have now watched this piece of drivel and apparently there was little if any reality injected into this dreamfest. Of COURSE the father always wants a child he has fathered; of COURSE the mother who has never carried or expressed interest in a child will change her mind about it; of COURSE both those self-centred individuals will put their needs ahead of the best interests of the child, who, BTW, is NOT always better off with the biological parents. The complete turnaround of both of these people, and the fact that the movie ends with the apparent choice answering all questions, made me ill and caused me to instantly regret whatever time I had invested in this story.
News flash: NOT all guys want to have children. Not all guys will change their minds when they discover a lover is pregnant. Not all women keep their baby. Not all put them up for adoption. Not all adoptive parents are suitable. And so on and so on ad nauseum.
I have already expended WAY too much energy on this nonsense, but I find that venting seems to have been somewhat cathartic.
I enjoy people-oriented dramas with strong story lines and characters you can care about. This movie had all but three of those elements. Yuck.
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askmeaboutjc_05
15 years ago
It takes two to tango, as they say... so why shouldn't the man be equally responsible for an unwanted pregnancy? Why should the woman have all financial responsibility for a child that they do not want either? The man was an equal partner in creating a child and if paying for half is "taking them to the cleaners," then so be it.
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takiko-1
15 years ago
> I am only shocked that more guys don't get vasectomies to prevent this. <
Well that means they don't want to EVER have children since reversing it and having children is unlikely... And I remember a Home Improvement episode where Tim was bugged to get a vasectomy since him and his wife did not have any plans to have more children. But he felt it would emasculate him as a guy and he was even getting hassled by his friends. Although maybe it's an issue to have a guy wear a condom even (depends on the guy though, since it's not fair to lump them all together).
> News flash: NOT all guys want to have children. Not all guys will change their minds when they discover a lover is pregnant. Not all women keep their baby. Not all put them up for adoption. <
Well, I just might be the stories that end up on TV and in movies tend to lean to the opposite of all your "nots". The people in involved with have to be willing to go the possibly darker or more depressing route. Adoption might be as far as things go.
> Not all adoptive parents are suitable. <
Well, yeah, they covered this in the movie, didn't they?
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