Four things that would have made this movie 10x better
There's a lot to enjoy about this film. The child acting was really quite remarkable, whether they were being sullen or silly (or OCD). It's the kind of nuance from young actors you really only see once in a blue moon or somehow in every French movie involving children. The mother's character is also quite plausible: a loving woman who is is nonetheless very bad at knowing how to deal with her child's behavior, terrified of it, and also grappling with how much of her identity she is willing to surrender to motherhood. And Patricia Clarkson was great, 'nuf said.
BUT there were two things that in my opinion really, really dragged this film down.
1) Making the psychiatrist helpful. This is a movie cliché: the fat, colorless, impotent-looking shrink who seems creepy, unsympathetic, and wants to suck the joy out of your imaginative brain with his nasty "labels." The fact is this mother, while understandably terrified, has no capacity to control behavior at all, even with the younger daughter. She is complacent and makes excuses for everything. Obviously you have to know how to handle Turrets, but that's what professionals could help you learn. Supposedly at the end of the film Phoebe and Mom have learned to accept/deal with Turrets, but do we get equal redemption for the profession of child psychology? Nope, the guy who was right about the problem is irrelevant; his final image is still a fat, bow-tied waste of space who listens to you whine about your innermost fears a la Freud, rather than focusing on controlling the child's uncontrollable behavior, which is really the issue in the first place. I appreciate the way the movie captures that sense of uncertainty when something is wrong and you have no diagnosis, but I was disappointed by perpetuating this movie cliché at the expense of a real character.
2) Making the principal a real character. He's the flattest character in the film. Yes there are principals who are unsympathetic to teachers and not that great with kids, but this was a completely cardboard authoritarian antagonist stock character. I mean, who hasn't at least HEARD of trust falling? Who is heading a school and has no professional capacity to deal with an incident like spitting, which in an elementary school is bound to have happened once or twice? It's as if the only person in the whole damn movie who can both appreciate and deal with children is the Drama teacher. And the principal's manufacturing a way to get rid of her is grandiose and implausible, even for a dweeb.
3) Allowing the father to be articulate. I'm fine with the father being distant. I'm fine with the father having fights with the mother about the kids, careers, the shrink, etc. But for a guy who's supposed to write for a living, he's remarkably inarticulate. Maybe other people see this kind of ineptitude and repression at every turn as true to life. I guess I expect people who have a way with words and ideas to show it from time to time.
4) Turning monologues into dialogues. The mother’s rant about everything she’s angry about is great. But the dad has absolutely nothing to add; there’ s just a cut. The mother in the shrink’s office is a little mushy, but it’s plausible someone might think this kind of disorder is somehow about whether or not her kids love her or vice versa. But any psychologist/psychiatrist worth a damn would follow that up with a “look, your daughters not clapping three times in front of every door way just because you’re conflicted about not having a career and you feel guilty about resenting motherhood.” Conveniently jumping away in these scenes boosts the angst, but hides the obvious solutions. At the end we're supposed to go, "oh! there is a way out!" but I couldn't help thinking, "well, yeah, lady, if you actually listened to people you might have figured this out already."
This post is long and I'm sorry about that. But I'm curious as to what others think. Corrections? Additions? Admonitions?