You claim that Emilia is as responsible as the husband for the destruction of the marriage. And I completely disagree.
And I refuted every one of your arguments. We all know you disagree, but you don't have a credible argument to support your position.
Because like I stated before only the decision of the husband can either save or destroy the marriage
And why on earth is that the case? lol His decisions to save or destroy the marriage has nothing to do with the choice of another legal adult anyway. His deciding or not deciding reflects on him and his accountability. His behavior has nothing to do with Emelia. Likewise HER behavior has nothing to do with HIM.
Each adult takes ownership of their own behavior. No one gets to SHIFT that onto someone else.
The only exceptions are for people who are underage, or who function at diminished capacity: everyone else is independently accountable for their actions.
But here we have you SHIFTING the accountability of the damage ONE person does onto another person.. for what reason?
Because she doesn't have a RING on her finger? lol
In what WORLD does the absence of a RING exonerate someone from accountability? lol
Emilia has no moral, is wrong to go after a married man? No one is arguing that. Bit she is not responsible of the destruction of the marriage. The husband is,
No one says she is the sole person accountable. She is accountable for HER behavior and the damage that SHE did.
Why on earth is it so difficult for you to digest the concept of shared accountability? lol
There wouldn’t be any actions to have have consequences had she walked away.
Exactly. She chose to walk into a marital situation. Independently, of her own choice and accord. Anything that results from that, her behavior would be hers to own, and any damage she's accountable for. Since Jack was right there with her, this is shared accountability.
The husband could have fallen for her without her doing anything, decided to go after even if he’s married , destroy his marriage while she’s not even interested
And that is his part. His choices, his behavior. You're trying to shift blame again. You have this idea in your head that because he makes choices, Emelia gets a free pass. lol
, the damages would be the same as if she had given in.
NOPE lol Him pursuing Emelia would NOT do the same damage has him pursuing Emelia and her pursing him:
a. no sex would take place
b. no pregnancy would happen
c. no children born
Jack can't create children simply by LOOKING at Emelia. lol
HER involvement exacerbates the damage exponentially.
That's my point. Her involvement ADDS to the damage just as Jack's behavior does.
You can sit here with a scorecard and tally each person's behavior up.. SEPARATELY, and measure it SEPARATELY.
They BOTH did damage here.
Proving that only the actions of the husband destroyed the marriage, no matter if the third person is participating or not. Emilia didn’t cause the destruction of the marriage. The husband, his choices and decisions did.
You have this silly idea in your head that doing damage to a marriage is not the same as destroying a marriage. lol
Emelia PISSED ALL OVER it. Jack PISSED ALL OVER it.
It's semantic debate here. I really don't care if you use the word damaged the marriage or destroyed, it really does not matter to me.
No she didn’t cheat Carolyn. If Jack wanted to spend time with his wife, work on his marriage, he wouldn’t have chosen to cheat, spend his time with someone else.
Again you shift blame here:
Jack cheats Carolyn by not putting time into his marriage with Carolyn
Emelia cheats Carolyn by ACCEPTING the time Jack TAKES from Carolyn.
It's basically stolen property she's using up. They are both out joyriding in Carolyn's automobile. lol
Maybe in your head, hadn’t Emilia been there he would be spending more time with his wife which is bs because he clearly wasn’t interested at being with his wife.
Emelia has no business offering her time to a married man. That is my point. Not Jack's time. I am not addressing Jack's behavior. I am addressing Emelia's choice to accept the time of a married man for dinner, sex, etc Emelia has no business accepting that time. She KNOWS that's not hers to have.
Again Jack's interest is separate from Emelia. Just because Jack isn't interested in working on his marriage does not exonerate Emelia for her choices. Emelia's choices are independent of Jack's.. as adults that's how that works.
Jack chooses to neglect his wife.
Jack chooses to invest time into Emelia.
Emelia chooses to accept Jacks' invitations.
Emelia is culpable for HER part. She just had to say "no." It's really not that hard.
Carlolyn wasn’t gonna get that time with her husband even if Emilia wasn’t there.If he wanted to spemd that time wiyh his wife, he could have. Emilioa didn’t force him into anything.
We have NO IDEA how that time MIGHT have been used otherwise. It is pure conjecture on your part to suggest otherwise.
Even if Jack would have otherwise wasted the time and neglected his wife, Emelia would be morally in the clear and not accountable... IF she had sent him away to waste his time elsewhere.
This is the point: Emelia accepts his invitation to use up time promised to another. Her choice, her actions, and her accountability for those choices.
Emelia's not forcing Jack is a straw man. No one here suggests he did.
Jack didn't force Emelia either. They both ACT of their OWN ACCORD. And the DAMAGE that results, they both OWN EQUALLY, by virtue of them both being legal adults over the age of 18. Both willing participants. lol
The married person is the one who has a committement to respect, and if they don’t, it’s only on them.
You keep asserting that, and I just laugh every time I read it.
But you’re the only one responsible for your actions and decisions. Either you choose to act with no morals and destroy what you have, or you choose to not give into temptation.Nothing can affect a marriage if the parties are actually committed unless it’s been forced on them.
You again shift the argument here. No one suggests Emelia is responsible for Jack's actions or the damage that He does.
AGAIN for the THOUSANDTH time now.. I am addressing Emelia's choices, her behavior, and the damage SHE does only.
Jack's behavior is his to own and answer for, as a legal adult.
Well Emilia chose not to control her impulse. But there is nothing she can do to destroy the marriage unless the married one wants to. So she can’t destroy the marriage.
Great, we acknowledge Emelia's choice to allow her behavior to happen.
The fact that Jack has ownership as well does not exonerate Emelia. AGAIN you shift back to Jack. lol
Emelia's decision to indulge her impulses is hers, as is the damage SHE does from that.
Jack decided to allow her to indulge her impulses and he further decided to indulge his own.
Again, BOTH people accountable for their part in the damage to a marriage.
She can’t cause any damage no matter what she does unless the married one allows it.
You covered this. He DID allow it. Great, you NOW acknowledge she DID cause damage.
Wonderful!
It’s the married one ‘s choices and decisions that did .Not so hard to get.You can call Emilia immoral, selfish, immature…but she sure isn’t in any way responsible for the destruction of the marriage unless she forced him.
She's accountable for her behavior, and the damage that results. You can sort out the destruction of the marriage abstraction you create here. It's just semantics.
Emelia acts, she does damage.
Jack acts, he does damage.
Carolyn and William both victims, unaware of the damage happening.
Carolyn and William had their vote taken from Jack, not Emilia.
Emelia OR Jack could have NOT gotten involved in an affair. AGAIN they BOTH make a choice. You are just arguing semantics here now. Destruction, votes, etc.. it's all the same nonsense.
People act, if they are legal adults and damage results, they're accountable for the damage they do.
Again a person can’t be stolen, something you don’t get, do you?
Straw man again.
I said Jack and Emelia steal TIME from Carolyn. TIME is what I said is stolen, not a person. lol
Jack chose to take that vote away from them.Jac is not something you can steal.
straw man
Contradiction only in your head. someone is responsible for their behavior , you can dislike their behavior but can’t blame them for consequences their behavior had nothing to do with.
And who says her behavior did not have consequences? lol
Her behavior has consequences, as does Jacks. You can point fingers like an angry child, OR you can recognize they're both adults.
For the zillion time, Emilia could have walked naked in front of Jack, the marriage was safe
Really? You think that's a safe way for a single female to spend her time with a married man? lol
No. Single women have no business walking naked in front of married men. That is THEIR choice. It invites consequences unless the married guy walks away.
Or Emilia’s behavior couldn’t have consequences without Jack allowing it. It was Jack’s behavior that destroyed the marriage not Emilia’s.
She did damage. Jack did damage. You already admitted that earlier.
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