If Tad Hilgenbrink is gay in real life..
..then I must say, he plays a straight guy very well indeed
Acting is like a Halloween mask that you put on -
River Phoenix
Several actors are gay in real life and still play straight guys very well on-screen. And vice versa. Then again, not many of the actors in this movie were very good actors, in my opinion.
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How do u know he's gay?
Never said I know one way or the other. I was posting a reply to the OP, saying that an actor's sexual persuasion doesn't necessarily enter into what kind of roles they play.
I heard that was just a rumor and on his bio page some gay guys were posting that hoping that this cute guy was a fag
Wow, you actually said "fag". Very 2014 (soon 2015).
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I'm perfectly chill. I'm just trying to be self-aware about choice of words. There's a lot of people on this forum, so I prefer to not use negatively charged words, to avoid making anyone feel excluded or judged.
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If that's the case, let me know how it goes next time you use the N-word in front of African Americans. "It's not really a bad word, y'all just give it too much power"; I'm sure they'll see your point and leave you alone.
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And like I said, I'm sure they'll understand when you explain it like that to them. Especially considering that in the USA, the word was adopted into the English language intended as an oppressive expression.
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Pretty much you are saying that it is wrong for whites to use it but if Blacks do then its alright.
Show me where it says that. I said nothing of the sort. I know that some African Americans use the word among themselves, but I have not commented on that at all.
Besides, you generalize a lot in your reasoning. Among African Americans, there are also those who feel it's wrong to use the word, namely because of the negative connotations, started by white people to oppress the black, and that to use the word amongst themselves to "disarm" it ends up just being a constant reminder of the word's history. Especially those who were alive during the segregation - those who directly felt the impact of that era's points of view; they are very much against the use of such words in any way, shape or form.
They use fag when talking to their partner or trick or community but if a straight person use it, it's wrong. That's hypocrisy.
The same rules apply here. There are people in the gay/lesbian/bisexual community that dislike such words due to their negative connotations.
Either way, if some African Americans think it's okay to use the N-word, or some people from the gay/lesbian/bisexual community think it's okay to use the word "fag" - that is their choice, and not my place to comment on. What my original post said, was that I, myself, prefer not to use such words, so that I don't offend the parts of these communities that dislike such words. And I think that in a modern society, there are many other words to describe a person than to call them N-words, fags, cripples, etc.
Even the description "handicapped person" is on its way out of the vocabulary in some areas of the physically challenged community, due to it's negative connotation regarding the history of people with challenges having to beg for money, hand-in-cap, being viewed as citizens of a lower class. So, even calling a person "handicapped" is beginning to have negative connotations, maybe not as bad as "cripple" so far, but it's getting a bit closer to meaning the same thing.
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You just did by saying that if they choose to use the word then its not your place to comment on it.
Uh, yes, obviously when I mention it as a reply AFTER you said it first, then of course I've talked about it too. But I did not mention it prior to that, which was my point.
I knew you were one of those people that think its not ok for others to use it but if they use it then you look the other way. I can always read people like that as if they are a book.
Not what I said, either. I still think the N-word, the word "fag", and words like "cripple", etc., are not the most fortunate words to use. It's unfortunate - in my opinion - when people from various communities use such words amongst themselves, but it's especially offensive when people who are not members of a specific community use negatively charged words to describe said community. And, as was my point, I choose not to participate in the use of such words either way. So, I think you need reading glasses before you call me an open book.
Also, like I said I have a voice that is really high pitched and people said I was gay or feminine because of it but I didn't give in to bullying or name calling or letting them get the best of me and they stopped because they couldn't get a rise out of me. Also, I didn't hurt me because it meant nothing to me. Gay was just another word to me and so was the word feminine.
I'm glad you didn't allow bullies to get a rise out of you. That's what they intend to do, and I'm glad to hear you managed to keep a cool head. But that just proves my point, though. In their eyes, "gay" and "feminine" was considered less valuable than what they considered to be acceptable members of society, and by describing you in such ways, they intended to make you feel bad and less worth as a human being.
The use of words like "fag", "cripple" and the N-word is very often intended to be just as degrading and judgemental. You managed to not feel offended by such words, which is commendable. But there are others who can feel very judged and hurt by such words, which is why I personally choose not to use them, because I happen to care whether I offend someone or not, and I want to be aware of the history behind certain words, so that I don't end up coming across as a person who has a problem with race, sexual persuasion, or physical challenges.
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