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Connor's problem

posted 9 years ago by skeptic88
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Connor's problem is that he liked and chase a hot blonde.

It has nothing to do with him being a friendzone, but that Scarlett Jo never liked him to begin with.

He finally ends up with Drew Barrymore, who does like him.

I have seen guys who complains about girls friendzoning them, only to discover that the girl never like them and finally ending the friendship.

If she likes you, you will know from the beginning. The same with girls.

Anna was nice enough to be his friend, but she just didn't like him and he was never entitled to anything.

Unlike in the movies, guys like Connor would had ended up with a restraining order because when a girl says NO, it means NO!

[–] alzanden-1 9 years ago

It wasn't all Connor. She led him on a lot, called him sweetie, got his hopes up, SLEPT with him on occasion. Connor wasn't some crazy stalker, he had reason to believe she liked him, or at least couldn't see her true intentions through his rose colored glasses.

She only wanted him for the attention. When she had nothing better going on he was a good ego booster, she knew how much he liked her and she not only thrived on it, but she encouraged it, but then would leave him hanging when something better came along.

Notice how fast she said yes to being in a relationship with him after getting burned by the married guy? She was hurt and embarrassed so she went running back to Connor.

[–] Rpdsf 9 years ago

You're absolutely right.

[–] Jupiter555555 9 years ago

She led him on a lot, called him sweetie, got his hopes up, SLEPT with him on occasion. Connor wasn't some crazy stalker, he had reason to believe she liked him

I don't necessary disagree with you but if a guy does all those things to a girl, you still tell her she's stupid to believe he likes her and crazy to act like it's more than what it was.

She only wanted him for the attention. When she had nothing better going on he was a good ego booster, she knew how much he liked her and she not only thrived on it, but she encouraged it, but then would leave him hanging when something better came along.

Duh and that's what happens when you go for someone out of your league.

[–] charlotte_goldenblatt 9 years ago

I thought it was pretty obvious that Anna led him on. Especially when she felto let and needed attention she'd call him for an ego boost.

[–] Pmdmnym 9 years ago

Totally. She led him on and used him. She was a complete bitch. and he was a sad sack.

[–] Jupiter555555 9 years ago

I agree with you, OP. The male ego is too sensitive I guess for there to be a movie or book telling them the bold truth: When a girl "friend zones" you it's because she's out of your league. If this happens to you often, stop chasing girls who are out of your league. Over and out.

[–] lordofwhimsy-41776 8 years ago

Women back at it again with judgmental stupidity.

[–] broomulack 7 years ago

I don't think it was because she was out of his league. It was because he was weak and sappy and didn't challenge her in any way. Women test men constantly, and the more you 'fail' these tests, the less attracted they get, and eventually you're in the friends zone permanently.

Can't make yourself too available, can't be so complimentary, and certainly can't act needy.

[–] aqib4 7 years ago

Since she had slept with him in the past its pretty obvious she doesn't think he isn't good enough for her. She just didn't think he was THE guy. Who hasn't gone on 1-2 dates with someone and they didn't do anything to turn you off but you just didn't think the chemistry was right. Just like he passed on Ginnifer Goodwin and went out with Drew Barrymore. I personally find Ginnifer Goodwin more attractive then Drew Barrymore but other disagree.

[–] broomulack 7 years ago

That's all fine and good if she had just told him she wasn't interested, or just tried to be friends. But she constantly went back to him when things went wrong elsewhere, even knowing he had feelings for her. That's wrong. But at the same time, he completely invited that behavior by accepting it.