he goes on about how this is his 3rd wedding and how does it make him look. well lots of girls tend to look forward to getting married so he shouldve shut up and let carrie have her one & only wedding - since he already had 2, instead of implying she should just be ok with a courthouse wedding. dink
shareI'm with you there. I've noticed that throughout the series...Carrie was always giving in to Big, always trying to justify his ways and never fully putting herself first. He should have never bitched about the guest list or anything to do with the wedding. After all he put her through, he should have told her "Whatever you want, Carrie." At the very least, she should have said to him "Hey, it's my one and only wedding. It's not my fault it took you til the third try to get it right!" She was probably afraid he would retreat back to singledom and dump her needy ass again. That's no way to live, people!
shareCarrie was always giving in to Big, always trying to justify his ways and never fully putting herself first.
He should have never bitched about the guest list or anything to do with the wedding.
After all he put her through,
she should have said to him "Hey, it's my one and only wedding. It's not my fault it took you til the third try to get it right!"
Agreed. Because of who she was, the wedding was going to be somewhat newsworthy with 75 guests or 200 guests. She was in Vogue, for goodness sakes! The horse had left the barn already when it came to the wedding being publicized.
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Vincent Kartheiser and Alexis Bledel managed to get married quietly in June with guests like Jon Hamm and Matt Weiner, and they kept it out of the papers until yesterday. Just sayin'.
The whole wedding fiasco in the SatC movie further drove home for me Carrie's obsession with appearances over substance. She used the Westwood dress (which I loathed) as an excuse to keep blowing up the wedding. While Big was off designing and paying for the closet of Carrie's dreams in the gorgeous new penthouse apartment, she was living out some fantasy that others were imposing on her, starting with that dress. Just 'cause Westwood gave it to her didn't mean she had to wear it. And just 'cause 125 additional people wanted to come to her wedding didn't mean she had to invite them. She had a much easier time saying "no" to her supposed beloved than to people who DON'T MATTER.
When she blamed the dress I interpreted that as sarcasm. The wedding would have blown up no matter what.
shareReally? Nothing in her intonation or facial expression suggested to me that Carrie was being sarcastic. (I.e., her trademark exaggerated eyeroll was totally missing.) She may have used the dress as an excuse, but the wedding didn't "blow up" on its own. It gave Carrie entrée to the event she clearly wanted her wedding to be, which would have been fine if she'd been upfront with Big about that sooner than, oh, the rehearsal dinner. :-)
shareExactly i hated that part. I also hated how Carrie didn't answer him by going 'but its my FIRST marriage'. That should have been enough to shut his selfish ass up. Since when does anyone notice the guy at a wedding anyway?
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Since when does anyone notice the guy at a wedding anyway?
To you maybe, most people are just patiently awaiting to see the bride and her dress. Hence the reason why the bride gets to have the grand entrance on the wedding day.
Exactly, I agree totally.
The selfish git!!
Big is the biggest twit. There's something so vulgar about him without being obvious. Selfish is right.
I'm a seeker too. But my dreams aren't like yours...
He was always insensitive throughout the whole series. I mean, how could he easily marry Natasha, without blinking, but with Carrie, he had cold feet? Then not wanting to give her her dream wedding. I don't see what she saw in him. He always seemed to treat her like crap.
Well, I mean like, ok so...
Big had been married twice before but for all we know both weddings might have been at City Hall.
Get me a bromide! And put some gin in it!
Actually, where he had his first wedding is never mentioned but hodie, i guess you never watched the series because in Season 3, ep 3, "Attack of the 5'10 Woman"
Charlotte reads the wedding announcement, Big and Natasha were married in South Hampton... They had a big fancy wedding, and in my opinion, Carrie deserved the same.
"Go and find your life Miss Skeeter"~ The Help
There are quite a few things that bother me about Big. In this movie, I truly hate the way he throws the doors open and shows Carrie her friends. Yes, it was a nice thing to do but he gets entirely too excited.
This leads me back to the last episode of the show, when Carrie is in Paris. When she accidentally tells him that the Russian slapped her, he goes straight into warrior mode, flying up the stairs with Carrie behind him. When they get to the top floor and she trips him, they roll around and start giggling, forgetting all about the Russian. Then, when they are walking down the street, he teases her about how she came to France only to be slapped. More giggling. He has just never struck me as a giggler.
Anyone feel the same?
And you sittin' there waitin' for him, just like a spider.
I disagree with that, actually. There were a few times during the series where he openly joked around and laughed with/at Carrie - when she farted in bed, when she had to write that poem for the wedding ("love, glove, dove"), when they fell in the pool at the country club because she was trying to avoid his kiss. He wasn't an overly emotional person in general, but there were times when you could see that he had a sense of humor. Carrie brought it out in him. The giggling about the Russian and the excitement after the wedding I think were just signs that Big was genuinely happy at the time.
shareWhat you say makes sense. I was reminded of the episode where they fall into to pond at Central Park. It's just something in his face that seem really goofy and not like his character usually was.
And you sittin' there waitin' for him, just like a spider.
Completely agree. Big was funny in the series. He was always joking and making funny comments and having a laugh. His moments of doing similar in the movies were very in keeping with his character.
shareexactly. Even the engagement party was held at The Plaza. Big clearly had no problem with splashing out for Natasha.
sharePersonally, I thought his reaction made a bit of sense. He was caught off guard. Last he heard, the wedding was going to be 75 people, and then she goes and throws the number "200" at him out of the blue. That's more than double what he was expecting.
I think the difference was that, to Big, the "wedding" was really more of a formality and just something on his "To-Do" List. Pick up groceries, close the deal on the new apartment, get married, schedule meeting with business associates, etc. He wanted to get on with his life as normal as quickly as possible, and he didn't think that he and Carrie were "big wedding" people (she even declined an engagement ring). Granted, he could have been a bit more sensitive to the fact that it was her first wedding, but I think Carrie could have also done a better job of communicating just how important the wedding was to her. Up until that point, she had taken the same stance as he had - we're grown ups now, we're practically married anyway, let's just get the piece of paper and make it official. No muss, no fuss. It was a bigger deal to her than she let on, or even initially realized. And when she figured it out, she didn't talk to him about it. She just sprung it on him out of nowhere.
I agree with tigerlily, she kept adding and adding to the wedding without telling him.
Later when she says she kept talking about how she said "I, I, I" in the article and never "we" she was spot on. A wedding, as much as a girl plans her day, is about BOTH the bride and groom. She basically stopped communicating to him, and he freaked. This was about more than a fancy wedding, it was about her turning into a Bridezilla and him wondering where the woman he proposed to went.
BTW I'm not justifying what he did either, I was furious for him and was cheering when she hit him with the flowers, he should have ALSO communicated with her, and believed her when she tried to put his fears to rest.
My feeling is that she wanted the small wedding at the court house as well, until the dress came into the picture.
She even say's to him when he asks how it got up to 200 "It's the dress" and likens it to poker and upping the ante. The big wedding to me was about her showing off her gorgeous Vivianne Westwood wedding gown, it wasn't about her and him anymore.
"It's the dress" was such a feeble excuse. It was Carrie's weak-willed submission to keeping up appearances, IMO. I elaborated in a post above.
shareWell you can't really blame her for that.
shareBut why is everything about him? throughout their relationship everything was always about him. Carrie was always walking on eggshells around him, adjusting her life to his, trying not to upset him so he wouldn't bolt. He kept jerking her around, being all nice and loved up and then just announcing that he would be moving to paris for a while.
After all that, why should Carrie have to keep doing all that? Why should she have to keep adjusting everything to his needs? I think her needs, what she wants should be at the forefront for once.
But why is everything about him? throughout their relationship everything was always about him. Carrie was always walking on eggshells around him, adjusting her life to his, trying not to upset him so he wouldn't bolt. He kept jerking her around, being all nice and loved up and then just announcing that he would be moving to paris for a while.
After all that, why should Carrie have to keep doing all that? Why should she have to keep adjusting everything to his needs? I think her needs, what she wants should be at the forefront for once.
Thank you! I completely agree.
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