I blame Charlotte for the jilt, not Miranda... - Sex and the City (2008) Discussion

[–] Princess_Ashmi 11 years ago

1. I'm sure she did teach her that. But the greedy daughter still stole. So technically its the daughters fault

2. Lol do you really think she was going to listen and happily go back into the venue with him after bashing him over the head with her bouquet?

3. Again it wouldn't have happened. Theres no way she would have called Big even if Miranda did explain. And Charlotte was right to tell her to wait a while, after all the hype shes just been through i think the last thing she needs to hear is the fact that her good friend may have been the one who talked him out of it.

But having said that i dont think Miranda is to blame either. Only person to blame is Big for freaking out again. I understand he got cold feet but when he eventually got through to Carrie he shouldn't have said he was driving away, he should have explained that he couldnt walk in and needed her to talk him into it again.

Ashmi any question

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[–] allearned 11 years ago

Clearly Big is the one to blame here. If he really wanted to get married, then none of this other silliness would matter.

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[–] happyphantom9 10 years ago

Seriously. You shouldn't have to worry about the person you're going to marry getting wishy washy or being easily influenced by things other people say. If Big really wanted to marry her that day he would have shown up.

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[–] happyphantom9 10 years ago

Seriously. You shouldn't have to worry about the person you're going to marry getting wishy washy or being easily influenced by things other people say. If Big really wanted to marry her that day he would have shown up.

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[–] happyphantom9 10 years ago

The only person to blame is BIG himself. He made the decision to jilt her.

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[–] erisedwitch45 10 years ago

Ikr. It was Big's fault. No one else's. That why I don't understand why Carrie is so p!ssed at Miranda after the Valentine Day dinner? Big is a grown up completely capable of making his own decisions. He is not a child who can be influenced by just 1 line from Miranda!

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[–] anni_boo 10 years ago

big is an azzhole

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[–] sonomagirl2120 10 years ago

I just re watched this movie again and was appalled again at how Carrie put all the blame on Miranda. It was totally Big's fault for humiliating Carrie at the altar. She should never have spoken to him again.

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[–] KayeBee 9 years ago

I don't think she was putting all the blame on Miranda. I think she was hurt and upset that her supposed best friend knew that she was blaming herself for not being good enough for Big to go through with the wedding when Miranda knew for a fact that it had nothing to do with Carrie. To watch your friend tear herself up over why he did not want to marry her and not telling her the real reason was just plain wrong.

When people get dumped, they eat themselves alive wondering what they did to drive the other person away. If it were your friend, would you withhold information that would relieve that pain and self loathing? I for one would be a good enough friend to risk losing my friend in order to protect them. The first real test of loyalty and Miranda failed. All because she was hurting and was not happy until she hurt everyone else.

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[–] Petals121 9 years ago

But what is the real reason Big did what he did? I don't think it's fair putting all the blame at Miranda's feet for Big not showing up. He is a grown man. He is responsible for his own actions. if he actually wanted to be there he would have.

Blaming Miranda for Big being an *beep* isn't fair.

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[–] KayeBee 9 years ago

I don't think she was putting all the blame on Miranda. I think she was hurt and upset that her supposed best friend knew that she was blaming herself for not being good enough for Big to go through with the wedding when Miranda knew for a fact that it had nothing to do with Carrie. To watch your friend tear herself up over why he did not want to marry her and not telling her the real reason was just plain wrong.

When people get dumped, they eat themselves alive wondering what they did to drive the other person away. If it were your friend, would you withhold information that would relieve that pain and self loathing? I for one would be a good enough friend to risk losing my friend in order to protect them. The first real test of loyalty and Miranda failed. All because she was hurting and was not happy until she hurt everyone else.

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[–] samixsaysxhi 9 years ago

Yeah, it was 1000% Bigs fault and no one else

you are not a beautiful and unique snowflake.

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[–] eileen-guthrie555 8 years ago

I disagree. i think Carrie is partially to blame. She knew he was uncomfortable with the BIG WEDDING item and yet she went ahead and did the big wedding anyway. As she said later that it was all about her and not about them as a couple. He wanted a small wedding and at the beginning so did she, but then her boss Enid kind of change all that for her by doing the wedding photo spread (and personally I though those gowns were ugly, especially the Dior). Personally, I would have married Aiden. He was more stable but Carrie needed chaos and only Big could do that.

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[–] TotheWatersandtheWild 8 years ago

@Eileen, can't disagree with anything you wrote. Including

I would have married Aiden.

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[–] whyceenator 7 years ago

Carrier wasn't good enough for Aiden.
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[–] Moonlighty 8 years ago

Being "stable" doesn't mean he'd be a good husband for Carrie. There are a lot of guys who look good on paper but you just aren't soul mates with. People who fantasize about being with Aidan seem to warp what happened on the show based on what THEY would do and not what the character Carrie should have done.

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[–] TrentinaNE 10 years ago

I blame the writers for concocting such a stupid storyline.

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[–] first-things-first 10 years ago

I blame Big. He didn't wear his big boy pants and didn't talk to her. He left, Carrie's big fear about him. Had they portrayed Big with any other flaw, I might say yes.

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[–] Goombas84 9 years ago

OP i had the same thoughts! To interfere between 2 people is just wrong.

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[–] Moonlighty 9 years ago

It was a library not a church.

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[–] beetiesmom 9 years ago

Miranda would scare the pants off anybody....no doubt, Big was so shocked by her poison-spitting rage, he turned tail and ran. Probably afraid she'd have his b-lls if he would have tried to see Carrie at that point (stupid Miranda).

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[–] Moonlighty 9 years ago

If an upset Miranda could throw off his game that easily, he was extremely weak willed in the first place.

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[–] Kimrubymoon 9 years ago

Miranda, scary??? Why is it when a woman is direct and honest about her feelings, it is perceived as scary? True, she should've thought about it before she said it (especially to a runner like Big) and her comment was extremely I'll-timed, but I'd hardly call her scary.

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[–] BrandiStarBright 9 years ago

I Just watched the scene again. And he got out and immediately apologized. But Carrie probably heard nothing but the beat of her heart. Had she just stopped for a moment and let him speak, let them get their barrings, they would have been alright. No one knew that he left her, except her best friends. So they COULD have went and gotten married.

I see what you mean about Charlotte.

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[–] Moonlighty 9 years ago

No I don't think if your fiancé jilts you but comes back everything is just going to be a-ok

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[–] angel1008 9 years ago

I really don't think Big deserves total blame here. They are a couple, and Carrie's over the top wedding was not what they had planned on. The list grew and he knew nothing about it. I am getting married, and my fiance and I go over the list together, so that there are no surprises later.

Think about this: She didn't want a diamond, and even Samantha said that "after that mess with Aiden, I didn't think you would want to get married". She had planned a pretty good wedding affair with Aiden, and it didn't work. So, she and Big decided on a small, intimate wedding. As soon as she got that hideous dress, that was all she could think about. She allowed her friends a say when she showed them the label-less dress, and made it seem as if it wasn't good enough. All Big wanted to do was walk in with her, and she made that spectacle on the street. Granted, if my fiance did that, I would be pissed, but I would at least let him try to talk to me. Nowadays someone with a smartphone would have videoed her clobbering him and it would have been all over the internet!

No, it's not totally Big's fault. A businessman like himself would not let a few words from Miranda dissuade him.

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[–] Moonlighty 9 years ago

Someone changing their minds from a small wedding to a big wedding where money is not an object is not an acceptable excuse.

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[–] royalkma 8 years ago

Lily was just a little girl putting a phone in her purse, I don't think she would think she was keeping people from speaking to each other, she was just playing. Big could have called any of the girls to get a hold of Carrie.

There was no way Carrie could go back to the church & marry Big after what he did. I thought of that too but then I realised how it would look because at that time Samantha was telling the guests it wasn't happpening. So, what then? she returns to the church with Big looking like she had to talk him into going through w it? That's why she was humiliated.

the last one? I agree w you, Miranda should have told her right away. I think what she said definately affected what happened that day.

....just my opinion.

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