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For the last time, Jordan didn't rape Naomi...


I've seen so many people accusing him of raping her near the end of the movie but let's go over the facts,

She never told him to stop, she said "Get off me", and when she says that he does stop and asks her not to act like that. He doesn't make another move until she starts grinding him and tells him that she wants him to *beep* her real hard. So basically when she tells him to get off, he stops but then she starts it back up again. If he stopped then I'm sure he would have gotten off of her if she really wanted him to. It's not like he was holding her down and she was screaming. All she had to do was say "Let me up" and he probably would have done it.

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It was not rape. If she said she did not want it in a firm way, he would not have done it.

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No means no. Stop means stop. Let's go again means "I forgot the safe word, sorry" or "I love mixed messages. It fracks mens minds".

Now, which one was it? My thoughts? They forgot to even agree on a safe word, never mind her forgetting it.

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Ohhh so now, it wasn't that she used the "wrong" words, but her delivery wasn't "firm" enough............ Okay.

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Yep, he would not have done it; he was a reasonable man, after all. And straight after, if she'd told him not to punch her repeatedly, he wouldn't have done that either.

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Watch it again, it's clearly a rape scene. And yes she does indeed say stop. Along with get off of me, and I hate you Jordan. But this scene is clever in that it's intentionally manipulated by the narrator (jordan) to appear like it was them making "love". Notice the hump cut between her saying stop and then him penetrating her with Naomi having a disgusted look on her face, almost ready to cry. She then says get off me and he starts to care, at which point she makes him cum to give him what he wants. Its the only choice she thought she had that gave her some power.

This scenario is consistent with the films themes of manipulation by the main character, him dictating which aspects of his life we are allowed to see, as well as him never taking no for an answer. The scene is meant to spark debate as to whether or not it was 'rape'. He was *beep* people over the whole film. To me it would be incredibly odd to put this scene at the climax of the narrative if its merely another sex scene.

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I guess explanations.

Aren't for everyone. :)

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Crazy people today can come up with all the excuses in the world to back up all of their insane notions.

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Watched it again.

It wasn't rape.


Yes it was you filthy victim blaming rapist apologist scum bag.

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I want you to understand something. Anyone with a brain, anyone who is socially conscious, anyone who accepts and loves traditional male and female intercourse, anyone with common sense can see that Jordan did not rape Naomi. However, people are so sensitive to sex and the treatment of women that a man who gives a woman a flirtatious grin can be "harassing" her. A man's low voice and powerful demeanor is enough to scare women into thinking that they have no choice, that they're being forced to do things that they wouldn't normally do themselves. They don't realize that that's the point. They don't realize that men and women are designed for this strong versus weak, dominant versus submissive routine. To hate on men is to hate on the nature of humanity. Everyone who condemns Jordan for what he did to Naomi in that scene are brainwashed to the point of being psychotic. You have to be nuts to think of sex with such a touchy, jumpy and spiteful attitude. It's completely antisocial.

BTW, to you oversensitive people, I don't hate women. I love women. Real rape is absolutely incomprehensible and disgusting to me. But by calling Jordan a rapist in this scene, you're really, really reaching.

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It most certainly was not a consensual act. Naomi did not want him, she wasn't enthusiastic about him, she despised him. She had already decided by this point that she no longer loved him and wanted a divorce: what he did, in my mind, was assaultive.

BTW, to you oversensitive people, I don't hate women. I love women. Real rape is absolutely incomprehensible and disgusting to me. But by calling Jordan a rapist in this scene, you're really, really reaching.


Based on your posting history, you love the Stepford Wife. You've got a lot of warped ideas about gender and sex, some of which you've showcased here. People aren't oversensitive; you're just a creep.

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It most certainly was not a consensual act. Naomi did not want him, she wasn't enthusiastic about him, she despised him. She had already decided by this point that she no longer loved him and wanted a divorce: what he did, in my mind, was assaultive.



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BTW, to you oversensitive people, I don't hate women. I love women. Real rape is absolutely incomprehensible and disgusting to me. But by calling Jordan a rapist in this scene, you're really, really reaching.
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Based on your posting history, you love the Stepford Wife. You've got a lot of warped ideas about gender and sex, some of which you've showcased here. People aren't oversensitive; you're just a creep.


Amen, By the way, don't let this creep make you back down from downgrading your word from rape to "assaultive." That's what the creep wants. Call it what it was: Rape, until she finally consented. But it was rape the first 2/3's and there's no excuse for that. No need to soften it by calling it "assaultive."

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This isn't the kind of barbaric rape you're thinking about, but it's rape nevertheless because it's forced. Consider the context of the scene; Naomi wants nothing to do with this man anymore, plans on divorcing and moving away from him, and right before says "good for you" when he discusses his future. She then explicitly says "stop jordan" but he thinks it's a part of the game so continues, then we have the jump cut to her clearly not enjoying this act of 'love' while saying "i hate you jordan". This isn't brutal rape at all, but just because it's between a married couple doesn't mean it can't be considered rape. Rape is simply forced sex.

It's an intentionally ambiguous scene, but for my money there's no reason to include a sex scene at that point in the film without some intention by the filmmakers. The intentions to me are that even when this character has everything he wants, he can't get enough. Even when his wife is surely done with him, he needs to have full control over her. He forced her into having sex because, like the investors and all the other sheep he manipulates, they have no say in the matter. Don't take no for an answer. This is the wolf's game. And the wolf always wins.

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Holy crap. This is bone chilling. All of these rape apologists in one area is making my skin crawl. We all know that you scum bags exist, but to see your thought process is just absolutely horrifying.

He was dead weight, two and a half times her size laying on her, and she CLEARLY didn't want it. Anyone "with a brain, anyone who is socially conscious, anyone who accepts and loves traditional male and female intercourse, anyone with common sense can see that."



A man's low voice and powerful demeanor is enough to scare women into thinking that they have no choice, that they're being forced to do things


Thanks for the comic relief, buddy! 'Delusion of grandeur' much?!?!? 

They don't realize that men and women are designed for this strong versus weak, dominant versus submissive routine.


Wow... the true rapist ideology. "It's natural!" ::::shudder::::

Everyone who condemns Jordan for what he did to Naomi in that scene are brainwashed to the point of being psychotic. You have to be nuts to think of sex with such a touchy, jumpy and spiteful attitude. It's completely antisocial.

Funny I was going to say the same thing to you. The more I read of your words the more certain I became that you are psychotic.




I need to go take a shower.


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what he did to his wife is rape

what he did to the customers was financial rape

Jordan preys on people like a pedophile and i hope he gets his comeuppance

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Well said.

"Sell me this pen."

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If someone tells you to stop and you continue, that's rape (barring role play scenario's agreed in advance).

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For Christ's sake, he hesitated until she said "fine" and invited him to "*beep* her like it's the last time". I despise rape culture as much as the next person but I think oversensitivity and jumping the gun trivializes the issue and makes the good cause look ridiculous.

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For Christ's sake, he hesitated until she said "fine" and invited him to "*beep* her like it's the last time". I despise rape culture as much as the next person but I think oversensitivity and jumping the gun trivializes the issue and makes the good cause look ridiculous.


It's weird how you people saw something entirely different. Both myself and the person I was with (a man if it matters) agreed it was rape. And he wouldn't have just said that to go along with me, as we disagree all the time.

He did not stop right away when she told him to . He kept going and then finally her mind changed as if she decided since it's the last time, out of pity, she'd let him have one more... but he did NOT stop. He kept going as she told him repeatedly to get off of her. She also struggled to get up but he's very heavy, much bigger than her and was drunk, it looked like she was trying to get dead wood off of her and couldn't.

Just because she wasn't horrified and screaming her head off doesn't mean it wasn't rape. He didn't respect her wishes to get off of her body. THAT'S rape. There doesn't have to be weaponry and blood curdling shrieks involved.

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Whoa, I can't believe how many people are saying this somehow wasn't a rape scene... Do you people think sex is really supposed to be like that? With one person begging to stop and near tears? Just wow.

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Whoa, I can't believe how many people are saying this somehow wasn't a rape scene... Do you people think sex is really supposed to be like that? With one person begging to stop and near tears? Just wow.


I agree 

For the most part, though, not sure if this is consolation but it seems as though MOST of the guys who disagreed it was rape somehow managed to delude themselves into seeing something different. I've seen the scene described multiple times as Jordan stopped at first, until she said go ahead "like it's the last time." I only saw the movie once, but I'm pretty sure he didn't stop after the first request from her. That constitutes rape. Maybe these guys saw what they wanted to see, and they wanted to see him stop, so that's good I guess. Only one person online actually defended him not stopping with a bone-chilling, deranged essay about how men and women are "designed" for this "dominance and submissiveness" in the mating game.

We all knew rapists exist, but it's really horrifying to read their thought process written out.

In any event, as I stated above, I do believe most men know that the first "no" (or any synonym) must be respected.

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I agree it was rape but he was not drunk. Remember he had his ankle brace on. He took drugs after.

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Wowwwwwwwww.........

Yes. He raped her. Yes "get off" means stop. I saw the film and your account is wrong. He did NOT stop right away. He kept going until she finally gave in and decided since it was the last time okay go ahead... BUT she resisted several times first. SEVERAL times. Just because she wasn't screaming or using the exact words you think she should have doesn't mean sh//t.

All she had to do was say "Let me up" and he probably would have done it.


"Probably."

wow.........

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Yeah, there's no question he rapes her. She says 'no', and then he's humping her. AFTER that, after he's already started raping her, she does the whole 'cum for me one last time thing' because, as someone else pointed out, it's the only choice she has left. But it is a rape scene. She says no, and he starts banging her anyway. I don't know how much clearer it could have been.

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Yeah, there's no question he rapes her. She says 'no', and then he's humping her. AFTER that, after he's already started raping her, she does the whole 'cum for me one last time thing' because, as someone else pointed out, it's the only choice she has left. But it is a rape scene. She says no, and he starts banging her anyway. I don't know how much clearer it could have been.


Exactly. Should we be terrified as a society that this is even being debated???

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Not rape at all. Wtf is wrong with people?!

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So, about 3-5 signs of "don't do it" followed up (in the middle of it all) by A "*beep* it, finish it off quick then" equals a yes to you? That is scary.

Why am I Mr. Pink?

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It wasn't rape. She didn't enjoy it, but she didn't make it clear that she was unhappy about it until after it was over. Some people are too sensitive to the topic of rape that they see it where it clearly didn't happen.

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It was a clear rape. When she taunted him to cum, she did it because she had resigned to it and wanted it to finish as soon as possible.

It's not even a matter of reading her body language. She clearly tells him to stop.

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I know a lady who was full-on, brutally raped once, and when I suggested to her that this scene was a rape, she burst out laughing.

However unwillingly, grudgingly she goes through with it, she still goes through with it. Reluctance doesn't constitute rape. I'm a man and I've had sex when I didn't want to, to pacify a lady. I guess I was raped as well, then.

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I know a lady who was full-on, brutally raped once, and when I suggested to her that this scene was a rape, she burst out laughing.


That's terrible that your friend was raped--but her being raped does not make her the authority on the subject.

The big moments are gonna come. You can't help that. It's what you do afterwards that counts.

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No, no one's an authority on the subject, but I think she has a better idea than a lot of those who come to the subject armed with ideology and very little else. She's also European, which may have lots to do with it---the North American attitude to these kinds of things she finds baffling.

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So what about the rape victims who do believe Jordan raped Naomi?

The big moments are gonna come. You can't help that. It's what you do afterwards that counts.

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She raped him when he had stopped, and then she continued to grind on him without his express verbal consent.

Please excuse any typos, this was typed on an iPad

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I guess I've been raped then because I've not particularly wanted to do it at times but just caved in and been like fine lets just get on with it.... damn over sensitive nonsense humans come out with.... we will fear touching woman one day unless they sign a contract before hand.

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