He would not submit to a bath either.Joey refused to take a shower because doing so meant he would have to take off his clothes.He did not want to take off his clothes and shower because in his mind, Wendy (Mira Sorvino) and Rip (Barry Pepper) were strangers to him, and their home was not his home, their home felt strange to him. He felt uncomfortable showering in a house that was not his home, in a bathroom that was not "his" familiar comfortable safe bathroom, with adults he did not know in the next room.It was all about safety. He did not feel safe getting naked and showering near people who were strangers to him, he did not feel safe taking a shower in a tub/bathroom/house that he wasn't familiar with, especially since the people he considered his parents were not there.If he showered in their house it would mean he felt safe and comfortable in their house and trusted them as he trusted his adoptive parents. A mental step he either was not ready and/or refused to take.It was him saying, forget about it, this isn't my bathroom, this isn't my home, you're not my parents, I'm not taking a shower, because as far as I'm concerned you're strangers and this isn't my tub and this will never be my home.No one is to blame for how that situation played out, other than social services for mishandling the entire situation (he should have been told from Day 1 that he was adopted and his birth parents wanted him back, the adoptive parents and birth parents should have met before he was reunited with his birth parents, and a joint-custody agreement between both families should have been reached, instead of lying to the child and cutting the adoptive parents - whom raised him since infancy - out of his life forever).
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