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I wish I could've seen the adoptive mom...

posted 12 years ago by SirenX
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...beat her sister's ass after what she did!

What a horrible sister! I'm not at all close with either of my sisters (we were raised in different, distant households) but I would have never betrayed them the way she did. It would be one thing if she really did feel like the child's interest was at stake, or if she was trying to save her sister from making a big mistake, but that wasn't her agenda. If that was her true motive, she would have brought up the fact that she knew what they're real plan was BEFORE they left for Haiti. Why get the authorities involved before even talking to them and giving them the opportunity to change their minds? She could've at least notified that social worker lady before they left if she was too much of a coward to talk to her sister first.

You could especially tell she did it for selfish reasons when she was telling her husband about them. Her first complaint was "they used us, they used the church" not "OMG I'm never gonna see my sister and her family again" or "They're making a huge mistake". She was just mad they didn't tell her and used her righteous Christian attitude to justify her betrayal. I'm glad her husband at least had some sense.

[–] Anniston 12 years ago

It seems that sister had a disillusioned faith in God and I like how that was foreshadowed in the movie by her saying she wanted to take Joey to church.

It is unfortunate she thought she was within her rights to make that phone call. Though, I would think Joey's mom wouldn't resort to violence when learning of the betrayal.

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[–] rugle1 12 years ago

To SirenX - Regardless that you perceive this to be the sister's "Christian attitude", how about the fact that the couple implicated the Church and the Mission Workers in a kidnapping scheme for what they considered in their self-centered mindset to be the greater good; for something they had no knowledge of, this would have had a detrimental effect on those innocent people's lives forever.

[–] Andy-1981 12 years ago

To SirenX - Regardless that you perceive this to be the sister's "Christian attitude", how about the fact that the couple implicated the Church and the Mission Workers in a kidnapping scheme for what they considered in their self-centered mindset to be the greater good; for something they had no knowledge of, this would have had a detrimental effect on those innocent people's lives forever.

Excellent post. It's funny how the the first couple posters ignored the fact that the adoptive parents were committing a felony (or several) by taking the child out of the country. Regardless of the sister's motivations, it WAS the right thing to do to make that phone call. And I say this as someone who isn't even a Christian.

[–] ShieraSeastar 12 years ago

I dont care what any of you say, when you would lose your child that you have raised for severel years and you love that child, you will do anything to keep him.. Felony or not, i would have done the same!! And maybe the intentions of the sister where good, she still had no right to do so! What if joey in the end did have to go to his real parents and the father would hit him? .. put yourself in their position and think about how you would react!

[–] Andy-1981 12 years ago

.... and "rights" have nothing to do with it as far as the sister was concerned. The adoptive parents were the ones who didn't have a "right"... a legal right!

The sister didn't want to live her life with an illegal kidnapping on her conscience, that's why she did what she did. I don't give a damn about feelings, the law is the law and if you break it, you get punished.

Let me ask you something, since you're so sanctimonious about being in someone's position, then put YOURSELF in their position. Tell me, after kidnapping your adopted child and illegally leaving the country, what would be your next move?

What exactly would you plan on doing next? Live your life in exile, not ever able to set foot in the U.S. ever again because you'd be arrested? Avoiding countries that have extradition to the U.S. because you'd get shipped back to face felony charges? Living your entire life as fugitives from justice?

What sort of effect do you think that would have on your child? Living his entire life that way? Yeah, I'm sure that would set a great example for the child and result in NO emotional scarring at all!

[–] OhmsLaw 11 years ago

In the book, the sister Beth actually prays to God to cause something to happen to bring her sister Molly to Him. ALL of Beth's thinking was based on her religion. When something does occur, she never feels any guilt for her wish. When she realizes her sister and brother-in-law plan to run, her first thought was NOT that it was against the law, but that it was "against God". She actually makes 2 phone calls, I think to the judge also, before leaving to Haiti. It was her own husband who tells her that by letting the boy go live with his birth parents, he would be beaten or killed (that is not in the book) and the birth mother realizes it also, the reason she makes the decision she does. She knows without a doubt he would be beating on the boy also.

At the end of the book, Molly screams at Beth "How could you?!". But she is all forgiving when everything works out ok. Had it not, she would have never talked to her again.

The book could be maddening but kept my interest. Thankfully, we don't get to hear in the movie the too-adult, saccharine thoughts the little boy has.