Moral of the story basically is.... *spoilers*
Having seen this movie and read the book.....I can conclude this:-
It is ok to cheat on your husband
I understand her hardships- move to a new country in an arranged marriage to a man you are incompatible with...fair enough, I understand. However they did grow closer as a couple...esp after her son dies and he was a good man.
Woman are forced into marriages to men who beat them, who humiliate and taunt them....they are forced into marriages where they are made to do appauling things. Chanu (her husband, if i got the name right) wasnt any of those things....ok he spoke more than he did anything (dont most men?) and he supported her decision to stay in the UK.....he was also adjusting to married life and he was a devout father....
But where is his justice?
Seeing as he goes back to his home country...and she stays put in the UK, she will no doubt....find many many more Karims? Now she doesnt have to sneak around...she can sleep with whom she likes.
I dont think she cared much about her children either. Her affair meant more than the welfare of her family.....her children loved and need their father...
but her priority was to stay in the UK...have her affairs and deprive her children of a father who loved them- considering the number of children out there who have no father/awful fathers- they had it lucky.
I know of many many famileis who have moved back to their homelands....who get through the hardships as a family.
And anyone who says arranged marriages are tough/help groups...etc....keep in mind, it is just like a 'normal' marriage, where u meet someone and wish to marry them. Both can break apart or both can be happy and fulfilling....
Sure there are help groups for people forced into arrange marriages...jus as there are thousands if not millions of therapists/help groups for people who have had failed marriages going about it 'the normal' way.
I know people who have had arranged marriages and are very content and happy. Just as I know those who arent.
I understand that maybe she did not love her husband.....but to disrespect him/the father of her children like that.....is nothing worthy of a heroine.
Sure divorce is difficult...against religion...etc etc....but im pretty sure adultry is too? unless of course...we can pick and choose which bits we want to abide by and which bits we would rather overlook?
Overall.....I did not like the main character......I found her selfish and I can never understand a woman who doesnt put her children and family first.