Why do American's call wedding invitations 'save-the-dates'? Is this just the term used for wedding invitations or is it for all invitations? Random question I know but had to ask. Save-the-date is so much more of a mouthful than invitation.
Hmmmm puzzler. Bit of a puzzle.
A "save the date" is different than an invitation. People send them out as soon as they know when the wedding will be just to make sure guests keep that date free. Invitations are sent out much closer to the actual wedding date.
shareAh I see. That's cool. Thanks for that :)
Hmmmm puzzler. Bit of a puzzle.
Yea the above replier is right. Save-the-date isn't actually a invitation. Most of the time, its a magnet and people use it as a chance to use there engagement photos. It usually just says there names and the date to make sure your guests keep that date open. The formal invitation comes out later with when, where, time, etc.
shareWhat a nice idea! Wonder why we (Brits) don't do this?!
Hmmmm puzzler. Bit of a puzzle.
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"Just another waste for the father of the bride or the husband to spend money on just to make little miss getting married feel special on "her day""
Because women never spend any of their own money on the wedding.
Of course not! In fact, statistics are wrong when they show that the majority of people nowadays pay for their own weddings (like my husband & I did...).
Save the Dates aren't necessary a lot of the time (in this movie? Not so necessary, aside from trying to poke fun at the idea), but they definitely can be. We sent out Save the Dates about 6 months before we got married, mostly because we got married on a Friday and 75% of our guests were my husband's family who had to travel 6-7 hours to come.
i think it's tacky and materialistic, making sure everyone can be at the wedding just so the greedy bride and groom can get their "gifts". again, pretentious.
Swing away, Merrill....Merrill, swing away...share
That is such a mean spirited reply! What happened to sharing the joy of this momentous occasion?
OK, a first I was confused by the concept but then I realized that I have gotten a "save the date" before, they just have all been verbal not formal ones. I think sending out cards is a little excessive, but all of the weddings I have been to have consisted of family and close, long term friends so passing the word about the date on personally wouldn't have been a big deal. For a larger wedding I suppose they would make sense.
Letting people know ahead of time when you plan to get married if they are invited is not tacky, it's considerate. If you are going to invite them, you want them to come so you are making it easier for them to plan around the wedding.
Now weddings can end up tacky, materialistic events that are more about the bride and groom raking in the swag than their marriage, but I don't think save the dates have anything to do with it. You do realize you are supposed to send a gift if you are not planning on attending the wedding right? Asking people to save the date is not tacky, inviting every person you have ever come in contact with so that you can get lots of stuff/show off your amazing wedding is tacky.
Save-the-date has nothing to do with gifts. Did you ever stop to think that maybe it just has to do with the bride and groom wanting people to be at their wedding?
shareThey are a relatively new idea. I got married in 2010 and they were big, but my brother got married in 2000 and they weren't very common then. Maybe they'll catch on in Europe :)
To those saying they are tacky, how is being considerate of your guests tacky? Most wedding invitations go out 6 weeks prior to the wedding. Wouldn't it be nice to know further in advance so you can arrange for travel if need be, take off work, find babysitters etc? Sure word of mouth can work, but we had large families and invited 260 people to our wedding. Word of mouth wouldn't have reached everyone, the date would have gotten mixed up along the way and we would have spent 6 months answering questions as to when the wedding was, rather than just send out cards once and be done.
Also, they don't have to be expensive. Our Save the dates were the free business cards on vistaprint, and I cut up fridge magnets (the printed side was glued to the back of the card so you couldn't tell they were fridge magnets) to stick on the back, so the only cost involved was the couple bucks shipping when I ordered them, and the postage to mail them out.
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I sent out save-the-date cards mostly because my husband were getting married at a very busy time of the year, when a lot of other couples (i.e. our best man and his bride) were planning weddings also. We didn't send very many out, and they were hand-made by his mom, because she's excellent at crafty stuff, and wanted to help. It was a nice reminder that there would be a wedding coming soon, or in our instance a year away. I still have one that I saved for my own personal momentos. They are a nice idea in some cases.
sharehahha not just americans.
My *beep* friend of 18 yrs rang me up and said we are sending out our "save the dates" soon so make sure you reply. Then she said your not my maid of honour cos havent seen you much and be to upsetting for you (I just got through an 8yr relationship fail after he cheated)
She then had an 18yr old kid who was her house tennant do it instead and had the nerve to tell me I was jealous when I was a tad upset by her not having me.
Ps she only knew her fiance four months.
Ive received them before (UK) they're definitely not American
but there is usually a reason i.e the venue or details have not been finalised so they are sent out when the couple are not in a position to send out the proper invites